# My first TMI thread...or, where my best friend lets me go down on his wife... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 2, 2003, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064 "2003-04-02T22:12:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Phlosphr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Phlosphr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phlosphr)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/81 "2003-04-03T14:25:52Z")
Dirk I think you just jumped the shark in your own post… > [@](#): > > snip… **Me: So, you’re really okay with this?..** That says to me there was something in the back of your mind that made you second guess your wifes probable response. If the OP is true, I’d becareful if I were you. Thats says to me that there was some reason you asked if it was OK, whereas in your posts you say she was completely Ok with it… Sorry for being overly analytical - it’s my profession, does it to me every time. ---
**Author:** ![DirkGntly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d9b06d/32.png) [@DirkGntly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DirkGntly)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/82 "2003-04-03T14:34:50Z")
It was a (relatively) new experience for me, **Phlosphr** …I was just double-checking…better to be absolutely certain the first time, than to have to deal with weirdness later… “No, I wasn’t really serious about letting you do _THAT_!” “But, you said…!” etc., etc… ---
**Author:** ![Phlosphr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Phlosphr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phlosphr)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/83 "2003-04-03T14:37:46Z")
Dirk - HaHaHa!! I bet… Personally, my wife would hide strap me on a pine board and send me down the colorado river if I ever asked her that… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/84 "2003-04-03T15:22:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coda \*\*\* > > We _are_ in **IMHO** right? I am not pushing my morals on anyone else. I am stating my opinion, last I knew I could do that in this forum. \*\* I think people are reacting to the “Mods, please!” comment. It seemed like you were expressing your wish that the thread be closed in accordance with your moral standards. Many people are posting to make it known that they wish for the thread to stay open. Nobody’s trying to silence you. Re: the OP… I don’t really have anything to say that hasn’t been said. I guess I just can’t resist posting to cunnilingus-related threads. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/85 "2003-04-03T16:12:33Z")
> [@](#): > > I only _come_ to the SDMB to read the articles…I swear… Heh. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/86 "2003-04-03T16:14:40Z")
**Drk** was Sara wearing cute pajama pants? 😃 > [@](#): > > I, for example, could eat pussy all day, easily. What? You live near a chinese restaurant? \ ---
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/87 "2003-04-03T16:22:43Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by \*\* DirkGntly \*\* > … I was just double-checking…better to be absolutely certain the first time, than to have to deal with weirdness later… > > “No, I wasn’t really serious about letting you do _THAT_!” > “But, you said…!” > > etc., etc… … since when did women ever say what they really mean? 😃 just kidding, _hides_ ---
**Author:** ![Hamlet](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hamlet/32/2818_2.png) [@Hamlet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamlet)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/88 "2003-04-03T16:33:15Z")
**Kay Kay ???** Is that you??? ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/89 "2003-04-03T16:55:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gary Kumquat \* > \*\*Complete, utter, agreement with you. > > “Hi babe, how’s it going? Good day? We’re out of what…yeah…oh…sure, I can pick that up on my way home. Anyway, I’m just at Jim and Jane’s, and I was wondering if I can go down on Jane?” > > I wouldn’t see another sunrise. \*\* But would you be seeing a _moon_? Ha-ha . . . Get it . . . ? MOON . . . ? OK, I’m leaving now. ---
**Author:** ![NicePete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ee7513/32.png) [@NicePete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NicePete)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/90 "2003-04-03T17:17:27Z")
[OLD JOKE] **Random Doper** : So, **Coda** why are you telling us all this? **Coda** : Dude, I’m telling _Everybody_![/OLD JOKE] ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/91 "2003-04-03T17:34:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ChuckForbin \* > \*\*Hey **Giraffe** , what happened to your “prehensile” sig ? > Did you remove it for this particular thread ? > It cracks me up every time I read it … \*\* You’re right – if ever there was a thread in which it was relevant, this would be it. :smack: Well, better late than never: ---
**Author:** ![birdgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/51bf81/32.png) [@birdgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/birdgirl)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/92 "2003-04-03T17:39:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\* Frankly the description in the OP read a bit like stereo instructions for me. Not a twinge of oooh at all… \*\* No twinge of oooh at all? Wow. I was ooohing and aaahing the whole time. Thanks Dirk for presenting the technique in such an educational fashion. I too was like your friend’s wife, who thought I couldn’t “achieve my objective” with oral sex. But now I think there is hope! I can’t tell you how many guys, upon finding out I have never had an O with oral sex, promised me they could do it. HAH! AS IF! And at the time I thought it was just me, but now I know it was THEM, thanks to your description. Now I think it is possible for a guy to do it the right way! Thanks again Dirk. ---
**Author:** ![mamm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@mamm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mamm)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/93 "2003-04-03T18:09:00Z")
I’m with DMark and Gary Kumquat. The conversation between DirkGntly and wife if surreal. No way, man. Nice try. ---
