# My father has died, long, sorry **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 13, 2014, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397 "2014-09-13T17:17:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/41 "2014-09-13T22:10:40Z")
I’m sorry **Baker**. Losing a parent is hard. (((((( **Baker** and family)))))) ---
**Author:** ![BobArrgh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobarrgh/32/2881_2.png) [@BobArrgh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobArrgh)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/42 "2014-09-13T22:32:35Z")
**Baker** , you are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. Cherish the warm thoughts of your dad and all the wonderful times you had with him. He and your mom gave you some wonderful gifts, not the least of which was the warm, nurturing relationship he had with his family. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/43 "2014-09-13T22:37:14Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Baker**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/44 "2014-09-13T22:37:36Z")
(((((( **Baker** ))))))) I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/45 "2014-09-13T22:39:59Z")
I’m so sorry. I know a little how you feel – my mom died years ago, and my father, well, probably won’t be around for more than another six months or so (I’m probably more than a few years older than you). I don’t know _exactly_ how you feel, of course – everyone is different, but I’m so sorry for your loss. Your father must have been quite a man to engender so much love in his child. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/46 "2014-09-13T22:48:02Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Baker**. I miss my dad every day. StG ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/47 "2014-09-13T22:49:45Z")
So sorry to hear this, **Baker**. I’m lost for words and wishing there was something helpful I could say or do. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/48 "2014-09-14T00:14:57Z")
My condolences, **Baker**. This really, really sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/49 "2014-09-14T00:17:36Z")
So sorry to hear this - don’t worry about crying or not. Everyone grieves in their own way, and it will come or not, and either way is ok. Sympathies and internet hugs. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/50 "2014-09-14T00:17:53Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. I am wishing you strength. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/51 "2014-09-14T00:28:13Z")
What a terrible thing, I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/52 "2014-09-14T00:35:44Z")
My condolences. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/53 "2014-09-14T00:46:33Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > {{{ **Baker** }}} > > Married for 62 years means probably early/mid 80’s & still riding a motorcycle. That is _awesome_! I’m just home for a moment to take care of my dog and cat. Dad would have been 86 in November. And everyone else, thanks for the condolences and prayers. I will write more about my dad when I feel I can. There’s the story about what he did to the head of a real estate office…and I used to wonder where I got my ornery impulses. ---
**Author:** ![Atomic\_Mama](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b5ac83/32.png) [@Atomic\_Mama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atomic_Mama)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/54 "2014-09-14T00:53:20Z")
Baker, I am so sorry about your loss. Be sure to take care of yourself. Your Doper friend, Amy ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/55 "2014-09-14T00:53:22Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have some advice, use it or not, i’m just words in a little box, after all. You don’t have to hold it together, not even for your Mom. She knows you just lost you DAD. Cry whenever you need to, it’s healthy, not just emotionally, but physically too. And talk. Talk about how you feel, talk about your Dad. When people say stupid things, don’t be polite. Anyone with brain cells less than a foot apart, will understand. We here, are great listeners. (Because you can turn us off.) Friends will ask what they can do. TELL them in direct, precise terms. Like, “I need clean laundry, can you do that?” Some may laugh, thinking you’re joking, but if you say it enough, someone will come do the laundry. Grief kept inside will become poison and come out anyway. It will boil over and scald you and those around you. The pain won’t ever go away, but as time goes on, you trip over it less often. One day, you’ll realize you haven’t run into even once. Eventually, you’ll find it only hits you on special days, like his birthday. I say all this from personal experience. It’s been 13 years since my son died. I can now talk about him without tearing up. I still miss him, but, I’ve come to terms with it. It took 12 years, but I’m better. You will be too. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/56 "2014-09-14T00:54:38Z")
**Baker** , you dad sounds awesome. Tell us more about him. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/57 "2014-09-14T01:07:43Z")
I am so sorry to hear this. ☹ He sounds like an awesome dad. ((( **Baker** ))) ---
**Author:** ![Artemis\_Tardis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4bbf92/32.png) [@Artemis\_Tardis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Artemis_Tardis)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/58 "2014-09-14T01:34:13Z")
I am terribly sorry for your loss, Baker. It is ok to cry. It is not a sign of weakness at all. Your father sure was proud of you, and it seems that he was an amazing person. If you need anything… you can talk with me. I offer internet hugs, a shoulder and pictures of puppies. Try to stay with the happy memories. Those are the ones who will last. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/59 "2014-09-14T01:48:28Z")
{{{{{Baker}}}}} And unrelated, but for some reason, after all these years I thought you were a male. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/60 "2014-09-14T02:13:51Z")
Oh, I’m so terribly sorry to hear it Baker. My sincere condolences. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397.md?page=4)