# My Divorce Saga **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 1, 2010, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327 "2010-09-01T23:41:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/61 "2010-09-04T11:26:06Z")
Yay for you standing up for yourself! ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/62 "2010-09-04T11:27:22Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I am not completely comfortable with you getting comfortable in your old house - I’d get everything I wanted to get out of it as soon as possible, and expect your ex to come raging back as soon as she can get there. He owns 1/2. Anything more than that, in her mind, is delusional entitlement. Rub your junk on everything while you are there! ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/63 "2010-09-04T11:27:45Z")
There’s a difference between taking the high road and being a doormat. Glad you decided to quit doing the latter. Good luck to you. Looks like you’re going to need it. ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/64 "2010-09-04T11:36:02Z")
Well done **Cell Guy** It’s just chance that she’s away at this moment, but it’s meant a nice calm step for you to get back into the house, and you can relax knowing she’s away for a while. Gather your strength for the impending wrath. Who does this bloody woman think she is? You’ve been out of the house for ten months you say? She should take the next ten out then. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/65 "2010-09-04T12:32:48Z")
I simply cannot smile large enough at Cell Guy’s post. Good for you. Enjoy it, but don’t dawdle. Don’t let her sneak in and kill you while you’re sleeping in YOUR bed. Make sure that you get EVERYTHING that is yours out of there, no matter how small. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Vorlon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d07c76/32.png) [@The\_Vorlon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Vorlon)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/66 "2010-09-04T13:22:25Z")
My sugestion is take pictures before you leave–just in case something happens. You might want evidence in case something happens between your leaveing and any sale in the future, you know what I’m saying… ---
**Author:** ![Telcontar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3bc359/32.png) [@Telcontar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telcontar)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/67 "2010-09-04T13:47:21Z")
Also wanted to pat Cell Guy on the back. > [@The\_Vorlon](#): > > My sugestion is take pictures before you leave–just in case something happens. You might want evidence in case something happens between your leaveing and any sale in the future, you know what I’m saying… Second this. Get out your digital camera and take 10 minutes, it might save loads of trouble. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_fun_ball/32/17664_2.png) [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/68 "2010-09-04T15:28:56Z")
Wow, this has been going on 9 months? I am glad that you are fighting back, it is the right thing to do. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/69 "2010-09-04T16:25:01Z")
> [@Telcontar](#): > > Second this. Get out your digital camera and take 10 minutes, it might save loads of trouble. I’d also do a few walk-through videos. Walk around the property and note the condition of everything. Good luck. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![wipetheclock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b19c9b/32.png) [@wipetheclock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wipetheclock)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/70 "2010-09-04T16:36:42Z")
Good for you, finally standing up for yourself. > [@NinetyWt](#): > > > [@Telcontar](#): > > > > Second this. Get out your digital camera and take 10 minutes, it might save loads of trouble. > > I’d also do a few walk-through videos. Walk around the property and note the condition of everything. > > Good luck. 🙂 I’m curious about how much security taking pictures and video would provide. Even with a time+date stamp, there would be no proof that he didn’t cause damage after taking the pictures. A smart, destructive person could easily do so. What else can/should he do to help protect himself, ideally? Lawyer or police walk through before leaving, assuming he leaves? Other witnesses? Any ideas? Or would this likely be enough? ---
**Author:** ![smoke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c5a1d2/32.png) [@smoke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smoke)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/71 "2010-09-04T17:43:52Z")
I think it would be neat to befoul the toilets and sinks and anything else that is obvious, and then painstakingly and perfectly clean precisely half of them. A nice day/night filth line would be hilarious. But then again, I wouldn’t be dealing with any repercussions. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/72 "2010-09-04T18:12:45Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/73 "2010-09-04T18:47:07Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > I simply cannot smile large enough at Cell Guy’s post. Good for you. Enjoy it, but don’t dawdle. Don’t let her sneak in and kill you while you’re sleeping in YOUR bed. > > Make sure that you get EVERYTHING that is yours out of there, no matter how small. That’s what I was aiming for - I know the house is technically half his, but his ex has proven that he’s not dealing with a normal person. > [@The\_Vorlon](#): > > My sugestion is take pictures before you leave–just in case something happens. You might want evidence in case something happens between your leaveing and any sale in the future, you know what I’m saying… Very good idea. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/74 "2010-09-04T19:23:54Z")
How long were you married? ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/75 "2010-09-04T21:24:50Z")
> [@wipetheclock](#): > > Good for you, finally standing up for yourself. > > > [@NinetyWt](#): > > > > I’d also do a few walk-through videos. Walk around the property and note the condition of everything. > > > > Good luck. 🙂 > > I’m curious about how much security taking pictures and video would provide. Even with a time+date stamp, there would be no proof that he didn’t cause damage after taking the pictures. A smart, destructive person could easily do so. > > What else can/should he do to help protect himself, ideally? Lawyer or police walk through before leaving, assuming he leaves? Other witnesses? Any ideas? Or would this likely be enough? If nothing else, if she decides to sell the piano, big-screen TV, and the china hutch to finance her rendezvous, he’ll have it on record that they used to be there. ---
**Author:** ![serious\_lark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/43a26b/32.png) [@serious\_lark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/serious_lark)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/76 "2010-09-04T21:26:52Z")
Good for you, **Cell Guy**! Maybe your reclaiming of your house will get her to stop stalling and start negotiating. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/77 "2010-09-04T23:59:08Z")
Good for ya **Cell**! i bet it felt GOOD too. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2010, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/78 "2010-09-05T02:22:08Z")
Your ex sounds psycho (she dumped you for a guy online, is deeply entitled but sounds like she is stringing you along in case the guy online doesn’t pan out) and at first it sounded like you couldn’t/wouldn’t stand up for yourself and fight back. I wouldn’t get deeply involved with anyone else until you work on yourself and figure out more healthy ways to have boundaries and a willingness to defend yourself. Anyway, hope everything works out. ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/79 "2010-09-06T19:43:29Z")
Similar scenarios have happened to almost every dirvorced man I have met, including my father, and currently my step brother. The courts aren’t fair between the genders, so you are wise to get aggressive. Push this divorce through, maintain the moral high ground (for your benefit), spend time with your buddies, and keep dating. There are great women out there! ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2010, 9:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327/80 "2010-09-07T09:35:04Z")
Good on you for reclaiming your house, I must admit if it were me I’d have changed the locks and left her out in the cold for a dose of her own medicine. However, that’s just me feeling petty and spiteful. If I were you, I’d not only take photos of the state of the house and the contents, I’d also remove anything of yours that you place any value on and store that elsewhere. She is bound to be more than hacked off when she comes back from her little trip, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if you came home to find she’d taken out her anger on your possessions. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-divorce-saga/552327.md?page=5)