# My Father Has Died.

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died/327122>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [October 20, 2005, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died/327122 "2005-10-20T18:43:44Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\
**Post date:** [October 24, 2005, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died/327122/61 "2005-10-24T23:48:52Z")

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> [@featherlou](#):
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> One of the best takes I’ve ever heard on parent-child relationships is that your parents weren’t _trying_ to be bad parents, or make your life miserable; in most cases, they were actually doing the best they could, just like I am doing now, living _my_ life. That idea helped me put away a lot of my old anger at my father.

Well said, my friend. It sure rings true- neither parent is a bad parent. Dad had a wicked temper and was quicker to yell than to hug. However, a lot of percieved insults may well have just been Dad living his life day to day.

Well worth examining…

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**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\
**Post date:** [October 25, 2005, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-died/327122/62 "2005-10-25T00:37:42Z")

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He will go on living in your memory of him, and in the memory of all those you tell about him, my friend.

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