# My brother killed himself **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 6, 2011, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009 "2011-07-06T08:01:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![erleichda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4da419/32.png) [@erleichda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erleichda)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/1 "2011-07-06T08:01:31Z")
It happened yesterday or today, I’m not sure when, how or exactly where. It’s too late to call anyone, but I can’t sleep yet. Sent from my LS670 using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![jeredc1983](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ed8c4c/32.png) [@jeredc1983](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jeredc1983)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/2 "2011-07-06T08:05:51Z")
I’m not a religious man but I said a prayer for you, your brother, and your family. So sorry to hear of your loss ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 10:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/3 "2011-07-06T10:30:57Z")
I’m so sorry. When will you learn more? Are there other family members you can speak to? ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/4 "2011-07-06T11:19:08Z")
I’m very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/5 "2011-07-06T11:35:38Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/6 "2011-07-06T11:37:52Z")
Oh man…that’s terrible. I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/7 "2011-07-06T11:44:47Z")
I’m so sorry for you and your family ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/8 "2011-07-06T12:27:45Z")
I’m so sorry to hear that. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/9 "2011-07-06T12:30:40Z")
I’m so sorry to hear that. Don’t blame yourself for anything that happened, and be as gentle with yourself as you can as you go through the emotional shitstorm that’s about to hit you. Consider seeing a therapist to help you sort stuff out, because most of your friends are going to have no freaking idea what to say. twicks, who still remembers clearly the pain and confusion of her best friend’s suicide 25 years ago ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/10 "2011-07-06T12:32:11Z")
Oh, hon ☹ I am SO so so sorry ☹ (((erleichda))) ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/11 "2011-07-06T12:36:20Z")
I’m sorry - that’s horrible. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/12 "2011-07-06T12:39:54Z")
That is so awful. He must have been in so much pain. I hope that you can get through your own pain and mourning and any other feelings that arise for you. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/13 "2011-07-06T12:42:05Z")
2 years ago, my brother did the same. There is no way to understand suicide, as much as our brains need to try and keep mulling things over, trying, trying to find an answer. There is no answer. “Whatever suffering brought him to this decision, he suffers no more.” This sentence, can’t remember which book I took it from, helped get me through. My mind would search and search to make sense of something that makes no sense. But I kept bringing myself back to this and it kind of helped. You have my very deepest sympathies. We’re right here if you need to talk! ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/14 "2011-07-06T13:18:28Z")
I’m very, very sorry at this sad news. ---
**Author:** ![tnetennba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tnetennba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tnetennba)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/15 "2011-07-06T13:20:57Z")
So sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![koeeoaddi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/koeeoaddi/32/408_2.png) [@koeeoaddi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koeeoaddi)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/16 "2011-07-06T13:22:39Z")
Terrible news. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Chicken\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Chicken\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicken_Fingers)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/17 "2011-07-06T14:15:06Z")
I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/18 "2011-07-06T14:18:34Z")
I am so very sorry. What devistating news. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/19 "2011-07-06T14:35:59Z")
Oh, man, another one touched by suicide. ☹ I’m sorry for your pain, and your late brother’s as well. A bunch of random Internet strangers are pulling for you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009/20 "2011-07-06T14:41:20Z")
{{{erleichda}}} So sorry to hear it. Please let us know how you are doing, we’ll be thinking about you. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-killed-himself/588009.md?page=2)