# My father-in-law just passed **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 27, 2014, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339 "2014-05-27T02:00:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2014, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/1 "2014-05-27T02:00:29Z")
This is a PSA - quit smoking! He was a life-long smoker, and lung cancer ended up killing him. Maybe he thought it was a reasonable deal - a (possibly) longer life traded for 60 years of smoking. Anyway, we knew it was close to the end when he no longer had the energy to go outside and smoke. I wish I could say that I knew him well, but he was the most taciturn guy I’ve ever met. I the ten years I knew him, he probably only said 1,000 words. Still, he was a good husband and father, and pretty easygoing. He never embraced technology - I’m not sure he ever looked at a website. I’m posting this here because I’d like some small memorial to him to exist in cyberspace. ---
**Author:** ![oliviamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ee59a6/32.png) [@oliviamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oliviamia)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2014, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/2 "2014-10-15T19:56:23Z")
Technology probably saved my life because I saw pictures of patients with oral cancer and it scared the crap out of me. I quit 13 month’s ago and feel so much better. The chances of me contracting lung cancer is still there though because I smoked for 40 years. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/3 "2014-10-16T01:51:04Z")
He literally loved smoking more than life itself. Maybe he thought the trade-off was worth it in the end. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/4 "2014-10-16T03:23:22Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s so hard to lose those we care about. My sympathies also to our spouse. Losing a parent is awful. Speaking of smoking, did you ever see the commercial Yul Brynner made before he died? I never smoked, but it still made an impression on me. [![]( " - YouTube") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PzNrQTkdI8Q) ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/5 "2014-10-16T04:06:36Z")
I’m sorry for you and your wife’s family. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/6 "2014-10-16T04:19:29Z")
My grandmother had three sisters. She and one sister were smokers, and both of them died of smoking-related illnesses 30 years ago. The other two sisters never smoked; they’re in their 90s now and seem prepared to live forever. It’s sad when it takes a good person away. My condolences, **beowulff**. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/7 "2014-10-16T04:52:48Z")
Thanks, everyone. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2014, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-in-law-just-passed/689339/8 "2014-10-16T06:25:23Z")
I’m so sorry. That’s so rough to watch. My dad and my sister died at 58 and 57 respectively, of lung cancer due to smoking. It’s a slow, painful, suicide.