# My dad died today. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 13, 2014, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056 "2014-04-13T23:38:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/21 "2014-04-14T00:58:06Z")
Oh my. I can’t even imagine. Words don’t seem like enough, but it’s what we have…so my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/22 "2014-04-14T01:04:23Z")
Wow, what a tragedy. So sorry this happened to you and your family. Peace to you all. ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/23 "2014-04-14T01:11:18Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **yancey**. You and your family have my deepest sympathy. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/24 "2014-04-14T01:14:10Z")
What a horrible and shocking thing. I am so sorry that you lost your father, and in this way. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/25 "2014-04-14T01:20:29Z")
sorry. it will help to do what you have to do each day. when you are doing things keep focused. same for your mom and your sister. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/26 "2014-04-14T01:23:10Z")
I’m so sorry for your and your family’s loss, **yancey**. Please do keep coming here and talking about how you’re doing and your dad, if you find it helps you at all. We’re here for you. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/27 "2014-04-14T03:52:44Z")
What a horrible thing to happen. Praying for peace & strength to you in the days ahead. _HUGS_ ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/28 "2014-04-14T05:04:37Z")
Death is always shocking, even when being shocked is a weird reaction, but this death in this way has to be even more shocking than most. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with it. The cottony feeling is protecting you right now, so don’t force yourself out of it any sooner than you have to. I’m so so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![obbn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/d6d6ee/32.png) [@obbn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/obbn)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/29 "2014-04-14T07:59:28Z")
Let me add my condolences as well. I’ll be sure to say a prayer for you, your dad and your family tonight. The next fee days are going to be hard, but you will get through them. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to cry and turn to your family for the support you’ll need. And always remember that your father will always live on as long as you are alive and when you have children a part of him will be with them as well. I wish we here could offer you more than words, I’m truly sorry that this had happened. ---
**Author:** ![jerez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c68b51/32.png) [@jerez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jerez)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 10:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/30 "2014-04-14T10:15:04Z")
That’s terrible. Sorry for your loss. No time for good-byes or anything. At least he didn’t suffer. The hardest thing for me is coming across something, wanting to share it with that person and remembering that it’s no longer possible. Try to remember that you’re not alone: not only in the sense of having friends and family (and at least 30 people on this board) but especially insofar as not being the only one to lose a loved one in such dramatic circumstances. It just happens sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/31 "2014-04-14T11:08:13Z")
i’m so sorry. may his memory be eternal. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/32 "2014-04-14T11:25:49Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, what a dreadful thing you have to deal with. As others have said, be kind to yourself and remember that you are not alone in your grief. If nothing else, you have a group of internet strangers to talk to if you need to . ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/33 "2014-04-14T11:29:42Z")
So sorry for your loss. Expected death after an illness is one thing; sudden traumatic death is a whole other scene. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/34 "2014-04-14T11:50:55Z")
I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Mind\_Your\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Mind\_Your\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mind_Your_Head)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/35 "2014-04-14T12:05:58Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. Go easy on yourself and take your time. Cry, scream, shout or punch your pillow, let it out. When you are ready, talk about it, don’t keep it bottled up inside ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/36 "2014-04-14T12:28:23Z")
I’m so sorry for your tragic and so unexpected loss. There is no good way to lose a parent. Suddenly and unexpectedly? After a lengthy illness? Years of decline and frailty? They all suck huge, don’t waste time wishing it were some other way, it would be just as tragic and traumatic. When you’re feeling up to it I hope you’ll come back and share some more things about how awesome your Dad was. We long to know more of him than just how he passed! Take care of yourself, and your family, and if you should need to talk - we’re right here. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers! ---
**Author:** ![Leo\_Bloom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leo_bloom/32/10377_2.png) [@Leo\_Bloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leo_Bloom)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/37 "2014-04-14T13:00:47Z")
Horrible. In my times of spirit/emotion hit by assaults of such titanic force I try to remember not to fight them. Almost observe the pain, which helps keep it from becoming overpowering suffering. The two are different. Whatever you do is brave. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/38 "2014-04-14T13:17:42Z")
I’m so very, very sorry - you and your family will be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/39 "2014-04-14T13:43:45Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2014, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-died-today/686056/40 "2014-04-14T13:45:47Z")
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