# My disaster

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 20, 2011, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847 "2011-12-20T12:01:47Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\
**Post date:** [December 24, 2011, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847/21 "2011-12-24T14:01:13Z")

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> [@msmith537](#):
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> Why? Is it somehow “better” to tell a girl to her face that you don’t want to be with her because you don’t lover her / found someone else / she got too fat or annoying? Why does he need to create some forum for her to scream at him or throw shit?

I agree when it comes to someone you’re casually seeing. I’ve done that more than a few times to some random dude, and they sometimes get all weird about it and leave multiple angry/pleading voicemails and stuff, and I never can understand what purpose would be served by explaining to someone you met 3 weeks ago why you’re just not that into them.

But the OP apparently was living with her boyfriend. That’s way different! At some point of course you owe the person an explanation.

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**Author:** ![AaronX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7bcc69/32.png) [@AaronX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AaronX)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2011, 9:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847/22 "2011-12-28T09:59:19Z")

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It sucks to not have closure, but that’s the way that guy is. Be glad you found out now, not when it’s too late.

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**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2011, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847/23 "2011-12-28T14:08:19Z")

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Assuming he’s 18 as well, you don’t need him to tell you the reason. I’ll tell you the reason: He wants to bone other chicks.

Is there anyone out there that doubts this is the reason?

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**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2011, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847/24 "2011-12-28T14:55:43Z")

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**choochoo** - Just be prepared for him to try to come crawling back, just as you’ve gotten your feet back under you. And don’t let him back in your life! If he did this to you once, he’ll do it again. If he doesn’t care enough about you to at least talk over your problems and to just bail, he isn’t worth your tears.

StG

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**Author:** ![2gigch1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/2gigch1/32/3313_2.png) [@2gigch1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2gigch1)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2011, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-disaster/606847/25 "2011-12-28T20:54:57Z")

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I don’t know if we will ever get any further updates. choochoo appears to be a one stop train and has since left the station.

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