# My ex boss had three pictures of his wife in a bikini scattered around his office. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2014, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852 "2014-11-06T04:32:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/21 "2014-11-06T13:43:28Z")
Three bikini pictures of his wife turned towards the visitor rather than towards him? “'Everybody, look how hot my wife is?”. Tacky. Wouldn’t bother me. Would think less of him. ---
**Author:** ![Amateur\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/59ef9b/32.png) [@Amateur\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amateur_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/22 "2014-11-06T14:14:49Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > You know, if it were just one picture, sitting on his desk facing towards the boss, I’d be inclined to tell the OP to get over it. > > But three pictures, ALL of them of his wife in a bikini, takes it to a whole new level. One picture as I described above would be a sweet sentiment. Three bikini pics thrown around the office is flaunting his wife’s sexuality if not objectifying her. This. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/23 "2014-11-06T14:18:05Z")
> [@don\_t\_ask](#): > > If this statement is true I imagine there is something terribly amiss with the guy. I don’t think I have ever seen one photo even approaching that kind of thing in anyone’s office, let alone three. I promise I’m not making it up. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/24 "2014-11-06T14:20:57Z")
Definitely depends on the pics but three are too many! But I am also speaking as the one who doesn’t have a single picture up at her desk - I don’t like doing it, at all. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/25 "2014-11-06T14:33:22Z")
I would be offended, and I’m shocked that she didn’t put a stop to it. How can he expect people to treat his wife respectfully at office events if he’s putting her on display like that? I don’t expect to see bikini pics of any sort in the office environment. While I can see how a certain mindset might think “it’s OK if it’s my wife, not just a random calendar darling” I would disagree. That makes it much worse in my estimation. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/26 "2014-11-06T14:45:17Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > I would be offended, and I’m shocked that she didn’t put a stop to it. How can he expect people to treat his wife respectfully at office events if he’s putting her on display like that? Maybe that’s all she wears? ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/27 "2014-11-06T14:51:30Z")
Any chance he’s just using them to distract or disorient anyone who comes in his office? To what end, I can’t imagine, but maybe he feels he has an advantage when others are uncomfortable? Don’t you have HR? Why aren’t they all over this? ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/28 "2014-11-06T15:02:10Z")
No, it’s not about distracting. No, there was no HR. It’s a small business and he ruled the roost. I was probably just about the only female that was ever in his office though, at least with any regularity. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/29 "2014-11-06T15:22:51Z")
For me there is a big difference between what is in my opinion not appropriate in a situation (e.g. cheesecake photos at the office) and what bothers me personally (I’d not be bothered if people wandered about nude all day as long as they use a towel for sitting). ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/30 "2014-11-06T16:08:01Z")
If that were at my office, he would be made fun of unmercifully to his face. ---
**Author:** ![SpoilerVirgin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@SpoilerVirgin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SpoilerVirgin)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/31 "2014-11-06T16:30:39Z")
When my father ran a large department, he had a giant, full-sized print of his favorite painting hanging behind his desk, so that it was impossible not to look at when you walked into his office. Even though it’s a famous [work of art](http://www.ibiblio.org/wm/paint/auth/seurat/models/seurat.models.jpg), I always found it slightly unnerving and was surprised that no one ever complained. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/32 "2014-11-06T16:31:10Z")
Were there just the three pictures in the office, or were there lots more? If there were twenty pictures of her, things like her college graduation and such, and three of them happened to be in a bikini, that’s one thing. If the bikini pics are the only ones in his office, that’s a little different. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/33 "2014-11-06T17:00:21Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > Closer to your second example Nemo. > > They weren’t huge photos, but you couldn’t help but notice them if you had to deal with him in his office. Then I’m going to say it sounds strange. Not knowing anything more about the situation, my guess would be he’s treating his wife like she’s a trophy he won. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/34 "2014-11-06T17:01:33Z")
There were two other pics of her with her daughter. They were both clothed in those. I can assure you that he is a complete jerk and a sexist pig. I was told that he beat his wife badly enough to need hospitalization. I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. Of course he gets drunk every night, but whatever. He would also bring her to my desk and bend her over and plant a big smooch on her in front of me. I think he knew that I knew about the beating and this behavior was in response to that somehow. I’m very happy that I do not work for him anymore. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/35 "2014-11-06T17:06:23Z")
Dear, dear Og, that poor woman. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/36 "2014-11-06T18:12:34Z")
I definitely find it tacky. Not sure it would rise to the level of it bothering me. Knowing he’s a drunk who beats her, yeah, that would bother me lots. If it was me with the pics, it might bother me that half the people who come into my office would be eye-fucking my wife. ---
**Author:** ![Ranger\_Jeff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranger_jeff/32/2065_2.png) [@Ranger\_Jeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranger_Jeff)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/37 "2014-11-06T18:27:34Z")
> [@Merneith](#): > > It’s tacky as hell and also possibly an HR violation (depending on where you work.) It doesn’t lend itself to a professional atmosphere - unless his profession is Talent Agency, of course. But in truth, there are very few professions where “let me tell you how sexy my wife is” is an appropriate statement. I could see it if he’s a cosmetic surgeon or a photographer. Otherwise, very poor taste. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/38 "2014-11-06T18:35:57Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > There were two other pics of her with her daughter. They were both clothed in those. > > I can assure you that he is a complete jerk and a sexist pig. I was told that he beat his wife badly enough to need hospitalization. I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. > > Of course he gets drunk every night, but whatever. He would also bring her to my desk and bend her over and plant a big smooch on her in front of me. I think he knew that I knew about the beating and this behavior was in response to that somehow. > > I’m very happy that I do not work for him anymore. Yeah, given that context, definitely inappropriate and harassing behavior. I’m glad you don’t work for him anymore and I hope that poor woman finds the wherewithal to leave him. @ **Revtim** : Given **nwye’s** description of the pig, I think eye-fucking his wife is precisely what he wanted from his visitors. ---
**Author:** ![Merneith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Merneith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merneith)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/39 "2014-11-06T20:02:46Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > There were two other pics of her with her daughter. They were both clothed in those. > > I can assure you that he is a complete jerk and a sexist pig. I was told that he beat his wife badly enough to need hospitalization. I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. > > Of course he gets drunk every night, but whatever. He would also bring her to my desk and bend her over and plant a big smooch on her in front of me. I think he knew that I knew about the beating and this behavior was in response to that somehow. > > I’m very happy that I do not work for him anymore. Ah. Yeah. The bikini photos are him bragging about his prize possesion. I’m downgrading my rating from “Tacky” to “Gross and Disturbing”. ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/40 "2014-11-06T20:37:43Z")
Once, and ONLY once, have I seen a bikini shot on a fellow employee’s desk. But it wasn’t a male co-worker’s wife or girlfriend. It was a female co-worker’s teenage daughter. Her cubicle wasn’t in a place where many people could readily see the picture. If it were, I imagine SOMEBODY would have objected (and others would have loitered, hoping to get a look at it). Since I only saw it 3-4 times a year (whenever I had some valid reason to visit her on business), I saw no point in saying anything. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852.md?page=3)