# My Divorce or My Wife's Gone Mad (Long) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 29, 2006, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314 "2006-10-29T09:02:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2006, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314/21 "2006-11-01T15:21:11Z")
[QUOTE=DangleYourModifier] I wish I knew what she wanted. You’re right - she is getting everything she wants and after all it was her idea. Thanks to everyone telling me to stop being nice and let my lawyer fight her, however it’s not always that easy. I have a 5 year old daughter that I love very much and anything I do to my wife has repercussions on her as well. I’m actually on my way to see my lawyers now and there might be a light at the end of the tunnel. (We’ll have to wait and see if it’s a train). After reading my story myself I realised how screwed up I am because of all this. Consider this - my mom passed away in August (right in the middle of all this) and I completely neglected to even mention it. In fact it slipped my mind for a while until I though about the events again carefully. [/QUOTE] I appreciate the fact that you are trying to make it easier for your daughter, but allowing your soon-to-be ex to run over you in the process is not making it easier, for anyone. If you have trouble doing it then advise your lawyer to act on your behalf. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2006, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314/22 "2006-11-01T20:08:43Z")
Frankly, your soon to be ex sounds, um, unstable and I’m not sure she is the best person to have custody of your little girl. True, we are only getting your side of the story, but it’s sordid enough without her input. Please remember this: when you disrespect the spouse or ex, you shame the child. So, keep your animosity (well founded) to yourself. It will be hard as hell sometimes to bite your tongue around your daughter, but over time, your calm and common sense will win out over your ex’s apparent love of drama and shenanigans. Good luck–and stop giving her money! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2006, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314/23 "2006-11-01T20:37:26Z")
I have no advice. Although count me in with **Lord Ashtar’s comment** - people actually look me in the eye and ask why I’m afraid of marriage. All the same, I wish you luck in everything, **DYM** , and hopt it works out best for your daughter. ---
**Author:** ![Sean\_Factotum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@Sean\_Factotum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sean_Factotum)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2006, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314/24 "2006-11-01T21:00:07Z")
[QUOTE=DangleYourModifier] Thanks to everyone telling me to stop being nice and let my lawyer fight her, however it’s not always that easy. I have a 5 year old daughter that I love very much and anything I do to my wife has repercussions on her as well. I’m actually on my way to see my lawyers now and there might be a light at the end of the tunnel. (We’ll have to wait and see if it’s a train). [/QUOTE] You have to be. A short bitter divorce will be easier on the kid than a long protracted bitter divorce. Bite the bullet and get this over with quickly. And stop being nice. It just makes it worse in the long run. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-or-my-wifes-gone-mad-long/378314.md?page=1)