**Author:** ![mamm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@mamm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mamm)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/94 "2003-04-03T18:11:03Z")
Obviously, “if” should be “is”. Preview is my friend… ---
**Author:** ![DirkGntly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d9b06d/32.png) [@DirkGntly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DirkGntly)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/95 "2003-04-03T18:25:19Z")
**mamm,** The conversation is genuine - and I’m sure similar conversations have taken place with others. Were it not so, there would be no swingers, or open relationships, and I think we can agree that those type of relationships exist, can we not? Some who have posted in this thread are in open relationships. Those relationships have to start _somewhere…_ **BottledBlondJeanie,** It’s good to see you participating here (albeit briefly). This couple is the couple with whom we attended the “club” two weeks ago, but this incident happened the week before that. It hasn’t been repeated, and likely isn’t to be repeated anytime soon…but we are planning on going back to the club this week or next. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mamm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@mamm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mamm)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/96 "2003-04-03T18:45:58Z")
Dirk, sure, that conversation is plausible. In fact, seeing that you and your wife are on your way to “swingerdom” (judging by your response to BottledBlondJeanie), I would say that the conversation is more than just plausible. Sorry, it was just my skeptical monogamous-minded knee-jerk reaction. But, before you travel farther in this path, are you sure you are confortable in seeing your wife, say, giving head to someone else? Man, that takes an enourmous amount of “open-mindedness”, much more than I have… By the way, my average with my GF is 5 mins… ---
**Author:** ![mamm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@mamm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mamm)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/97 "2003-04-03T18:48:23Z")
DAMN TYPOS! AGAIN! Co"m"fortable! ---
**Author:** ![Igloo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Igloo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Igloo)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/98 "2003-04-03T18:55:00Z")
Although, this scenario would never be OK in my world, I am definitely on the side of “to each his own.” The thing that gets me is the altruistic slant, as if it would almost be **selfish** and **wrong** for you to have kept this unbelievable technique of yours all to yourself. If I can make an analogy, your reasons for “helping out” are like tight brown polyester pants with a red shirt open to the navel and mirroed sunglasses. Also, not be nitpicky but if you could write down clinical point by point instructions so that we can all benefit too, then why couldn’t you just write the same down and give it to your best and let him at least try it and **then** call in the big guns if he’s still a failure. If it is simply a matter of your presence being absolutely necessary for orgasm production, then aren’t you in some ways being horribly mean by letting her experience such pleasure when her inferior piece of husband can never live up to you? ---
**Author:** ![X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bbe5ce/32.png) [@X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/X_Slayer_ALE)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/99 "2003-04-03T19:28:53Z")
I just read the OP… I need a cigarette. Anyone want a cigarette? I want a cigarette. I dont smoke but i just have this urge to have a cigarette. Is it hot where you guys are? You guys sure you dont want a cigarette? Oy… \ I gotta save that… What wouldve made that hotter wouldve been if Dirks wife came over and… :eek: Maybe in another thread… 😛 anyone have a cigarette…?? ---
**Author:** ![DirkGntly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d9b06d/32.png) [@DirkGntly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DirkGntly)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064/100 "2003-04-03T19:37:22Z")
**Igloo,** I think it was a “spur of the moment” thing, as to why I demonstratred, rather than merely described. At the end of my OP, I indicated that the husband was now managing fairly well on his own. I honestly hope someone DOES get some usefulness out of my description - everything else aside, I suppose I could have merely described my technique and asked for commentary, but I thought it was helpful to include a minimum of background information. Perhaps not, as a lot of folks have become sidetracked by the background information to the point of missing the point of the OP. Oh well, live and learn. And I guess I don’t mind answering the legitimate questions people have, as long as it doesn’t get too far from the original intent. **mamm,** I think I addressed the openness question in an earlier post where I stated > [@](#): > > My wife and I both view oral sex as non-emotionally involved. For some this is not possible, for us it is. Davebear, if my wife really wanted to do that for a guy, I guess I would be okay with it, because I’m not emotionally involved with that particular act. Coitus, or intercourse, I might have a problem with, and don’t intend to go there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-tmi-thread-or-where-my-best-friend-lets-me-go-down-on-his-wife/166064.md?page=6)