# My father is dead. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 13, 2004, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017 "2004-03-13T02:42:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/21 "2004-03-13T05:16:45Z")
**LouisB** , I’m really very sorry for your loss. And it is a loss and a huge hole and I really don’t think you can be ready for the pain of losing a parent. Age and illness is irrelevant. My Dad died a month before yours, Feb. 11, 2004, seven years almost to the day after my Mom died. I knew it was coming, he had been ill for awhile. It still hurts like hell. My saving grace is that I know he found peace and I hope you have something similar to hold on to. My heart goes out to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![gooti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/eb8c5e/32.png) [@gooti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gooti)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 6:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/22 "2004-03-13T06:03:24Z")
I’m truly sorry for your loss and I know what you’re going through. My father died 4 days before my 22nd birthday…so I know what it’s like to lose a parent. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/23 "2004-03-13T06:17:06Z")
My thanks to all of you who have responded. I had to go to the funeral home, so didn’t have a chance to reply until now. I feel somewhat better after having seen him, but it is still quite a jolt even though I knew it was coming. Again, thanks to all. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/24 "2004-03-13T19:33:25Z")
I don’ t know if we’re ever prepared to lose a loved one, even when it’s not unexpected. It’s been a year and a half since my dad died, and I still can’t quite believe it. I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![MoodIndigo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/25 "2004-03-13T19:45:14Z")
My condolences, Louis, to you and your family. I saw this thread earlier, but every time I tried to read and respond, my tears were blinding me. I feel your sadness, yet a huge part of me feels jealous of all those years you’ve had with your dad. Mine died when I was five, I’ve missed him in so many ways. I cherish the few memories I have of him. ---
**Author:** ![Merkwurdigliebe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/74df32/32.png) [@Merkwurdigliebe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merkwurdigliebe)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/26 "2004-03-13T20:20:37Z")
Sorry to hear that Louis, I find that when loved ones pass it is helpful to be positive. At least you had 64 years with him. I sure hope my Dad lives to be that old, but I am not too optimistic. ☹ Life just isn’t fair ☹ Sorry to hear it. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/27 "2004-03-13T20:27:54Z")
You were very lucky to have him to be such a vital force in your life for 64 years. My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![OldBroad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@OldBroad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OldBroad)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/28 "2004-03-13T21:28:34Z")
My condolences, Louis. No matter how well prepared we think we are when we know that death is close for someone we love, it still hurts more than we’re prepared for. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/29 "2004-03-14T00:23:36Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about your father. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017/30 "2004-03-14T03:28:28Z")
Consider it this way: you had 64 whole years with him. Not very many get this chance. And he isn’t in any physical pain wherever he is. Pain over, he can focus on watching over his loved ones. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-dead/234017.md?page=1)