# My brother Tim just died. Hugs welcomed. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 24, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483 "2002-07-24T00:46:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 9:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/41 "2002-07-24T09:58:06Z")
Just one more set of condolences. Some things we cannot know, and I don’t know why either. Remember all that made him special. CJ ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/42 "2002-07-24T10:09:07Z")
Mate, that is so awful. There’s nothing to say. I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Steve\_Wright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@Steve\_Wright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steve_Wright)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/43 "2002-07-24T10:41:28Z")
{{{TPWombat}}} ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/44 "2002-07-24T10:56:44Z")
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Nortia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Nortia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nortia)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 10:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/45 "2002-07-24T10:58:15Z")
{{ **TPWombat** }} So sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/46 "2002-07-24T12:34:55Z")
{{{TPWombat}}} ---
**Author:** ![Venoma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/c4cdca/32.png) [@Venoma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Venoma)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/47 "2002-07-24T12:48:04Z")
Lost my Dad back in February… and it just as much of a shock. I felt the same way you do back then. I cry a lot more now than I did at the time. What a fucking waste of a good person. {{TPWombat}} ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/48 "2002-07-24T12:53:53Z")
Hugs to you. Sounds like you guys had a great relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/49 "2002-07-24T14:08:44Z")
TP, I’m so, so, so sorry. Sending you hugs… ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/50 "2002-07-24T14:47:27Z")
**TPWombat** you have my sympathies. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I lost my younger brother in January of this year so I have a sense of the pain and loss you feel right now. It sounds like Tim is a great brother as was (is) my brother, Gary. Hugs to you and your family ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/51 "2002-07-24T14:59:04Z")
You two were damn good for each other. I’m very sorry about your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Tiburon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e36b37/32.png) [@Tiburon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiburon)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/52 "2002-07-24T15:57:36Z")
My best to your and yours at this time. You could not have known; don’t beat yourself up, k? We’re all here for you. Tibs. p.s. From Zorba the Greek by Kazanzakis: “It all depends on the way you look at it. Look, one day I had gone to a little village. An old grandfather of ninety was busy planting an almond tree. ‘What, grandad!’ I exclaimed. ‘Planting an almond tree?’ and he, bent as he was, turned round and said, ‘My son, I carry on as if I should never die.’ I replied, ‘And I carry on as if I was going to die any minute.’ Which of us was right, boss?” - Zorba ---
**Author:** ![Hemlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Hemlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hemlock)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/53 "2002-07-24T16:03:16Z")
I lost a relative recently. Great guy. He was 85. But 33? With 3 young kids? No-one said life was going to be fair. Those kids will need you. Someone once said something along the lines of “dying is alright, so long as you _lived_”. And from what you say, it sounds like Tim did that. Strength. ---
**Author:** ![Necris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e47c2d/32.png) [@Necris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Necris)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/54 "2002-07-24T16:11:38Z")
TPWombat I really cried after reading your post. My friends sister died in the house in front of hours yesterday…she was engaged and just about to get married…so psyched about preparations for her marriage and then all of a sudden…she dies in an accident. Life is so damn fucking unpredictable…and its so damn screwed up when it happens to a loved one. _hug_ ---
**Author:** ![TelcontarStorm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3ab097/32.png) [@TelcontarStorm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TelcontarStorm)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/55 "2002-07-24T16:21:02Z")
{{{BIG OL’ HUG}}} Man if I had words that didn’t sound so damn cheesy I’d say them, but there isn’t much to say that you havn’t either heard a dozen times or just shows my ignorance. When my Pops died I had not spoken to him in nearly 3 months. I’m glad to hear that your last comunication with Tim was on a positive note. The last convo I had with Pops was an argument to beat the band. I can’t help thinking that he went hating me. Time passes, pain eases. You just be sure to be there to tell Tim’s babies what kind of a person thier Father was, and be all to them Tim can never be. Yaway’s blessings to you and yours, as well as all who have posted and sent thier regards. It’s times like these that I can believe the best of the Human Race. We Dopers ROCK! ---
**Author:** ![Jorel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f19dbf/32.png) [@Jorel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jorel)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/56 "2002-07-24T18:42:46Z")
☹ ((((Wombat)))) I lost my brother too. I wish there was something I could do/say for you…but I know there isn’t. Take care of yourself. I know I’m a stranger too…but: [DucktheFogers@yahoo.com](mailto:DucktheFogers@yahoo.com) ---
**Author:** ![Pepsigirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/278dde/32.png) [@Pepsigirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pepsigirl)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/57 "2002-07-24T23:01:46Z")
{{{{TPWOMBAT}}}} My thoughts are with you and your brother’s kids. Sounds like they have a great Uncle that will help them with the loss of their Dad. ---
**Author:** ![Flamsterette\_X](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/41988e/32.png) [@Flamsterette\_X](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flamsterette_X)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2002, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/58 "2002-07-24T23:35:51Z")
**{{{{TPWombat}}}}** There are no words for what I am feeling right now. ☹ My heart goes out to you and your family, especially to Tim’s children. What a waste of a good person. F\_X ---
**Author:** ![Anonymous\_Coward](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/94ad74/32.png) [@Anonymous\_Coward](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anonymous_Coward)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/59 "2002-07-25T00:00:45Z")
I feel your pain Wombat. I too lost my older brother to an asthma attack, when he was 21 and I was 18. I never got to know him like you knew your brother. I never really talked with him as two adults, and never got the chance to know the real him. I miss him still. shit, now i’m crying too… take care of yourself Wombat. You and your family will be in my thoughts for a long time. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/60 "2002-07-25T03:57:32Z")
{{{{{{{{{{{TPWombat}}}}}}}}}}}} This may be an inappropriate thing to say. If it is, go ahead and slap me. But the way you led up to it, I thought it was going to be a suicide. I know it doesn’t change what happened, but I am glad for your and your family’s sake that it wasn’t that. Again, {{{{{{{{{{{{TPWombat}}}}}}}}}}}}}} [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483.md?page=4)