# My dad died last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 21, 2002, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218 "2002-10-21T12:53:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Mona\_Lott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee7513/32.png) [@Mona\_Lott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mona_Lott)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/81 "2002-10-23T02:46:51Z")
FairyChatMom, I send to you and your family my deepest condolences. Only those who have lost a parent can truly know your pain. I am so glad to see that so many of my fellow Dopers have expressed their sympathy to my favorite person here on this board. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, my friend. ---
**Author:** ![Forbin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5e9695/32.png) [@Forbin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Forbin)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/82 "2002-10-23T02:52:44Z")
I am very sorry for you, and your loss. Hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![dono](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e0b2c6/32.png) [@dono](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dono)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/83 "2002-10-23T03:34:42Z")
Offering my sincere condolences. I can only imagine the pain. ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/84 "2002-10-23T07:45:06Z")
My prayers and thoughts to you and yours. May he hold you in the palm of his hand as you face this sad and painful time. ---
**Author:** ![Theobroma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5a626/32.png) [@Theobroma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Theobroma)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/85 "2002-10-23T11:55:41Z")
My condolences, too. Geez…you are one of my fave posters here. About that “calm before the storm” stuff? I lost my dad 2 years ago, same way as yours–sudden heart attack–and I was pretty messed up for a long time after. (For instance, my thyroid crapped out from the stress and never came back.) You are in the storm before the calm. By the time you can really feel it, the storm will be past and you will be more able to deal with it. The wise poster who suggested funny stories about your dad was right on the mark. My dad’s business partner had everybody cracking up through their tears at the funeral. Eventually you will think of your dad and feel fond memories, instead of just losing it. I’m still working on that one. I’m really sorry…just rely on your family and pull through. Your “doper family” is here for you too. ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/86 "2002-10-23T13:10:15Z")
So sorry for your loss. Cry, be angry, remember your dad, laugh - do all those things. Look after yourself. ---
**Author:** ![tritone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e7dd6/32.png) [@tritone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tritone)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/87 "2002-10-23T13:22:12Z")
**FCM** , I’m so sorry. Just try to hold on to all the good memories, and I’m sure you will have the strength to deal with this. I’ll be thinking of you over the weekend. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2002, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/88 "2002-10-23T21:37:45Z")
I just wanted to add my condolences, too. Take care {{{{Fairy Chat Mom and family}}}} CJ ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/89 "2002-10-24T00:55:19Z")
We’ve arrived safely in Baltimore - it was a long day of driving… My Mom is doing a lot of running around tomorrow, so I won’t get to see her till Friday. The hardest part is yet to come. There was a bit of good news tho - Mom found Dad’s wedding ring rolled up in some of his clothes. I know she’s glad to have it. I’m humbled by all the comments and messages that I’ve received from all of you. I can never express what it means to me. Thank you all so much! ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/90 "2002-10-24T01:18:22Z")
That’s because we love you, FCM. You know that. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![SoozieQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dfb087/32.png) [@SoozieQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoozieQ)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/91 "2002-10-24T02:04:54Z")
I wish to express my deepest sympathy. I’m praying for you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/92 "2002-10-24T05:57:34Z")
**FairyChatMom** My thoughts are with you and your family. I have been there with my mom and it’s a very difficult place to be. I wish you and your family some peace through the pain. Hugs to you. Liz ---
**Author:** ![poohpah\_chalupa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/91b2a8/32.png) [@poohpah\_chalupa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/poohpah_chalupa)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/93 "2002-10-24T15:33:02Z")
{{{{ **FairyChatMom & Family** }}}} All of our hearts and prayers are with you. Wishing you peace. ---
**Author:** ![Exgineer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a88e4f/32.png) [@Exgineer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exgineer)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2002, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/94 "2002-10-24T23:19:14Z")
I can’t believe I missed this thread for six days. **FairyChatMom** was the very first poster to be overly nice to me when I finally stopped lurking. **FairyChatMom** taught me how to be a good (or at least non-offensive) SDMB poster by example. **FairyChatMom** is an ENGINEER and a VETERAN OF THE UNITED STATES NAVY. 'Nuff said there, I think. **FairyChatMom** has lost one of the two things that are irreplaceable in life. **FairyChatMom** , if there’s anything a half-broke, stone-cold, rock-ribbed Yankee stuck in Albany can do for you, please let me know. I’ve tried to imagine what it would be like to lose my Mom or my Dad, and I can’t. I also don’t know your religious affiliation (if any), but I intend to pray for you and yours. I hope you won’t be offended. May God bless you and your family, and may he gather up your father and give him eternal peace. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2002, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/95 "2002-10-25T00:24:12Z")
{{{{{FCM and family}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2002, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/96 "2002-10-25T01:04:28Z")
Dad’s body was flown back to Baltimore this afternoon. I’ll be seeing my mom tomorrow. The visitations at the funeral home are Saturday and Sunday. The funeral is Monday morning. I’m not coping well. I’ll go along OK, then I’ll start crying. Something will trigger a memory and I’ll be a mess. It’s hard. I’m still angry. I remembered the last time I talked to my dad - an inane conversation about getting up to their house to pick up a jacket and a plant they had for me. I didn’t think it was that important so I told him I’d get the stuff next time I saw them. I wished him a happy trip. And that was all. I know I’ll get over this and my life will resume a semblance of normalcy. But right now it doesn’t feel that way. At the risk of being redundant, I want to thank you all again. I’m touched by the outpouring of goodness here. ---
**Author:** ![Leonora](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7bcc69/32.png) [@Leonora](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leonora)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2002, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218/97 "2002-10-25T03:22:35Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-last-night/133218.md?page=4)