# My brother Tim just died. Hugs welcomed. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 24, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483 "2002-07-24T00:46:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Intaglio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/71e660/32.png) [@Intaglio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intaglio)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/61 "2002-07-25T04:50:18Z")
So sad. May God rest him, and may you, and eveyone who knew your brother, be well. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![TPWombat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbce88/32.png) [@TPWombat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TPWombat)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/62 "2002-07-25T07:18:47Z")
Damn, my first 2 page thread ☹ {{{Necris}}} {{{Telconstarstorm}}} {{{Anonymous Coward}}} I have to scoot out now so I’ll check back later today or tomorrow and hug/thank everyone else properly but these jumped out at me. Thank you so much for sharing that, guys. I probably missed some, I’ll catch up later, promise. Oh, and **Coldie** , you made me cry again. Thanks, man. ---
**Author:** ![stolatt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@stolatt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stolatt)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/63 "2002-07-25T09:37:19Z")
Sending prayers and hugs your way. I think it’s great that you and your brother were so close. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 9:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/64 "2002-07-25T09:50:11Z")
My sincere condolences, **TPWombat**. ---
**Author:** ![Embra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@Embra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Embra)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/65 "2002-07-25T11:39:06Z")
When I get off the train to go home tonight, **TPWombat** , I’ll make sure that the good thoughts and hugs stay on all the way down the line to Portsmouth & Southsea. Embra ---
**Author:** ![TelcontarStorm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3ab097/32.png) [@TelcontarStorm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TelcontarStorm)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2002, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/66 "2002-07-26T00:27:39Z")
Damn \*\* TPWombat\*\* , Man now ya got me all choked up. Thanks for being so human. ---
**Author:** ![Jules4love](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@Jules4love](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jules4love)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2002, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/67 "2002-07-26T00:31:56Z")
{{{TPWombat}}} a big phat strong Hug for you … I lost my brother Kevin 9 years ago he fell of a cliff and he was only 21 years old… its amazing how god doesn’t close 1 door without opening another. I was pregnant 6 months after Kevin passed and I now have a son named Kevin!!! I know it hurts…and yes you can feel selfish when you mourn I still mourn everyday!..it is okay…they are in a better place and we all will meet again. time heals ALL and there isn’t one day that doesn’t go by that my Kevin isn’t here with me! Tim is all around you! it’s all about love and life ! be kind and take care of yourself! remember “time heals all” 😃🙂 ---
**Author:** ![TPWombat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbce88/32.png) [@TPWombat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TPWombat)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2002, 11:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483/68 "2002-07-28T11:23:57Z")
People, thanks **SO** much. Wanted to stand on a hill and scream at the universe but shit, I got **a lot** more help screaming in the Pit 🙂 I’m not going to find the time to thank each and every one of you and hug you back here in the thread; going to be busy for a few days but I’ll email everyone sooner or later. (Have to thank the person now who sent me an illegal utility from a spoofed or deleted email address. Cheers mate). You brilliant Dopers helped me over the most terrible thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I am back in the saddle now and dealing ok. We are a small family but we have some incredible friends. Including you guys. Hey you want to do something? Go hug someone you love RIGHT NOW. Dance naked in the rain with your lover, hell dance naked in the STREET with your lover. Gets my vote 😃 If you don’t tell someone that you love them today, you may not ever have another chance. So, what are you waiting for??? BTW, want to share burial details as I think they are very beautiful. As per my mother’s wishes, Tim’s body will be put into the ground in a “Natural Burial Site” on the [South Downs of England](http://www.earthworks-trust.com/index.html). He will be interred in a woven bamboo coffin, in an area of reclaimed woodland, that is being planted with proper variegated(?) tree and plant species appropriate to this area. Only natural fibers on his body. Absolutely no plastic or anything not biodegradable. Instructions are : no black, jeans and t-shirt fine, no wreaths and DO NOT come out of obligation or sympathy. Want to close with a quotation I found today, then I’m emailing a Mod to close the thread. No further posts please, if you want to talk or share then my addy is in my profile, contact me anytime. _**On my heart in beautiful calligraphy You’ve written words that only you and I can know. Their secret You promised to reveal one day but now I see You were only teasing.**_ _Rumi_ : Poem to his best friend, Shams. See ya’, Big-Nose 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-brother-tim-just-died-hugs-welcomed/120483.md?page=3)