# My Date with the Cute Pyjama Pants Wearing Girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 27, 2002, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991 "2002-04-27T18:42:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![lawoot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/35a633/32.png) [@lawoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lawoot)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/101 "2002-05-04T14:45:30Z")
Living oh so vicariously through this thread (and the original, may it rest in peace), and almost in tears, because it reminds me of MY life, and all of the chances I NEVER took. Oh, well… Have fun at the dance, **Skewbald**. And cherish this woman (as if you don’t already). ---
**Author:** ![haardvark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5ac83/32.png) [@haardvark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/haardvark)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/102 "2002-05-04T15:31:49Z")
please nobody poop on me for asking this but: how would the Goddess react if she knew about this thread? notwithstanding that issue, it sounds like it’s all coming up roses and I wish you both all the best, **Skew**. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/103 "2002-05-04T16:13:01Z")
**haardvark** , what about this thread would _anyone_ find offensive? He’s not giving away anything she asked him to keep secret – he’s talking in glowing terms about being ga-ga for her, and all the nervousness and elation that comes with it. When I start dating someone, I tell people about it. I’m excited – I want to share. I assume the person I’m dating does the same. Why would anyone expect it to be kept secret? What is there to be ashamed of? To me, it’s all about respect. There’s a world of difference between saying “my new girlfriend and I had sex for the first time last night and it was amazing” and “yeah, I finally nailed Stephanie last night – she’s pretty easy”. The former is me sharing my excitement over new romance, the latter is me trivializing a shared experience. It’s OK to talk about sex. And friggin’ believe me, **women talk about sex**. In unbelievable detail. Their friends know _everything_. They might as well have a web cam on her damn forehead. So, unless **Skewbald** has reason to think she wants to keep the details of their relationship private, the limits on what he talks about should be based on how comfortable he is sharing his personal life. ( **Skewbald** , this post is only addressing **haardvark** ’s post, and not in any way intended to influence what you do or do not feel comfortable posting about. Set your own limits. Oh, and have fun at your prom!) ---
**Author:** ![GopherGod72](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f0a364/32.png) [@GopherGod72](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GopherGod72)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/104 "2002-05-04T16:46:41Z")
GOOD LUCK MAN!! 😃 …but I don’t think you need luck at this point, you’re past that. ---
**Author:** ![haardvark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5ac83/32.png) [@haardvark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/haardvark)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/105 "2002-05-04T20:11:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Giraffe \* > **haardvark** , what about this thread would _anyone_ find offensive? Um. I never suggested that she should or would be offended. I was only wondering how she _might_ react. I guess I need to say up front that like everyone else here I think this is a sweet story, that **Skewbald** sounds like an earnest, honest and good person, and I am rooting for him and this budding relationship in all respects. (I have never read anything so evocative of my own late teens!!) > [@](#): > > When I start dating someone, I tell people about it. me, too. (or, at least, I did until the wedding…) > [@](#): > > What is there to be ashamed of? There is **nothing** to be ashamed of, and if I have in some way implied that there is, then I really blew it and I am sorry. > [@](#): > > To me, it’s all about respect. Darned right. And I think our esteemed colleague **Skewbald** has the required respect, in spades. > [@](#): > > It’s OK to talk about sex. And friggin’ believe me, **women talk about sex**. In unbelievable detail. Their friends know _everything_. They might as well have a web cam on her damn forehead. 😕 I don’t know how you managed to pull this comment out of what I said above. I certainly was not considering whether or not women talk about sex when I posted originally. (As far as I am concerned, every feeling adult talks about sex…) For that matter, my question was not related to sex at all. The question was provoked in me because I have been in two situations where I found out after the fact that someone I was trying to build a relationship with was bothered by the extent to which I was flapping at the mouth about said relationship (please note that this phrasing is tongue-in-cheek (need a smiley for _that_!) and I am not in any way trying to imply that **Skewbald** is blabbing inappropriately). I was thinking that, _perhaps_, f’rinstance, if this lovely young lady were to trip across the boreds and see this thread and put two and two together, she could perhaps feel awkward or embarrassed about it, and if she chose to take a negative view of the situation it could be tough sledding for **Skew** , at least in the short term. > [@](#): > > So, unless **Skewbald** has reason to think she wants to keep the details of their relationship private, the limits on what he talks about should be based on how comfortable he is sharing his personal life. (quoted text blued by yours truly) Yes, **giraffe** , you’ve nailed my point exactly. I was only trying to point out that I hoped the story was being shared with full consideration of the other party’s feelings. To try and restate my original post in a more constructive way: Hi, **Skewbald** , I love your narrative and certainly hope you keep us in the loop. I hope your _inamorata_ is a Doper at heart and would get as much of a kick out of this thread as the rest of us are! > [@](#): > > … not in any way intended to influence what you do or do not feel comfortable posting about. Set your own limits. Oh, and have fun at your prom!) Hey, that goes double for me! Please don’t feel that I am judging your actions as inappropriate, because I am not. Like the rest of us, I am enjoying your story and would love to hear as much more of it as you are comfortably willing to share, and I know you would not compromise your budding relationship for the sake of the storyline. (You have already said as much yourself, in any case!) cheers and much happiness, 'vark ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2002, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/106 "2002-05-05T01:09:16Z")
Sorry, **haardvark** – I honestly wasn’t trying to jump on you, and my message was mostly just me throwing out my thoughts on things, not having an imaginary one-sided argument with you, despite how it looked. I should have made that more clear. Sorry 'bout that. 🙂 The only part I actually intended to be a response to your message was the first paragraph, based on my assumption that you thought she would be offended if she read this thread. Thanks for clarifying what you meant – your point is well made. ---
