# My Father Is In the Hospital Now. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 20, 2011, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279 "2011-01-20T03:01:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jim\_B](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jim_b/32/4338_2.png) [@Jim\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jim_B)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/1 "2011-01-20T03:01:21Z")
My father noticed blood in his urine and had a nose that bled whenever he got out of bed last Sunday, Jan. 16. We finally called the ambulance when the nosebleed wouldn’t go away (FYI: he takes the blood thinner Warfarin, and this is not uncommon, realize). At first it seemed like nothing, I even told the operator, Take your time, at first. But then as he lay on the couch waiting for the ambulance, he slipped into unconsciousness. He never woke up, and the doctor says he has no independent brain function. He probably won’t recover. I am usu. hesitant to go into personal detail on these boards. But my father was my rock and my anchor. I loved him very much. I lived on disability at home with him. And I relied on him in many ways. As I told you all on [another](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=433838&goto=newpost) post a while ago, my father was never the same after an incident in 2007. But we still had fun together. We went on boat cruises, we took vacations, we went to concerts. And I had no reason to believe I’d lose him now, none at all. After another tragedy in 2004, I started telling my father I loved him–several times a day in fact, he was my life after all. You see, prior to that, it didn’t seem appropriate for a male relative to tell another male relative he loved him. But now I know if you don’t do it now, you may never get the chance again really. I know I’ve never said this before. But I feel a sort of kinship with the rest of you on these boards. Belonging some place is important, you know. Although it says I joined the boards in 2002, that is actually due to a glitch that happened then. I actually joined in 2001–ten years ago exactly. As you can see, I also posted my 1000th post recently. I look forward to reading all you replies to this. And if any of you have advice to give (they may put my father in hospice soon), I’d be glad to hear that too, even under the circumstances. Yeah, my signature says Love Takes No Less Than Everything. I used to think it was my mother (1927-1996) who inspired me to say that. But now I know it was my father too:). 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/2 "2011-01-20T03:04:30Z")
I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through, **Jim**. My grandfather’s been deteriorating and I know it’s rough to see someone you love not doing so great health wise. You’re in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/3 "2011-01-20T03:17:18Z")
I’m relatively new here, so I can’t claim to be in the “kinship” yet…but I know what you mean. I’m worried about my father as well. My sister and I talk about him after most family dinners, and realize that he’s getting more and more forgetful…and…well, this is your thread, not mine. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. One thing that helps a lot of people is to reach out to friends, just to talk. I guess you’re doing that IRL…I know you’re doing it here. Years ago, I made it a practice to end every phone call to my parents with “I love you”…because it’s true. I hope you find the strength and peace to get through this. -D/a ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/4 "2011-01-20T04:18:06Z")
Sending good thoughts to you and your Dad. Sorry to hear he’s not doing well. You are very good to him. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/5 "2011-01-20T11:01:11Z")
So sorry to hear this, Jim ☹_hugs_ ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/6 "2011-01-20T11:08:05Z")
I’m sorry to hear your news, **Jim**. Please keep us updated on your father’s condition and on how you’re doing. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 11:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/7 "2011-01-20T11:33:37Z")
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You and your dad sound like you have a special relationship many of us would envy. ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/8 "2011-01-20T11:44:33Z")
I’m so sorry to hear this, **Jim**. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/9 "2011-01-20T13:06:43Z")
Jim I am sorry to hear your news. Nothing I can say here will make it any easier, but none-the-less, allow me to send supporting thoughts your way. ---
**Author:** ![leander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/bcef8e/32.png) [@leander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leander)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/10 "2011-01-20T13:29:06Z")
God bless you and yours, Jim. You’ve got lots of friends here, even if you don’t know it. You’re in my prayers. Regards, leander ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/11 "2011-01-20T14:10:58Z")
Sending love, prayers and good thoughts to you and your dad, **Jim**. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/12 "2011-01-20T14:33:51Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/13 "2011-01-20T14:39:45Z")
**Jim** , I’m sorry to hear this. I lost my father in September, so I can imagine what you’re going through. However, I’m afraid I’m woefully short of advice. This is the sort of thing you just have to get through as best you can, painful as it is. Okay, one bit of advice. Lean on the rest of your family and let them lean on you. Do the best you can for each other. ---
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/14 "2011-01-20T14:47:23Z")
I’m really sorry. It’s so good that you’ve been telling him that you love him. Letting someone know they are loved is the best gift you can give to them. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/15 "2011-01-20T15:13:34Z")
You and your father are in my prayers. I see no downside at all in telling your dad that you love him. I do it the same as you - I may not get the chance next time. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/16 "2011-01-20T15:26:14Z")
**JimB** your father and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I too think it’s great you’ve made it a point to tell him you love him. Lean on us and your IRL friends and family as much as you need to because that’s what we and they are here for. Please remember to take care of yourself also. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/17 "2011-01-20T16:00:18Z")
Whichever way things go, **Jim** , may this be over soon. Best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/18 "2011-01-20T16:18:59Z")
Best wishes to you in this difficult time. ---
**Author:** ![Merneith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Merneith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merneith)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2011, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/19 "2011-01-20T16:41:08Z")
Your father raised a good son. Best wishes to you both. ---
**Author:** ![Jim\_B](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jim_b/32/4338_2.png) [@Jim\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jim_B)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2011, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279/20 "2011-01-23T01:39:02Z")
Very sad news, everybody. My father died today. They removed his life support, and he died peacefully shortly after. He was never in any pain. I loved my father very much. What I remember most about him is, although very religious, he never wore it on his sleeve. On the contrary, he put it into practice every day (e.g., he gave to numerous charities–and often just to people on the street that asked him). His charity, and compassion, were beyond compare. He will be very missed by all who knew him. Thank you all for your prayers and support, James~ [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-father-is-in-the-hospital-now/568279.md?page=2)