# My DIL hates searing food **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 16, 2019, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722 "2019-08-16T02:11:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/21 "2019-08-16T17:04:05Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I wouldn’t eat raw chicken, ever. I tried chicken sashimi once out of curiosity. The meat used came from deep within the breast for safety reasons. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great either. I’ll try it again if I come across it again. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/22 "2019-08-16T17:22:12Z")
I used to eat raw hamburger when I was a kid. Good stuff! ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/23 "2019-08-16T18:10:01Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Manson, I’ve found out dealing with a DIL and a SIL for a number of years they usually come already grown with their own ideas of how things should be. I’m not stepping in that trap. But, I still wouldn’t eat raw chicken. Fair enough. I wouldn’t eat raw chicken either. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/24 "2019-08-16T18:14:37Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I’m not completely sure what you mean by “sears food,” but I’d wager I don’t do it either. It’s food that has gone bankrupt. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/25 "2019-08-16T18:24:41Z")
Ah yes, another [Saint Cad thread about strange family cooking/eating dynamics](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=720635&highlight=food) was niggling at the back of my mind, and there it is. I dunno man, your household has some weird shit going on when it comes to food prep and consumption. If I were you, I’d probably volunteer to take on all the cooking in exchange for not doing some of the other, less desirable household chores, and I’d make giant vats of chicken stew, curried lentils, beef chili, and assorted casseroles every few days and leave it at that. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/26 "2019-08-16T18:47:19Z")
> [@Fear\_Itself](#): > > What is the proper preparation for frozen roasted corn? Thaw it, and serve it on a plate? Bake it in the oven with a little oil and salt and pepper until hot. Put it with some butter in a bowl, cover in saran wrap and microwave it. Hot buttered steam corn. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/27 "2019-08-16T18:58:25Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > I’d probably volunteer to take on all the cooking in exchange for not doing some of the other, less desirable household chores, and I’d make giant vats of chicken stew, curried lentils, beef chili, and assorted casseroles every few days and leave it at that. I would love that. But everyone bitches “I don’t like chili” or “I don’t like soup if the temp is over 60 degrees”, “Or I don’t like casseroles” etc. The bizarre thing is the only one who actually appreciates the effort I put into making delicious, somewhat healthy, meals is the DIL who hardly every eats my food because of her weird work schedule and she’d rather eat the crap processed amusement-park-level food at her work than take a meal with her. As for the ketchup issue, the son still puts ketchup on everything. I told him the ground rules are that I won’t complain about him putting ketchup all over the plate and he can’t bitch about what I cook for him or how I cook it. Since he doesn’t have to cook that night it works out for both of us. But I’ll still be damned if I going to buy him a grass-fed bone-in ribeye if it is only going to be the vehicle for him getting ketchup in his ketchup-hole. ---
**Author:** ![Enola\_Gay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/3ab097/32.png) [@Enola\_Gay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enola_Gay)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/28 "2019-08-16T19:13:20Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > I tried chicken sashimi once out of curiosity. The meat used came from deep within the breast for safety reasons. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great either. I’ll try it again if I come across it again. Same exact experience. Never had heard of it, and it kind of looked like yellow tail on the plate. Not bad at all, but great would be a stretch. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2019, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/29 "2019-08-16T19:34:03Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > Ah yes, another [Saint Cad thread about strange family cooking/eating dynamics](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=720635&highlight=food) was niggling at the back of my mind, and there it is. > > I dunno man, your household has some weird shit going on when it comes to food prep and consumption… From that other thread: > [@](#): > > 23? Should be cooking for himself. Or does he pay board? > [@](#): > > Why the fuck are you cooking for a 23 year old? > [@](#): > > You got two problems here - a 23 year old adolescent stepson and a wife who is allowing her 23 year old son to act in such an ungrateful way. The hard and fast rule in my house - if you want to complain about my cooking, you are more than welcome to cook your own damned food. I don’t get paid enough to listen to someone bitching about the food I put effort into while they sat on their asses. > ETA: I agree with you about drenching everything I cook in ketchup - that is indeed an insult to the cook. I just checked, and that thread was over half a decade ago… so they should be more mature now (operative word\*, should), \*you should have stood up for yourself by now, and I feel horrible that you’ve been putting yourself through this hell for years. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/30 "2019-08-17T12:42:47Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I’m not completely sure what you mean by “sears food,” but I’d wager I don’t do it either. It’s a slow-cooking method where you order your food out of a catalog at the general store and wait several weeks for it to be delivered via steam locomotive. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/31 "2019-08-17T13:32:04Z")
I gotta wonder if she grew up using a microwave as a cooking device, instead of a heating device. Sure you can ‘cook’ in a microwave, but it will turn out mostly without any sear. ---
