# My fiance miscarried today. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 6, 2003, 10:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847 "2003-04-06T10:23:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 10:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/1 "2003-04-06T10:23:53Z")
Man. Well, technically not my fiance until later today (Sunday) but it’s pretty much a done deal. I just have to propose. We were at my daughters first t-ball game today. A lot of fun. When we were walking back to the car, she started cramping up. It got worse, and she started getting worried. She had miscarried about 3 years ago, back when her and her first husband were trying to catch. It crushed her pretty badly. She told me she was afraid, because this felt just like it had 3 years ago. The difference was, we haven’t been trying to get pregnant or anything. Pills taken like clockwork, for over 2 years now. No problems. When we got home, she check and sure enough, she was bleeding. She’s been crying, off and on, since then. She’s upset, but not as bad as before, mostly because it was such a surprise. I’m pretty stunned myself. I don’t quite no how to feel… part of it just doesn’t seem real to me. I can’t post this on my LJ, because quite a few people read it that she doesn’t want to know about it, so I’m writing this here. I’ve always felt that writing about something is a good catharsis. Hopefully I’ll be able to post about the much better day later on, after I’ve proposed. Wish me luck… I may need it. ---
**Author:** ![Kal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Kal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kal)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/2 "2003-04-06T10:36:57Z")
Our condolances to the both of you. My wife and I have been through six miscarriages, our last baby was due this weekend. Give your fiance plenty of hugs, even though it’s been 6 months my wife still needs them now and again. ---
**Author:** ![Kat\_Lady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Kat\_Lady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kat_Lady)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/3 "2003-04-06T10:43:40Z")
I wish there was something I could do! Tell her we will be there later today with lots of hugs and a large box of tissues for all of us, hopefully the surprise planned for today will help her feel a little better. I have walked it those shoes and it is one pair that really make your feet hurt, and the rest of you as well. Things like this really make me wish I was closer. Damn! Love you all!! For the uninformed, I am Tristan’s mother. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 10:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/4 "2003-04-06T10:48:10Z")
I’m so sorry, **Tristan**. My prayers are with you. My Love, Cheri ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/5 "2003-04-06T10:54:14Z")
Thanks all. I’m thinking of sneaking into work on Monday morning and forwarding a link to this thread for her. I don’t know for sure, I’ll have to see how she’s doing. Again, I appreciate the good wishes. And I’ll see you in a handful of hours, mom! ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/6 "2003-04-06T11:37:44Z")
That sucks, **Tristan**. Really sorry to hear it. Glad you’re going to propose. And **Kal** , too. Give **Washte** a hug from me. ---
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/7 "2003-04-06T12:08:03Z")
I’m very sorry to hear that this happened to y’all. Best Wishes for your proposal and marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Fritz\_The\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f17d59/32.png) [@Fritz\_The\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fritz_The_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/8 "2003-04-06T13:19:05Z")
So sorry to hear that. ---
**Author:** ![skankweirdall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@skankweirdall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/skankweirdall)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/9 "2003-04-06T13:30:40Z")
I’m so sorry to hear that. My sincere condolances to both of you. Best wishes and good luck on the proposal. ---
**Author:** ![Ashkicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4bbf92/32.png) [@Ashkicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashkicker)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/10 "2003-04-06T13:33:10Z")
I am very sorry to hear this. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/11 "2003-04-06T13:39:11Z")
I am very sorry for the loss of your child. Wishing you both the very best. Washte **jjimm** , **Kal** passed on your hugs earlier. Thank you muchly. They are much needed today. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/12 "2003-04-06T13:48:27Z")
I’m so very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/13 "2003-04-06T13:57:55Z")
You’re in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/14 "2003-04-06T14:48:43Z")
Let’s not dwell on the ‘less positive’, sad as it may be. Congratulations to you both! Many, MANY years of happiness. ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/15 "2003-04-06T14:52:43Z")
Hmmm…That just didn’t…come out right, didn’t it? The last thing I would like here is sound insensitive. But you know what I meant…Hopefully. ---
**Author:** ![Atreyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@Atreyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atreyu)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/16 "2003-04-06T14:55:40Z")
My sympathies to you and your fiance. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/17 "2003-04-06T15:22:30Z")
My sympathies to both of you. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/18 "2003-04-06T16:20:48Z")
I’m so sorry your fiance has to go through this again, but am comforted knowing she has you to support her through this tragedy. Be well and take care of one another. ---
**Author:** ![corvidae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@corvidae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corvidae)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/19 "2003-04-06T16:22:59Z")
Oh, Tristan, I’m so sorry. I hope this gets a little easier for both of you as time goes on. I’m actually struggling with the very same thing myself right now - I just miscarried an unplanned pregnancy this past Wednesday. I was on the pill and the timing wasn’t stellar, lifewise, but my husband and I are both devastated. I’m just glad we hadn’t told anyone yet - I couldn’t face the idea of having to share this with friends and family right now. ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847/20 "2003-04-06T19:20:39Z")
Tristan, I am so sorry. It is a very sad thing. And corvidae, let me also express my condolences. Even when it isn’t planned, you wonder what might have been. I’ll be sending all my best thoughts to you. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-fiance-miscarried-today/166847.md?page=2)