# My Dad passed away **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 22, 2006, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768 "2006-05-22T16:05:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/21 "2006-05-22T18:08:26Z")
Very sorry to hear it. You and your family have my sympathy, and my best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/22 "2006-05-22T18:25:49Z")
I’m sorry for your troubles, **NoClueBoy**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/23 "2006-05-22T18:29:03Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/24 "2006-05-22T18:29:48Z")
I’m very, very sorry for your loss, NCB. You’re in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Rue\_DeDay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/41988e/32.png) [@Rue\_DeDay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rue_DeDay)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/25 "2006-05-22T18:48:21Z")
Very sad news **NCB**. Take care of yourself. Eventually things will get (some) better. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/26 "2006-05-22T19:02:21Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your mom are in my thoughts. I’d love to hear more about your dad, when you’re able. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/27 "2006-05-22T19:29:50Z")
I’m so sorry. I wish you and yours peace and strength. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/28 "2006-05-22T19:46:20Z")
May you find strength and peace in your time of sorrow. Our prayers are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/29 "2006-05-22T20:51:23Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, **NoClueBoy.** ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/30 "2006-05-22T20:54:34Z")
I’m so sorry, **NoClueBoy**. Big, big hugs. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/31 "2006-05-22T21:05:43Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss **NoClueBoy**. Your family and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know your sorrow. My father died two years ago. It’s not easy to lose a parent no matter how old we are. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/32 "2006-05-22T21:12:41Z")
I’m so sorry to hear it. I can’t imagine the pain. ---
**Author:** ![tygerbryght](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a9a28c/32.png) [@tygerbryght](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tygerbryght)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/33 "2006-05-22T22:10:39Z")
I lost my father 30 years ago in March. I still miss him. I still dream about him sometimes. So, please be sure I understand that it hurts, really hurts, and you have my sympathy. Don’t try to stifle the grieving; it takes longer that way. Try not to make any important decisions for at least the next few months. Take care of yourself: Be sure you eat regularly, and get enough sleep. If circumstances permit, take a few extra days off work, without planning anything in particular, and just chill out. If you all feel comfortable about it, you could spend some of that time with your Mom and brother. And be glad you had him until you were mature. Yes, I know he died too soon, no matter how old he was; it always feels that way. And remember: Take good care of yourself. It’s all too easy to forget things like meals and bedtime when you’re hurting inside. And if you do eat, it can feel like too much trouble to eat healthy. You have lots of people here who sympathize. It’s a resource to use if you need it. (((((( **NoClueBoy** )))))) ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2006, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/34 "2006-05-22T22:24:16Z")
Don’t worry. I am well taken care of irl. Thanks to all for your kind words and helpful thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/35 "2006-05-23T00:35:48Z")
Very sorry to hear it. ---
**Author:** ![MannyL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@MannyL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MannyL)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/36 "2006-05-23T00:46:03Z")
I’m sorry to hear about your family’s loss ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/37 "2006-05-23T00:53:43Z")
**NoClueBoy** , this may sound strange, but I hope that you are able to draw on your sense of humor to get you through this. Even through our tears we can remember those moments that made us laugh and that helps. Peace and fair winds be with you. ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/38 "2006-05-23T01:15:00Z")
Sorry for your loss, **NCB**. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. GT ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/39 "2006-05-23T01:34:58Z")
[QUOTE=Zoe] **NoClueBoy** , this may sound strange, but I hope that you are able to draw on your sense of humor to get you through this. [/QUOTE] Actually, one of the first things we did was to sit around and all tell stories about Dad, many of which were quite humourous. A few were told that were new to everyone else. My brother wanted some of those in the memorial service, but I convinced him to keep that short and serious, but share with all their friends at the reception (wake?) that a group of Mom and Dad’s friends threw at a local events center. Worked out well. In going thru his military papers, I found some things that he never even told Mom (they met after his military service). He ended his military career as an intelligence specialist working in cryptography. All we had known previously was that he somehow had became very jaded with the idea of a military career and left to pursue an engineering career. I wonder just what happened to him to change his mind. He kept that a secret. I also now have about 20,000 chromes to go thru. He quite liked photography. Was pretty darn good at it, too. I’m the kid that was favoured with that like interest. He gave me my first camera, a Baby Rollie, when I was five. Been a photographer ever since. ---
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2006, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768/40 "2006-05-23T01:46:50Z")
It’s nice that you have something special that you shared. I lost my father 4 years ago in July. We weren’t real close but he taught me to play chess when I was a kid. I’m not very good at it but anytime I play now I think of him. My sympathies on your loss. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dad-passed-away/357768.md?page=3)