**Author:** ![Spud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spud/32/347_2.png) [@Spud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spud)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/32 "2019-08-17T14:05:15Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > It’s a slow-cooking method where you order your food out of a catalog at the general store and wait several weeks for it to be delivered via steam locomotive. Don’t even get me started… My SIL once Roebucked a turkey at Thanksgiving. There is a reason that Sears is more recognized and Roebuck is an afterthought. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/33 "2019-08-17T15:20:28Z")
> [@WOOKINPANUB](#): > > I meant to add this. That’s a pretty specific, ant not exactly essential aspect of preparing most food. I’ve seared a lot of food accidentally. Once so badly I had to throw out the entire batch of pasta with the pot I had seared it in. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/34 "2019-08-17T15:57:39Z")
There is some stewed chicken that sat on the stove overnight that was reheated and served at a dinner party by a friend. That’s seared in my memory. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/35 "2019-08-17T16:18:28Z")
Maybe give her a gift card for a nice cooking class for Christmas. ---
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/36 "2019-08-17T17:14:34Z")
> [@Saint\_Cad](#): > > OK, time to eat some chicken breasts that she put in the oven raw with some BBQ sauce on it. Wish me luck and they actually are cooked through. I have no idea what the problem is here. Of course the chicken will be raw before you put it in the oven. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2019, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/37 "2019-08-17T21:16:20Z")
> [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](#): > > I have no idea what the problem is here. Of course the chicken will be raw before you put it in the oven. Yup. Seems to me the description is of baked chicken with a sauce. IMO fine if you happen to like the particular sauce, which presumably the DIL does. Baking chicken, whether with or without a sauce, is a perfectly reasonable way to cook it. If the OP only likes chicken with burn marks on it, that’s up to them. If the DIL doesn’t like chicken with burn marks on it, that’s up to the DIL. If the son would just like to eat dinner without having to take sides in the matter, I’ve got considerable sympathy for him. If the OP doesn’t like their DIL’s cooking or vice versa, well, this is a thing that sometimes happens. But there are lots of different cooking styles, and as long as the food’s not hazardous to eat when it’s done\*, none of them are wrong. (There actually seems to currently be a little bit of evidence that those grill/sear marks aren’t good for you; but I think at this point it’s more in the category of ‘if you try to eat according to the reuslts of all studies that get into the news you’ll wind up unable to eat anything, which would definitely not be good for you.’ ) ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2019, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/38 "2019-08-18T03:49:12Z")
> [@thorny\_locust](#): > > Baking chicken, whether with or without a sauce, is a perfectly reasonable way to cook it. If the OP only likes chicken with burn marks on it, that’s up to them. [Searing food](https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/techniques/searing_meat)is browning it - not burning it. > [@](#): > > ‘Searing’ is cooking the surface of a piece of meat at a high temperature until well browned. This technique enhances the flavour of the meat, ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2019, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/39 "2019-08-18T03:54:29Z")
> [@thorny\_locust](#): > > Yup. Seems to me the description is of baked chicken with a sauce. IMO fine if you happen to like the particular sauce, which presumably the DIL does. > > Baking chicken, whether with or without a sauce, is a perfectly reasonable way to cook it. You missed the point that it is everything. Hamburgers? No sear. Steaks? No sear. Chicken in a skillet? No sear. Everything cooked on medium-low boiled in their own juices until (hopefully) not raw. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2019, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722/40 "2019-08-18T05:02:51Z")
> [@Saint\_Cad](#): > > [Searing food](https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/techniques/searing_meat)is browning it - not burning it. So? Some people still prefer to bake it without browning it first. What’s the problem? Dear lord, save me from foodies. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-dil-hates-searing-food/838722.md?page=3)