# My Date with the Cute Pyjama Pants Wearing Girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 27, 2002, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991 "2002-04-27T18:42:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Bedhead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f07891/32.png) [@Bedhead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bedhead)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2002, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/41 "2002-04-28T19:25:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Skewbald \* > \*\*She’s always adjusting her wedgie in front of me too, I suspect she knows I’m watching. Oh yeah and I think I love her. > > \*\* haha, You are my hero as well Skewbald ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2002, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/42 "2002-04-28T22:07:04Z")
Dude, I think _I_ want her now. I gotta control myself. Congrats again. ---
**Author:** ![Skewbald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@Skewbald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skewbald)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2002, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/43 "2002-04-28T22:21:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TwistofFate \* > \*\* > Make her a mix tape. Its a personalized present, and will give her an idea of what you like and what you are like. > \*\* I love this suggestion. I hope she likes Slayer. No seriously I could probably mix up something good. Everything from Fugazi to Syd Dale. Thanks, good idea! ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2002, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/44 "2002-04-28T22:26:59Z")
**Skewbald** , I think that _everyone_ read that thread, you have no secrets from us. And don’t worry about Jon Bon Jovi, he’s my age (turning 40 this year), so maybe he reminds her of her father. 😉 You’re obviously doing great with her, don’t change too much on anyone’s advice here, what you are already is what she finds attractive. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/45 "2002-04-29T00:56:56Z")
> [@](#): > > _ **ShibbOleth** said:_ > …what you are already is what she finds attractive… Something **very** worth remembering. Way to go, **Skewbald**! I can’t give you any advice, but the others seem to be handling that, and I’m not sure you’d need any that I could give at this point anyway… ---
**Author:** ![Grelby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a5b964/32.png) [@Grelby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grelby)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/46 "2002-04-29T01:17:32Z")
Wow Skewbald! I had been wondering what happened with that. My line of thought was the same as that of Enderw24. “What a ninny!” But yeah, how would you do? “Ok, ok, I’m a bigger ninny!” So yeah… you _think_ she likes you!? Yowsa man, it would certainly seem so! I’ve never been so fortunate as to have a girlfriend that adjusts her underwear in front of me, forget about _mooning_ me! :eek: Anyway, it sounds lovely, and I am very jealous of your hooked-up-edness. (No, I do not have a girlfriend. I know what I said last month. Don’t talk to me, lalalalala! :p) Best of luck! ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/47 "2002-04-29T01:53:20Z")
> [@](#): > > **It was two in the morning and we were standing waiting for my bus, and I felt this sense of urgency and I just did it. I have kissed her on the chin before, but this was different. She kissed me back more skilfully, and she bit my lower lip. In a good way. Then she took my hands and placed them firmly on her ass. I just held them there, paralysed in a state of spine tingling joy and complete and utter terror. “Squeeze” she whispered and I did. Then she pressed her crotch against mine hard and kissed me again.** That gave me a tingly. 😉 Makes me wish I was 18 and/or newly in love again. stv ---
**Author:** ![reprise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@reprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/reprise)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/48 "2002-04-29T02:14:55Z")
I love this - it almost makes me which I wa a teenager again. I think part of your charm for this young woman is that you **aren’t** in any hurry to ruch her off to bed. Please keep us posted so we can re-experienc the thrill of young love vicariously through you. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/49 "2002-04-29T02:18:51Z")
Yah, I’d say the “squeeze” was definitly a clue that she was interested 😉 Good luck you crazy kids! ---
**Author:** ![Skewbald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@Skewbald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skewbald)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/50 "2002-04-29T14:36:18Z")
Argh! I totally wimped out in asking her to the dance today, I just never got an opening. We share the same for computer for two hours in economic class on Mondays, so I really don’t have an excuse for not asking her. She gave me grapes and I gave her one of my sandwiches. I went to the printer and screwed about. I turn my head around and I see her slightly caressing my probably still warm chair with her hand. I seriously got weak in the knees. I’ve done this a hundred times before myself, I know it’s silly but it feels nice. Sometimes when she goes out I sit in her chair, feeling her warmth for a second. I got back and we smiled. I’ll ask her tomorrow after our movie date, It’s going down this Saturday though. I actually thought it was next Saturday, so time is scarce. Some replies: > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SilkyThreat \* > \*\*I am thrilled your date with your “pyjama pants girl” worked out so beautifully. [sub][sup]Even if you don’t have a big penis. 😉 Heh…she sounds like a hoot.[/sub][/sup] > \*\* I think I shared just a little too much when I mentioned that part. This piece of trivia stays in this thread ok, deal? Please? She thinks it’s cute though, I guess that’s something. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by stv_ > \*\*That gave me a tingly. 😉 > \*\* Me to. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by reprise_ > \*\*I think part of your charm for this young woman is that you aren’t in any hurry to ruch her off to bed. > \*\* I’m not rushing anything, … it’s not like I really know what to do either. I think about it all the time though. I’m not certain if that’s the reason she likes me, I’m not certain about anything anymore. I think I’ve made it obvious to as why I like her, her attraction to me on the other hand is more mysterious. I have no homework today so I’m online all day, so if you want to ask me about anything go right ahead. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![HelloKitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ecccb3/32.png) [@HelloKitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelloKitty)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/51 "2002-04-29T15:45:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Skewbald \* > \*\* > > I love this suggestion. I hope she likes Slayer. > > No seriously I could probably mix up something good. Everything from Fugazi to Syd Dale. > > Thanks, good idea! \*\* You’ve GOT to include a Bon Jovi track on there somewhere!!! ---
