# My Brother Is Getting Divorced For The 8th Time **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 21, 2005, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963 "2005-08-21T09:02:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![DMark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@DMark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMark)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/1 "2005-08-21T09:02:43Z")
Yes. Eight times he has been married. He just sent me an email that after five years, he is getting yet another divorce. I am Gay. I have been with my SO for 25 years this coming February and we are planning a trip to Hawaii to celebrate it. Ask me again about how Gay marriage would ruin the sanctity of heterosexual marriage. ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/2 "2005-08-21T09:07:00Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > Ask me again about how Gay marriage would ruin the sanctity of heterosexual marriage. I don’t think it will. I think heterosexuals will ruin the sanctity of marriage all by themselves. Happy 25th. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Jillyvn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecb155/32.png) [@Jillyvn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jillyvn)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 9:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/3 "2005-08-21T09:22:55Z")
Of the gay couples I’ve known, most of the truly commited would do a better job of marriage than every single hetero couple I’ve known, because those who’ve considered it have also known the obstacles they face to get there. There is something beautiful about that level of commitment. Happy 25th! ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/4 "2005-08-21T09:25:11Z")
I’ll bet god blessed every one of his (and Mickey Rooney’s) marriages. But YOU? You promiscuous gay guy? You’re just shacking up! Congrats on your long haul o’ happiness! ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/5 "2005-08-21T10:57:38Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > My Brother Is Getting Divorced For The 8th Time Well hell. Ya trade yer car in every few years… ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/6 "2005-08-21T11:32:50Z")
Gotta know – of the eight, was five years a personal best? Congrats to you and Mr. DM! ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 11:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/7 "2005-08-21T11:41:52Z")
I’d love to see equality between gay and straight people. The first part would be banning heterosexual marriage. Would solve a lot of problems, I reckon. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/8 "2005-08-21T11:56:18Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > Ask me again about how Gay marriage would ruin the sanctity of heterosexual marriage. It looks like your brother is helping to ruin it all on his own, along with a lot of (not all, of course, Mr and Mrs Paul Newman) the Hollywood crowd. Congrats on your anniversary! Have a great time in Hawaii. Does your brother have any children? If so, I feel sorry for them. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/9 "2005-08-21T13:13:56Z")
8th? Damn. Happy 25! ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/10 "2005-08-21T14:30:04Z")
My BIL is on his 4th relationship. He’s been married 3 times and this is his 4th relationship but they’re only living together so far. Each marriage lasts about 10 years so by the time this one tanks, he’ll be ready to retire. :rolleyes: Bless you and congrats on your 25th! ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/11 "2005-08-21T14:47:52Z")
> [@Ruby](#): > > Each marriage lasts about 10 years so by the time this one tanks, he’ll be ready to retire. :rolleyes: Retire from work, or from relationships? **DMark** , I’m wondering what, if any, explanation your brother gives for his repeat marriages and divorces. Does he see 8 as a surprising number? Congrats on the longeivity of your union! ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/12 "2005-08-21T15:51:06Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > Ask me again about how Gay marriage would ruin the sanctity of heterosexual marriage. Um… gimmee a second… wait… Ok, how’s this? Your success in a gay relationship just shines the spotlight all the brighter on your brother’s failures, causing further erosion in public confidence about heterosexual marriage? Eh, I guess that doesn’t really hang together logically, does it? Nope, I got nothing. Sorry. Congrats on your long and successful relationship! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Annie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/858c86/32.png) [@Annie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/13 "2005-08-21T16:02:03Z")
[Come to the Light Side…](http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/index.html)😉 ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/14 "2005-08-21T16:05:35Z")
Congratulations on your 25th, **DMark**! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/15 "2005-08-21T16:23:54Z")
See? This proves the insideousness of the Gay Movement. They will stay in a committed relationship until they die, just to try to make the Straights look bad! Buncha commies. Wow. A Silver Anniversary. So what are you planning to get your SO for a present? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![rfgdxm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c0e974/32.png) [@rfgdxm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rfgdxm)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/16 "2005-08-21T17:08:25Z")
> [@ParentalAdvisory](#): > > I don’t think it will. I think heterosexuals will ruin the sanctity of marriage all by themselves. Happy 25th. 🙂 Us heterosexuals did that long ago. ---
**Author:** ![Mops](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mops/32/16494_2.png) [@Mops](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mops)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/17 "2005-08-21T17:10:27Z")
As a matter of idle curiosity, were the 8 marriages to 8 different ladies? ---
**Author:** ![BoringDad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ad7895/32.png) [@BoringDad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoringDad)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/18 "2005-08-21T17:44:31Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > Yes. Eight times he has been married. He just sent me an email that after five years, he is getting yet another divorce. > > I am Gay. I have been with my SO for 25 years this coming February and we are planning a trip to Hawaii to celebrate it. > > Ask me again about how Gay marriage would ruin the sanctity of heterosexual marriage. Well geez, that’s easy. If people see many successful committed gay marriages, straight men will start to think “Hey, I don’t understand women. Maybe I should just marry a guy. After all, my neighbor Fred is kind of cute. And he treats me better than my wife.” And then BAM! Western civilization collapses as two straight men both decide to go gay at the same time and no one can figure out which of them gets the toaster for converting the other. Congratulations on 25 years! ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/19 "2005-08-21T18:20:28Z")
Congratulations!!! I have one question, though. I can see marrying a guy who’d been married once before, or maybe even twice. If he’s got more than 3 ex- or late wives, I’m going to start getting suspicious. What were wives 4 through 8 thinking? Something tells me your brother ain’t exactly a “til death do us part” kind of guy! 😉 CJ ---
**Author:** ![lel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8797f3/32.png) [@lel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lel)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2005, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963/20 "2005-08-21T18:37:18Z")
> [@Siege](#): > > Congratulations!!! > > I have one question, though. I can see marrying a guy who’d been married once before, or maybe even twice. If he’s got more than 3 ex- or late wives, I’m going to start getting suspicious. What were wives 4 through 8 thinking? Something tells me your brother ain’t exactly a “til death do us part” kind of guy! 😉 > > CJ Maybe 4-8 were divorce lawyers. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-is-getting-divorced-for-the-8th-time/317963.md?page=2)