# My father has passed away. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 22, 2015, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567 "2015-05-22T04:25:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Time\_Like\_Tears](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df705f/32.png) [@Time\_Like\_Tears](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Time_Like_Tears)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/1 "2015-05-22T04:25:33Z")
I just wanted to let all of my dear SDMB friends, especially those of you following my story [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=752584), that my daddy has passed away. Cait and I were with him today, keeping him as comfortable as we could. He got his last bath, a nice clean shirt, and maybe felt like he was presentable enough to meet his maker, because shortly after that he breathed his last. I’m heartbroken, I’m numb, but most of all right now? I’m thankful for an end to his pain. Thank you all again for your support and care. I’ll give you fine people updates on the outcomes we found a little later. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/2 "2015-05-22T04:34:10Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/3 "2015-05-22T04:40:37Z")
Losing parents is especially tough. Deepest sympathies and best of wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/4 "2015-05-22T04:42:07Z")
Thinking of you. Heartfelt condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/5 "2015-05-22T14:54:48Z")
I’m so sorry, **Time**. ---
**Author:** ![Grrlbrarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrlbrarian/32/4048_2.png) [@Grrlbrarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrlbrarian)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/6 "2015-05-22T15:04:56Z")
{{{ **Time** }}} I’m so sorry about your dad’s passing. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/7 "2015-05-22T15:38:53Z")
I’m so sorry for you and your family, my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/8 "2015-05-22T15:47:06Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m glad he was with family when it happened. ---
**Author:** ![stillownedbysetters](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@stillownedbysetters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stillownedbysetters)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/9 "2015-05-22T16:44:19Z")
My most sincere condolences on the loss of your father. I was able to be with my mother when she drew her last breaths, holding her hand and telling her how much I loved her and how much she meant to me. Like your dad, she’d been very sick and suffering and I was relieved for her that she was passing from my hands into God’s hands. It is never ok to watch someone you love suffer. But it is perfectly ok to be relieved when that suffering ends. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Whatever4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@Whatever4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whatever4)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/10 "2015-05-23T06:22:17Z")
My condolences. I was with my dad when he died. It’s been 50 years and I still miss him. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/11 "2015-05-23T20:55:59Z")
I’m so sorry. I hope everything works out as all of you wanted. Hugs. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/12 "2015-05-23T21:38:21Z")
I’m so very, very sorry, hon. You seemed to have such a wonderful relationship with your dad and I’m sure he was comforted to have you all right there with him through everything. May you find peace in so much love. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/13 "2015-05-23T21:43:09Z")
Losing a beloved father is so tough. I’m sorry for your loss. Keep in touch here, Dopers were good to me when I suffered the same loss. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/14 "2015-05-24T00:21:36Z")
My deepest sympathy for your loss. May all the good memories you have of him quickly outweigh the pain. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/15 "2015-05-24T01:24:35Z")
My sincerest condolences. I hope that he had some comfort knowing you’d be able to keep the house. StG ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/16 "2015-05-24T01:32:09Z")
My sympathies. May he rest in peace. ---
**Author:** ![Time\_Like\_Tears](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df705f/32.png) [@Time\_Like\_Tears](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Time_Like_Tears)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/17 "2015-05-25T18:40:37Z")
Thank you, everyone. We’re hanging in there. Of course, I am faced with more drama and worry because nothing is ever easy…The VA National Cemetery Association is giving us crap about his eligibility to be buried at Fort Mitchell. What should have been simple, cut and dried, is now dragging out over this long Memorial Day weekend, and I still don’t know for sure when/if/where we’ll be able to lay him to rest. This is my nightmare. I am still holding off on my grief as best I can, because my work isn’t done. I am hoping we don’t have to make emergency arrangements somewhere else because we simply cannot afford it. I am hoping the VA comes back with the correct answer tomorrow. I appreciate all your kind words, you help me keep my strength. Just a little longer, and it’ll all be over one way or another. I can make it. ---
**Author:** ![singular1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba9def/32.png) [@singular1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/singular1)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-has-passed-away/720567/18 "2015-05-25T21:25:48Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother near Christmas and it was my first really close lost - I feel your pain. I hope you have someone close to help you through this.