# My Brother Andy was found dead tonight. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2015, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789 "2015-12-31T02:12:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![ryobserver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b2d939/32.png) [@ryobserver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ryobserver)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/61 "2016-01-01T14:04:59Z")
Very sorry about your loss ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/62 "2016-01-01T15:59:02Z")
**Bosda** - I’m sorry for your loss, and the suddenness. Along with missred, I’m here if you need anything. StG ---
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/63 "2016-01-01T19:12:19Z")
I hope you find comfort in memories of your brother and in the kindness of those who have loved you both. The nights are long now, but there will be more light and warmth soon. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/64 "2016-01-01T21:58:31Z")
We’re not gonna find out anything for awhile. Might be weeks. we don’t even know if he had a will. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/65 "2016-01-01T22:01:59Z")
What horrible news. My condolences to you and your family. Please be kind to yourselves in this time of grief. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/66 "2016-01-01T22:03:42Z")
Condolences, **Bosda**. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2016, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/67 "2016-01-01T23:49:08Z")
My Sister has made the arrangements. The cremation will be done through the same funeral home that did that for Mom & Dad. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2016, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/68 "2016-01-02T19:57:44Z")
Only thing I can do is carry-on, & try to live my life as normally as possible. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2016, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/69 "2016-01-03T00:38:48Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![MoodIndigo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2016, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/70 "2016-01-03T00:57:16Z")
**Bosda** , I’m so sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family. Remember to take good care of yourself, these days can take it out of you. ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2016, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/71 "2016-01-03T06:27:16Z")
So sorry to hear. Condolences. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2016, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/72 "2016-01-03T21:33:32Z")
Condolences to you and your family, my dear. I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2016, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/73 "2016-01-04T04:19:14Z")
My condolences on your loss. ---
**Author:** ![fervour](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@fervour](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fervour)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2016, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/74 "2016-01-04T05:41:28Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. You clearly had issues as you had not spoken to each other in two years. No one should have to have their issues resolved in such a way. It is unfair to you. I’m sorry about that. Can you take solace in that he may have regretted not speaking with you? —that’s a rhetorical question—and in no way requires a response. ---
**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2016, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/75 "2016-01-04T07:14:57Z")
Very sorry to hear that. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2016, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/76 "2016-01-04T11:00:42Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, and I hope you get some news soon ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/77 "2016-01-08T00:59:40Z")
The autopsy is finished, except for the lab tests. No cause has been announced. Early February, for the funeral. His ashes will be scattered, afterward. ---
**Author:** ![Dajn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c2a13f/32.png) [@Dajn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dajn)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/78 "2016-01-08T01:46:35Z")
Good thing you didn’t actually have a relationship with your brother. I couldn’t imagine losing my brother. My brother and I are extremely close. It must be easier in your situation but still difficult. Goodluck sir. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/79 "2016-01-08T03:23:12Z")
> [@Dajn](#): > > Good thing you didn’t actually have a relationship with your brother. I couldn’t imagine losing my brother. My brother and I are extremely close. It must be easier in your situation but still difficult. Goodluck sir. There’s [this thing](http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/tact) all the kids are getting in to these days that I think you could really benefit from. You should look it up. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/80 "2016-01-08T15:01:49Z")
**Bosda** , I somehow missed this over the past few weeks. I’m so sorry for your loss, and sorry that everything has been so protracted, and that your relationship was strained or difficult. I’ve had losses myself that were not the typical sappy “close” relationships, and for some reason the more distant or strained the relationship, the harder it was to process and get through the aftermath. Wishing you good thoughts and healing days, and supportive friends and family in whatever way best suits you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789.md?page=5)