# My brother Tim just died. Hugs welcomed. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 24, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483 "2002-07-24T00:46:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![WV\_Woman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@WV\_Woman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WV_Woman)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/21 "2002-07-24T04:03:03Z")
I’m so sorry ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Jurhael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/cab0a1/32.png) [@Jurhael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jurhael)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/22 "2002-07-24T04:11:38Z")
_hugs_ ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Calliope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Calliope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calliope)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/23 "2002-07-24T04:17:58Z")
Wow. I am so sorry. Consider yourself hugged. ---
**Author:** ![jacksen9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce73a5/32.png) [@jacksen9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jacksen9)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/24 "2002-07-24T04:19:17Z")
I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![JohnM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/848f3c/32.png) [@JohnM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnM)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/25 "2002-07-24T04:32:14Z")
I lost my brother on last U.S. Thanksgiving day, after about a year of watching him succumb to cancer. My deepest sympathies for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/26 "2002-07-24T04:44:10Z")
{{{Hugs}}} from me and Spiny Norman, too. ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/27 "2002-07-24T05:03:17Z")
There are no words. I hope you find peace, but in the meantime, feel free to vent, cry, rage or do whatever you have to. {{{TPWombat}}} ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/28 "2002-07-24T05:32:39Z")
☹ I’m very sorry to hear that. Please take care of yourself! ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/29 "2002-07-24T05:35:50Z")
{{{MEGA HUG}}} ---
**Author:** ![Treviathan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/838e76/32.png) [@Treviathan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Treviathan)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/30 "2002-07-24T05:37:58Z")
I’m sorry. Good luck with dealing with whatever comes up - that’s really all there is to say. ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/31 "2002-07-24T06:05:59Z")
You and your family have my sympathies and will be in my thoughts and prayers. Also, my email address is in my profile, if you need someone to vent to. I know I’m a stranger, but I’ll listen. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/32 "2002-07-24T06:28:37Z")
{{{{{ **TPWombat** }}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Nader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Darth\_Nader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Nader)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/33 "2002-07-24T06:31:00Z")
Be good, take care of yourself, and argh. … ---
**Author:** ![Tsubaki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d07c76/32.png) [@Tsubaki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tsubaki)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/34 "2002-07-24T07:12:12Z")
There’s nothing I can do for you from here but hold you in my thoughts. My condolences. {{{{ **TPW** }}}} ---
**Author:** ![TPWombat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbce88/32.png) [@TPWombat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TPWombat)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/35 "2002-07-24T07:18:08Z")
Posted just before I crashed. Just got up and there’s 30 replies here. Thank you all so much. People die all the time. I’m in unashamedly selfish mode right now tho. Thank you for reading this, thanks for being there. Thanks for the kind offers of a shoulder to cry/vent on. You guys just fucking rock 🙂 The children and Helen his ex-wife have a wonderful circle of people to help and support. I’m going to take them to La Tosca when I can. It’s a local Tapas restaurant that he used to take them to. Heh. The waiters always look on in bemusement as they ignore the hamburger menu and eat their way thru huge quantities of olive and squid. Then maybe we’ll see Spiderman. And they’ll eat their way thru a metric tonne of hot dogs and popcorn. 🙂 Oh bugger. Thanks, guys. I don’t know how to get in touch with his Spanish ex-girlfriend, Mena. If anyone knows how I can crack into his AOL account I would really appreciate an email. **Do not post such info on this board, please**. Metaphysical bit : I know he’s not dead. He’s just not in that particular body any more. I shed no tears for him, he has no need of them. They’re for me and his loved ones. I feel no anger or resentment about this. In a weird way that’s kind of a piss-off. What do you do when you know it’s ok but it’s fucking not ok??? This cracks me up, and I’ll be saying it at the funeral : Nothing’s forgetten. Nothing’s ever forgotten. Not **Ever**. The smallest thing. The crook of an eyebrow. The way they said “Oh, bugger”. Fuck. It’s beautiful, it’s all ok, and it sucks. Thank you all for being there. ---
**Author:** ![JavaMaven1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/cab0a1/32.png) [@JavaMaven1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JavaMaven1)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/36 "2002-07-24T07:36:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TPWombat \* > \*\* I’m in unashamedly selfish mode right now tho. \*\* And rightfully so. I’m so sorry. ☹ My condolences to you and the rest of your family. ---
**Author:** ![TPWombat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbce88/32.png) [@TPWombat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TPWombat)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/37 "2002-07-24T07:39:08Z")
BTW, **Why didn’t I know???** I hear stories all the time about how someone had a feeling or a tingle or whatever when someone they loved was in trouble. I didn’t feel a fucking thing. Nothing. I had no idea. Even rushing to the hospital tho I was crying him really leaving the planet was not a real option. Anything you want to share on this point would be welcome, regardless of religious orientation. No reply necessary on this one, figure it’s unanswerable. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/38 "2002-07-24T08:05:55Z")
**TPWombat** , you sound like the best brother Tim could ever have wished for. I wish you and your family lots of strength. Take care, man. [sub]33?? _“Life’s good, but not fair at all”_ - Lou Reed[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Crusoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/49beb7/32.png) [@Crusoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crusoe)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/39 "2002-07-24T08:13:22Z")
I hope you and your family find the strength to get through this. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![BooBoo316](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e0b2c6/32.png) [@BooBoo316](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BooBoo316)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 9:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/40 "2002-07-24T09:48:24Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. Sending my condolences and best wishes to you and your family as you struggle through this difficult time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483.md?page=3)