# My brother passed on last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 5, 2003, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165 "2003-05-05T13:04:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![slice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@slice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slice)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/21 "2003-05-05T14:30:11Z")
**Shirley** , that’s just hearbreaking. Take care of yourself. We’re all thinking about you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/22 "2003-05-05T14:33:32Z")
{{{{Shirley and Mom}}}} ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/23 "2003-05-05T14:34:15Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family **Shirley**. ---
**Author:** ![Tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tomcat)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/24 "2003-05-05T14:59:21Z")
So sorry, please take care. -Tcat ---
**Author:** ![green\_bladder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/73ab20/32.png) [@green\_bladder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_bladder)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/25 "2003-05-05T15:00:45Z")
I’m so terribly sorry. Take care of yourself and your mom, we’ll be praying for you. ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/26 "2003-05-05T15:01:37Z")
My deepest sympathies to you and your family, **Shirley**. I watched my mother die of ALS and know some of what you’ve faced, but by no means on such a scale as you and your family are dealing with. I can imagine your anger and sorrow at the situation. Prayers for you and your Mom for some kind of peace, understanding and strength in coping with all of this. And prayers for your remaining brother, as well. ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/27 "2003-05-05T15:09:51Z")
Peace and healing be upon you, Shirley. I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/28 "2003-05-05T15:11:38Z")
**Shirley** , I’m keeping you and your mother in my thoughts. Be strong for her, even if it is a lot to ask of you right now. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![fessie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c37758/32.png) [@fessie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fessie)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/29 "2003-05-05T15:29:00Z")
My condolences to you and your family, **Shirley**. Thank you for sharing, you’ve touched my heart. Life certainly is not fair. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/30 "2003-05-05T15:36:26Z")
Hang in there. You and your mother and brother are in my prayers. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/31 "2003-05-05T15:44:22Z")
My thoughts are with you and your family. May he rest in peace. ---
**Author:** ![Gazelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Gazelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gazelle)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/32 "2003-05-05T15:45:28Z")
Oh **Shirley** , I’m so sorry. You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers. Love and deepest condolences. Gazelle ---
**Author:** ![lovelyluka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f475e1/32.png) [@lovelyluka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lovelyluka)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/33 "2003-05-05T16:04:51Z")
I’m so terribly sorry to hear of your loss and even more sorry to hear of the long suffering that your family has had to endure. I do want to assure you that a feeling of relief, for both your family and for your brother, is _absolutely_ appropriate right now. I believe your brother is now both in the hands of a spectacular caretaker and with other family, so you have no need for remorse! I also want to tell you that, even though I’ve never met your or your mother, that I admire you greatly. To be able to weather the hardest storm and come out a stronger (and yet still classy) person is most admirable; we should all be of such resilient character. I’ll be praying for you, your mother, and your brother, and (if you’ll let me) be rejoicing that your brothers and father are together again - Take care. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/34 "2003-05-05T16:06:27Z")
My deepest condolences, **Shirley** (which I know isn’t your real name, but I can’t remember what it actually is and somehow it feels weird to call you Shirley right now). I think about you and your brothers from time to time and have wondered how this brother was doing – I almost included you in my most recent request for updates thread, but I was reluctant to dredge up something so potentially painful for you. I’m always amazed at your strength, resilience, sense of humor and zest for life in spite of the incredible burden I know must weigh on your heart much of the time. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you and your family. May you continue to find strength, comfort and joy in your life. And tell your mother I’ll be cooking up a nice fat cow in her honor! Rest in eternal peace, **Tom**. ---
**Author:** ![koeeoaddi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/koeeoaddi/32/408_2.png) [@koeeoaddi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koeeoaddi)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/35 "2003-05-05T16:12:02Z")
**Shirley** I am so terribly sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/36 "2003-05-05T16:29:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shirley Ujest \* > **He never married. Had no children. Had no friend** ☹ ☹ ☹ I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Kwyjibo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/59ef9b/32.png) [@Kwyjibo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kwyjibo)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/37 "2003-05-05T16:32:45Z")
☹ I’m so sorry Shirley. My thought go out to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Gr8Kat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gr8kat/32/18668_2.png) [@Gr8Kat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gr8Kat)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/38 "2003-05-05T16:51:28Z")
{{{{{Shirley}}}}} I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/39 "2003-05-05T18:26:53Z")
So sorry to hear this. Many hugs and best wishes being sent to you and your family. Peace be with you all. Washte ---
**Author:** ![\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/7cd45c/32.png) [@\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Deep_F_ied)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165/40 "2003-05-05T18:42:48Z")
My thoughts are with you and yours in this time of grief, **Shirley**. When things get to be too much and when your thoughts turn dark and bitter just close your eyes and imagine all of our arms wrapped around you in loving embrace and know that we are there for you, if only in spirit. {{Shirley}} [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-passed-on-last-night/173165.md?page=3)