# My ex boss had three pictures of his wife in a bikini scattered around his office. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2014, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852 "2014-11-06T04:32:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/41 "2014-11-06T20:43:50Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > I was told that he beat his wife badly enough to need hospitalization. I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. > > Of course he gets drunk every night, but whatever. He would also bring her to my desk and bend her over and plant a big smooch on her in front of me. I think he knew that I knew about the beating and this behavior was in response to that somehow. Well…well… the bikini pictures seems to be the least of the issues… :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/42 "2014-11-06T20:50:06Z")
Are they reminders to one and all that he is married? Did she put them there? OK… I can’t explain it either… ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2014, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/43 "2014-11-06T22:28:34Z")
> [@clairobscur](#): > > Well…well… the bikini pictures seems to be the least of the issues… :dubious: I know, but I just wanted a feel for what people thought about the pictures without coloring the opinion with all the other stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/44 "2014-11-07T01:57:33Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > There were two other pics of her with her daughter. They were both clothed in those. > > I can assure you that he is a complete jerk and a sexist pig. I was told that he beat his wife badly enough to need hospitalization. I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. > > Of course he gets drunk every night, but whatever. He would also bring her to my desk and bend her over and plant a big smooch on her in front of me. I think he knew that I knew about the beating and this behavior was in response to that somehow. > > I’m very happy that I do not work for him anymore. Seeing more of the overall behavior alters the presumption of simple cluelessness somewhat. ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/45 "2014-11-07T02:08:31Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > I actually confronted the wife with the rumor and she confirmed it and said it only happened because he was drunk. How on earth did _that_ conversation get started? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/46 "2014-11-07T02:40:36Z")
> [@clairobscur](#): > > Well…well… the bikini pictures seems to be the least of the issues… :dubious: No kidding! Talk about burying the lead. What a nut job he sounds like. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/47 "2014-11-07T02:46:38Z")
The only response to such a thing is to lean in closely when there is no one around and say ‘Can I get some copies of those? Digital is better than print but I will take whatever you’ve got’.Then wink and walk out of them room without saying anything else. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/48 "2014-11-07T11:59:23Z")
Yes, he’s a nut job. I think he may be Bi-Polar. The wife and I talked all the time. She was very comfortable around me, so it wasn’t hard for me to ask the question. And yes, the pictures were a minor issue. Shagnasty, I so wish I’d thought of that! Ha ---
**Author:** ![Ken001](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/43a26b/32.png) [@Ken001](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ken001)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/49 "2014-11-07T12:11:52Z")
> [@Merneith](#): > > It’s tacky as hell… > > It doesn’t lend itself to a professional atmosphere - unless his profession is Talent Agency, of course. But in truth, there are very few professions where “let me tell you how sexy my wife is” is an appropriate statement. > > I don’t blame you for being annoyed by it. Hear hear. In 30 years of business I’ve never seen any such pics in an office. Once upon a time there were girly calendars in break rooms (called smoko rooms in NZ) and the toilets of blue collar workplaces, but they disappeared years ago. Never in an office. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/50 "2014-11-07T12:30:59Z")
I think you should find a different place to work and, once there, make an effort to remain completely ignorant of your boss’s personal life. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/51 "2014-11-07T13:23:00Z")
It’s not as bad as I feared. I was worried that the blood would have stained the carpet. ---
**Author:** ![rbroome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/52 "2014-11-07T14:16:36Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > Closer to your second example Nemo. > > They weren’t huge photos, but you couldn’t help but notice them if you had to deal with him in his office. > > So, it’s just me. I think other things I know about him may be affecting my judgement on this. > > Thanks guys. I’m a guy and given that the photos are “cheesecake” like the second example, they are inappropriate for the office. One photo of his wife appropriately attired on a beach is OK. 1 or more sexy pictures isn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/53 "2014-11-07T16:36:26Z")
> [@Scumpup](#): > > I think you should find a different place to work and, once there, make an effort to remain completely ignorant of your boss’s personal life. From the OP: > [@](#): > > My ex boss So presumably, he has found a different place to work. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2014, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852/54 "2014-11-07T18:11:12Z")
Yes, ex boss, but trust me, they are the ones who brought the personal into the office. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-ex-boss-had-three-pictures-of-his-wife-in-a-bikini-scattered-around-his-office/703852.md?page=2)