# My Brother Andy was found dead tonight. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2015, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789 "2015-12-31T02:12:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/81 "2016-01-08T17:25:49Z")
_HUGS_ to you & prayers for your comfort… I hope you find some closure soon ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/82 "2016-01-08T19:55:50Z")
> [@Dajn](#): > > Good thing you didn’t actually have a relationship with your brother. I couldn’t imagine losing my brother. My brother and I are extremely close. It must be easier in your situation but still difficult. Goodluck sir. I’m not sure if you are threadshitting or just tone deaf. Either way I agree with the need for some tact. You are new here so I suggest you look over the rules and registration agreement including the number one rule, don’t be a jerk. No warning issued. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2016, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/83 "2016-01-08T20:36:20Z")
I missed this the first few bumps - I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/84 "2016-01-10T14:00:10Z")
Really sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/85 "2016-01-24T20:53:00Z")
No news on the cause. My sister & her friends have arranged a memorial in a hotel, locally. My brother was not religious. But yes, a hotel seems odd. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/86 "2016-01-24T21:27:08Z")
Sorry for your loss, Bosda. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2016, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/87 "2016-02-07T22:37:49Z")
Yesterday, we had the memorial. It was organized by my brother’s friends from the various science fiction conventions he attended, & his pub-crawling pals. We got up in turn, and told stories about Andy. I spoke of his early childhood, and his introduction to fandom. Andy died of a heart attack, after a lifetime of heavy smoking. He was 46. Goodbye, Baby Brother. I loved you, and will miss you until I die. I had to stop, to cry for about 5 minutes. I can go on, now. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2016, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/88 "2016-02-07T23:03:41Z")
I haven’t lost a sibling yet, I’m the oldest though. I’m sorry for your loss. The memorial sounds like it was interesting. I don’t blame you for stopping to cry, that stuff can be overwhelming. Keep bending our ears here as needed, talking can help. Take care of yourself too. ---
**Author:** ![Calla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Calla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calla)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2016, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/89 "2016-02-07T23:16:59Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![jerry\_smissingfinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e56c9b/32.png) [@jerry\_smissingfinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jerry_smissingfinger)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2016, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/90 "2016-02-08T00:39:56Z")
:vibes ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2016, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/91 "2016-02-08T01:41:04Z")
It sounds like a memorial he might have enjoyed. I hope it brought you and others solace. Thinking good thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789/92 "2016-02-08T02:04:30Z")
What do we say? It’s incomprehensible. Sorry, bro. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-andy-was-found-dead-tonight/741789.md?page=4)