**Author:** ![Asylum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/53a042/32.png) [@Asylum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asylum)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/52 "2002-04-29T16:05:43Z")
I’ve experienced that weak in the knees feeling when asking out a woman more than a few times. If I have the option I’ll call them instead of asking them out in person and rehearse what I’m gonna say. And you can probably guess what she’s gonna say. Hell, everyone else in the thread can. Also, even if you stumble over the words it sounds like she find that cute and she’ll just get more attracted to you. Shoot, I’m a straight guy and after listening to you talk about dealing with your shyness I’m finding you cute. Don’t worry about being smooth. Just be yourself, even if it means a little stuttering. And if you don’t ask her out I’m gonna find out where you live and show up at your door with duct tape, a tire iron and a video camera. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/53 "2002-04-29T16:29:01Z")
I think you should dump her right now and then give me her phone number as I am falling for her. ---
**Author:** ![Skewbald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@Skewbald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skewbald)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/54 "2002-04-29T17:46:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by HelloKitty \* > \*\* > > You’ve GOT to include a Bon Jovi track on there somewhere!!! \*\* Ha, ha, ha! Yeah good idea, but um… no sorry. I must save her from bad 80’s hair metal! ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/55 "2002-04-29T19:27:37Z")
God, the only thing that could make me want to be young again is that glorious feeling that comes when you take the gamble and she likes you. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/56 "2002-04-29T21:44:40Z")
**Skewbald** , you’re doing a great job. Way to go! However, I do want to say – I think it’s time to be a bit more bold, physically. She’s sending out _huge_ signals. Huge! She unequivocally wants you. Don’t worry that she’ll be offended if you try to get more physical than you have. Don’t worry if she notices you’re aroused. She obviously wants to take things farther. There is no question. So, if you want that too, be brave. You’ve done really well so far because you were brave and didn’t listen to your fears. Keep it up! You’re doing so well!! Seriously. You rock, man. 🙂 Lastly, do not worry about being inexperienced. She won’t think you’re a fool if you don’t know what to do. Acknowledge that you’re new at this, but eager to learn, and you will be amazing. ---
**Author:** ![ummm.yeahh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9bcb4/32.png) [@ummm.yeahh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ummm.yeahh)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/57 "2002-04-29T21:47:30Z")
Congrats dude. This OP is making us all feel young again. Treasure this time. Savor every moment. It’s these times you will look fondly back on. Some advice? Stay exactly the way you are! Like others have mentioned, she adores you for your cluelessness (I’m just as clueless so it’s not a bad thing!). If you give her a gift, make it personal. My belief is a woman would rather have a cheap gift that is personal and shows thought than an expensive but thoughtless one. (I guess the ultimate combo is an expensive and thoughtful gift!) Think of what she has in her room and go off that. You don’t have to get her a CD of her favorite band. Maybe an autograph off Ebay or put together a photo album from the band. Good luck my man! ---
**Author:** ![Francesca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9fc348/32.png) [@Francesca](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Francesca)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/58 "2002-04-29T22:08:57Z")
I LOVE this thread! **Skewbald** , you’re in like Flynn. And may I also add that you write beautifully. Forgive me if I grin with happiness for the next hour because of how goofy-happy reading this has made me. Yay young love! ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2002, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/59 "2002-04-29T22:21:57Z")
**Skewbald** - it worked in the movies and it worked for me (back when I was dating), it should work for you, especially because she is giving you strong signals (yep, that’s what we call mooning with a thong and being asked to grab her butt - _strong signals_): Basically, screw up your courage while away from her, then walk up to her and before you have a chance to think, say what you want to say - write something down (you’re obviously good at that), memorize it (or have it written on a piece of paper - she may thinks it’s cute, and let’s face it - cute is working for you right now) - and blurt it out! Something like: “Sorry if I am interrupting you, but I have to get this out: I have been having so much fun spending time with you, I think about you all the time and I am convinced you are carbonating my hormones - please tell me you will go to the dance with me.” Trust me - it works. ---
**Author:** ![LordVor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90ced4/32.png) [@LordVor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LordVor)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2002, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/60 "2002-04-30T15:40:48Z")
I’m not sure if this is in time or not, but here’s an alternative view on how your invite to a movie date may have been taken: You: “Would you like to go see the Lord of the Rings with me?” Which is a nice way of saying: “I would like to spend three hours with you in a darkened mostly deserted movie theater in which a movie that you have already seen is playing.” Which means: “I would like to kiss you for three hours.” The fact that she didn’t even hesitate to say yes was a very good sign. Advice? Put your arm around her during the opening credits. If she hasn’t kissed you by Rivendale, kiss her cheek. -lv [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991.md?page=4)