**Author:** ![Gadarene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47c2d/32.png) [@Gadarene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gadarene)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2002, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/107 "2002-05-05T01:49:31Z")
Awwwww. What a terrifically sweet story. I want me one of them cute pajama pants wearing girls. Damn. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2002, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/108 "2002-05-05T02:24:15Z")
The frequently immense chasm between the layered memories of first love that we all carry around, and what truly transpired is being bridged with honesty, humor and tremendous sensitivity. I’m about to turn 40. I remember my first love, so many small details- and yet what you are writing brings back nuance and subtlety of that relationship that has been lost to me for more than 20 years. You are a great young man, and you are a gifted writer. Shower her with your humor and honesty, and enjoy wherever your friendship with her takes you. I agree with a poster in here somewhere who said that the friendship part is most important… it lasts, and lasts, and lasts. I admire you. Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![Tazma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3be4f8/32.png) [@Tazma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tazma)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2002, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/109 "2002-05-05T02:28:04Z")
…And I resolve to \*become[\i] one of those pyjama pants wearing girls…flirty, self assured, and able to clue in when awkward first love approaches. Hope you and your lady are having a great time at the dance, **Skewbald**! [PSA] Also, what **Dinsdale** said about STD’s and pregnancy. That’s the flip side of physical love; be educated, be safe, and don’t be afraid to talk about these things with your partner. [/PSA] Again, best wishes and thank you for sharing. ---
**Author:** ![chief](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df788c/32.png) [@chief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chief)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2002, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/110 "2002-05-05T06:54:17Z")
good to hear about this again… i hope you put on “I’ll Be There for You” on the tape. bon jovi isn’t that bad really… ---
**Author:** ![BelZarak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea666f/32.png) [@BelZarak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BelZarak)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2002, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/111 "2002-05-06T23:07:28Z")
I can’t believe I’ve gotten hooked on a single thread. I’ve spent my lunch break each day catching up on the ongoing adventures of Skewbald. Thanks for making me feel young again for a few minutes each day. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/112 "2002-05-07T01:15:59Z")
May 1st is a holiday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME (now why did I go into work…?) But anyways, a lot of this reminds me of how I was with my SO when we first started being friends, and later dating (we just celebrated 2 years together). SO much of this is familiar (at least emotionally - for us, we went to my sisters dance LOL). I hope everything works out great for you two, and PLEASE keep us posted (not that I doubt you will! :)) ---
**Author:** ![HerMajestyLorna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7cd45c/32.png) [@HerMajestyLorna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HerMajestyLorna)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/113 "2002-05-07T02:11:34Z")
_sigh_ Tell us more. I love this thread. ---
**Author:** ![NHL7890](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c4cdca/32.png) [@NHL7890](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NHL7890)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/114 "2002-05-07T02:23:49Z")
Good for you, glad it worked out. I was just a little turned off by your comment about being American and saying dude and gnarly alot. We don’t say gnarly my friend, dude however does surface from time to time though. I’m just rambling on, blah blah blah. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Anemone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/46a35a/32.png) [@Anemone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anemone)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/115 "2002-05-07T05:06:54Z")
omigod. You are so f\*\* adorable. You actualy made ME blush. the cuteness! will it ever end!!?? ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/116 "2002-05-07T16:56:21Z")
So??? How was the dance??? And why did she want you to get to her whouse 4 frigging hours before the dance??? Tell us how incredibly hot she looked. Come on! Inquiring minds want to know! ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/117 "2002-05-07T23:38:37Z")
_bump_ **Skewbald** , you’ve got us all hanging - fill us in!! ---
**Author:** ![Jman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jman/32/4416_2.png) [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2002, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/118 "2002-05-08T01:11:36Z")
Yes, please fill us in! Oh, and seriously, if you didn’t at the dance: Make a serious move! You mention that you haven’t made out yet…trust me…it’s time! She’s giving you every signal. If she doesn’t want to go that far, she’ll stop you, and she won’t be mad. She’s waiting for you to throw her down, kiss her passionately for hours and start ‘exploring’ each other. Trust me…give it a shot! 🙂 Sounds like you’re having a great time…I wish you continued good luck! ---
**Author:** ![chief](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df788c/32.png) [@chief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chief)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2002, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/119 "2002-05-08T01:44:14Z")
arrrghhh i can’t take it much longer!!! ---
**Author:** ![leechbabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@leechbabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leechbabe)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2002, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991/120 "2002-05-08T01:51:04Z")
I’m dying to know - what happened. the good the bad the ugly Please we need to know. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-date-with-the-cute-pyjama-pants-wearing-girl/105991.md?page=7)