# My father has died, long, sorry **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 13, 2014, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397 "2014-09-13T17:17:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Inter\_Alia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@Inter\_Alia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inter_Alia)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/61 "2014-09-14T02:37:25Z")
I’m so sorry, **Baker**. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/62 "2014-09-14T02:45:56Z")
My goodness, **Baker**. What a sad day…and what a lovely post. My peace to you, your mother and the rest of your family. ---
**Author:** ![Clothilde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Clothilde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothilde)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/63 "2014-09-14T02:55:15Z")
I’m so, so sorry. In January it will be 30 years since I lost my dad, and I still miss him. Your dad sounds like an awesome fellow! ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/64 "2014-09-14T03:00:45Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds wonderful. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/65 "2014-09-14T03:13:03Z")
Oh…my dear **Baker** …I’m so sorry to hear this! Grieving is a very personal, unique experience. A good friend of mine lost someone just last week, and today was the first time we had a chance to really talk…parts of the afternoon were poingent. Parts were the usual joking around. Parts were full of tears. It’s different for each person, and each moment. Cherish the memories…and share them with those you care about. {{ **Baker** }} ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/66 "2014-09-14T04:44:43Z")
Dear **Baker** , I am very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/67 "2014-09-14T05:49:47Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/68 "2014-09-14T08:26:31Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Baker**. When the tears do come, let them flow. Give into them, it will be freeing. I hope your faith gives you comfort and strength. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/69 "2014-09-14T09:01:49Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss **Baker**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/70 "2014-09-14T13:53:27Z")
Oh, twin, so sorry – wishing peace and strength to all who loved your father. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/71 "2014-09-14T14:46:09Z")
**Baker** fwiw, I attended the nine o’clock Lutheran (wrong flavor of Lutheran I know) service this morning and offered prayers for your father and the family during Prayers of The People. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/72 "2014-09-14T15:59:09Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. My father has been gone for just under two years. I still miss him. I can still hear his voice (in my head) and his “Hi baby! Just called to see how you’re doing” greeting when he called me on the phone. Don’t worry about holding it in; we all grieve differently and at different times. It will sneak up on you, but that’s okay. Sending good thoughts to you and the family. I hope you find peace in happy memories of him. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/73 "2014-09-14T19:33:56Z")
So sorry for your loss, **Baker**. ---
**Author:** ![Shoeless](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shoeless/32/7099_2.png) [@Shoeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shoeless)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/74 "2014-09-14T19:56:08Z")
**Baker** , sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like quite a guy. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/75 "2014-09-14T20:16:16Z")
Very sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like a really good guy. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/76 "2014-09-14T20:38:40Z")
I’ll tell you all about my Dad and the real estate manager. See, Dad raised three girls, and always tried to be proper in front of us, no swearing, and so on. I used to wonder where **MY** ornery impulses came from. Well, at one point my dad had to sell the house we did most of our growing up in. I don’t know exactly how it was handled, but at the closing my Dad had to have about $2000 dollars, to cover some gap in prices. He was going to write a personal check, but the manager said he to have a certified check, not a personal one. Dad took this as a slight, implying that his signature wasn’t good enough. So at the time of closing, when the office manager asked for the money, Dad produced a sack and upended it on the guy’s desk. It was full of ones and fives Dad had got at the bank, and taken out of their sleeves. We were told by Dad that his one mistake was not taking the money back when the guy got red in the face and screamed he wouldn’t take it like that. He’d refused legal tender, after all. So then I learned why I am like I am.😛 ---
**Author:** ![Tremblay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e56c9b/32.png) [@Tremblay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tremblay)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/77 "2014-09-14T21:13:21Z")
My condolences to you and your family ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/78 "2014-09-14T21:24:37Z")
My condolences, **Baker**. Walker, it is your steps that are the road, nothing more. Wanderer, there is no road, you build the road as you walk. As you walk you build the road and when you turn to look back you see a long path which you will never walk over again. Wanderer, there is no road, only trails across the waves. (Antonio Machado, _Caminante no hay camino_, translation mine and don’t ask me why it sprang to mind) ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/79 "2014-09-14T21:30:54Z")
My condolences **Baker**. May you and your family find some peace in the coming days. kam ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397/80 "2014-09-14T22:45:08Z")
I’m so, so sorry you lost your Daddy, honey. You & yours will be in my prayers. (Plus also, I’d like to hear some more stories, when you can) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died-long-sorry/698397.md?page=5)