# my ever caring girlfriend **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 1, 2003, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266 "2003-08-01T01:37:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/61 "2003-08-08T14:31:57Z")
**Thaidog** , get thee into some therapy, stat. There’s no excuse for this type of behavior from her, no one “deserves” it, which you seem to be implying. Get over yourself, and get some help for yourself. You apparently need it. And where the hell is **Mr\_Friendly**?? He still hasn’t responded to his own thread! ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/62 "2003-08-08T15:08:43Z")
**Mr\_Friendly** is probably tooled-up _Rambo_ style and heading for the rugby club. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/63 "2003-08-08T18:38:30Z")
That was an awesome image, thanks! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/64 "2003-08-08T18:40:08Z")
He aint gonna be so friendly now, i’ll tell you what. Grr ---
**Author:** ![Godfrey\_Daniels](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Godfrey\_Daniels](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Godfrey_Daniels)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/65 "2003-08-08T21:20:16Z")
I dated someone like this, even lived with her for a short while, until a friend spelled it out for me and made me see the relationship for what it really _was_ instead of what I _wanted it to be_. Cut your losses. End it now and save yourself massive heartache. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Friendly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f05b48/32.png) [@Mr\_Friendly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Friendly)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/66 "2003-08-09T01:19:08Z")
Well I thought I’d poke my head round the door. I really only wrote the rant for myself, wanted to get the venom out a bit, am surprised by the number of replies. As an update, I havent broken up with her. I do love her, and she loves me. We’ve had problems in the past and we broke up for a long time in which she sorted herself out a lot and now pretty much does her absolute best to ensure I’m happy with her. I know the girlfriend she was with that night, she’s going out with one of my best mates and I know she’d tell me if anything happened. I think the reason it upset me so much was because it reminded me of a time when I would worry about her but think it would be ok, only to later find out when we broke up that it really wasnt ok. In short, thanks for the help, you guys made a great input but as most of the suggestions tend towards the “dump her” end of the spectrum I’m going to have to take my own path on this which is to not break up with her until I originally intended to, which is in early december when she leaves for university. ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/67 "2003-08-09T03:31:26Z")
May I recommend a good ol’ fashioned scrub down after every visit then? (Wire brush - optional…) Been to Vegas much, Mr. Friendly? ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/68 "2003-08-09T13:00:59Z")
Well let’s hope you don’t end up paying for that decision for the rest of your life by her bringing home herpes or worse. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/69 "2003-08-09T13:13:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by catsix \* > \*\*Well let’s hope you don’t end up paying for that decision for the rest of your life by her bringing home herpes or worse. \*\* “ **Or worse** ,” you mean,… the rugby players? \ ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/70 "2003-08-09T13:19:01Z")
A kid she claims as his, a rugby player…or a rugby player with HIV. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/71 "2003-08-09T13:31:08Z")
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I knew what you were driving at, but hey: [ul][_] **Mr\_Friendly** trusts her right now, who are we to say otherwise[_]my post had a better soundtrack than yours[/ul] ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/72 "2003-08-09T13:40:10Z")
Yeah, I know he trusts her. I just hope it’s not to his detriment. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/73 "2003-08-09T14:59:31Z")
Denial aint just a river in Egypt… Word of advice **Mr\_Friendly** , if you want to write a rant just “for yourself” and not recieve any advice, you might be better off doing it in a Live Journal. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Friendly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f05b48/32.png) [@Mr\_Friendly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Friendly)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/74 "2003-08-09T15:00:43Z")
Nah the advice was useful, just not the prime thing in mind when I made it, that’s not to say it wasnt appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/75 "2003-08-09T17:51:05Z")
_shrug_ To each their own. One has to wonder though, why you would stay with someone who you know you’re going to be breaking up with a few months down the road? Why not just get it over with? I couldn’t imagine being in a relationship knowing there was a specific date that it was going to be over by. A fling, maybe. But a serious relationship? That’s just setting yourself up for heartbreak. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Friendly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f05b48/32.png) [@Mr\_Friendly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Friendly)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/76 "2003-08-09T19:54:13Z")
It is heartbreaking, massively. We both find it very hard to talk about and usually end up crying when we do. I take the apporach that she’s going away whatever happens and so we may as well spend as much time together as we can. I thin it would be harder to not see her for all that small amount of time we have left than to see her, knowing that we;ll be apart soon. If that makes any sense, great! ---
**Author:** ![Wyatt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b19c9b/32.png) [@Wyatt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wyatt)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2003, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266/77 "2003-08-12T05:36:52Z")
Its that new law, you know, the “relationships term limits” law? Those last few “lame duck” months are difficult, but shouldn’t interfere with the sex parts! Speaking of sex, **Mr. F.** , I hope you’re getting plenty, guy, 'cause, to chime in with many of the other posters, you are getting screwed, royally! IMHO I appreciate all you say, wanting as many minutes as you can have, but, guy, she’s NOT, apparently wanting as many minutes as she has … with you! She’s out partying her butt off … and you’ve got an interesting balance of “being tortured” minutes trading off with “being happy to be with her” minutes. Tough trade, **Mr. F** … for you … not her … she’s the one upping the cost of the deal. Staying in a young relationship with a person who clearly is either deeply depressed or having other problems that need professional help, is terribly debilitating. If you were married or even engaged, I could cheer you on to work it through … but in a ‘term limit’ relationship … this is pretty emotionally expensive for anyone to carry. Good news, though, unless you try Really Really hard, you WILL do better in your Next choice of women to love!!! And sincere wishes of the best of luck to you, along this particular part of your self-education! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ever-caring-girlfriend/192266.md?page=3)