# My friend's ex is a loose cannon- NEED ANSWER FAST! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 27, 2015, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610 "2015-04-27T02:47:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/21 "2015-04-27T15:20:14Z")
> [@Ibanez](#): > > Tell her you’re gay. It works. Some of my crazy friends would take that as a challenge, and say you’d just not met the right woman yet. I.e. them. And then stick their tongue down your throat. ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/22 "2015-04-27T15:25:01Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > The men they eventually entrapped did not fare so well, and ended up wasting a lot of time on drama that could have been spent studying, looking for a job, finding a healthy relationship, and so on. You may have hit on an interesting tactic here: “Sorry, lady, I can’t bone you. I have some studying I really need to do.” ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/23 "2015-04-27T15:37:26Z")
When it comes to stalking, she’s rates more of a cap gun, nowhere near a loose cannon, ---
**Author:** ![Lorene89095](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@Lorene89095](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lorene89095)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/24 "2015-04-27T16:46:16Z")
_Fweeeep!!_ (That’s a shrill whistle btw) How old are you,how old is she. My answer depends on your answer. ---
**Author:** ![boffking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/858c86/32.png) [@boffking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boffking)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/25 "2015-04-27T16:54:37Z")
> [@Lorene89095](#): > > _Fweeeep!!_ (That’s a shrill whistle btw) > How old are you,how old is she. My answer depends on your answer. I’m 21, she’s 22. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/26 "2015-04-27T16:56:37Z")
Sorry, I really do fail to see a problem. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/27 "2015-04-27T17:09:52Z")
I’m questioning her characterization of you as “smarter” if you really can’t figure this out on your own. Then again, I don’t know your friend. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/28 "2015-04-27T17:12:09Z")
A girl who is changing phone numbers to stalk you is _too_ crazy to stick your dick in, even at 21. Tell her you’re not interested. If she doesn’t stop bothering you, call the police. ---
**Author:** ![boffking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/858c86/32.png) [@boffking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boffking)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/29 "2015-04-27T17:12:38Z")
My friend she was dating was the subject of[this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=753953) ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/30 "2015-04-27T17:19:49Z")
No wonder she’s crazy. ---
**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/31 "2015-04-27T18:34:16Z")
> [@boffking](#): > > My friend she was dating was the subject of[this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=753953) In that case there is no such thing as a “bullshit excuse” to break up with that guy. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/32 "2015-04-27T20:10:30Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > You may have hit on an interesting tactic here: “Sorry, lady, I can’t bone you. I have some studying I really need to do.” You’ve never taken Thermodynamics or Organic Chemistry have you? While my life choices are certainly no road map to success or happiness I do take some comfort that I have never stuck the dick in the crazy and suffered the possible small consequences of having done so, much less the greater possible ones which would have probably ended in a murder suicide. ---
**Author:** ![Lorene89095](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@Lorene89095](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lorene89095)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/33 "2015-04-27T22:06:14Z")
Ok. Run like hell,find a sane girlfriend. Keep changing the phone number. Do not respond in any way. Do not accept food or drink at any party you and she both attend. Why yes,I’m old enough to be your Great grandmother… Why you ask?? ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/34 "2015-04-27T22:23:37Z")
> [@SmellMyWort](#): > > In that case there is no such thing as a “bullshit excuse” to break up with that guy. Exactly. OTOH, the fact she hung out with him for more than 14 seconds is pretty much proof that she’s nuts. The fact our OP is still hanging out with him is pretty much … Hmmm. I think we may have a solution here. ======== Just kidding. Seriously … She sounds like a real whackjob. The ones that hound you before the first date are way, way way, too hard to get rid of after that dick + crazy thing happens. It was hard in the Olden Dayes before online presence. Nowadays a crazy like that can haunt you to the ends of the earth for the rest of your life. An ounce of prevention is worth a megaton of cure. Whatever you do, follow the advice upthread and don’t get a rabbit. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2015, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/35 "2015-04-27T23:45:10Z")
> [@Ike\_Witt](#): > > Get a pet rabbit. What makes you think the world’s ready for a sequel to _Fatal Attraction_? ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2015, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/36 "2015-04-28T06:09:27Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > You may have hit on an interesting tactic here: “Sorry, lady, I can’t bone you. I have some studying I really need to do.” I have a suspicion that this is pretty much what my husband said to them:D ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2015, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/37 "2015-04-28T06:14:40Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > I disagree, having known a number of instances where the young guys who steered clear of the nutcases had much happier outcomes than the ones who succumbed. > > For example: my husband was energetically pursued by a couple of crazies back when we were all in grad school. They would have slept with him in a heartbeat, but he demurred (and ended up with me instead). The men they eventually entrapped did not fare so well, and ended up wasting a lot of time on drama that could have been spent studying, looking for a job, finding a healthy relationship, and so on. > > Still, everyone needs to make their own choices. If you like sleeping with crazy people who are waving giant red flags in your face, by all means do it! I think the earlier posters were being sarcastic. I sure hope so, anyway. If the genders were reversed, we’d be urging the OP to get law enforcement involved, and a protection order posthaste. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2015, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/38 "2015-04-28T06:20:32Z")
> [@boffking](#): > > My friend she was dating was the subject of[this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=753953) Sounds to me like you need to find some better people to be friends with. ---
**Author:** ![Staggerlee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/staggerlee/32/3134_2.png) [@Staggerlee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Staggerlee)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2015, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/39 "2015-04-28T06:35:00Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > No matter how crazy a woman is, I’m confident I can boink one with out getting her prego’. Inconceivable! But really, for the OP; if this girl left your video-games-obsessed friend to pursue you, you could invite her out for dinner, and when the it’s time to pay, suavely whip out a floppy disk of Prince of Persia for the Commodore Amiga. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2015, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610/40 "2015-04-28T07:13:50Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > Not everyone is that callous though. Even horny guys have been known to behave like decent human beings from time to time. This. In a thread like this, everyone is trying to sound super macho and experienced, but IRL just screwing a woman and then telling her to fuck off is something most guys would find very hard to do. Which is of course a good thing. But the flipside of that is, you can easily find yourself snared, wishing you hadn’t banged someone. However, for the OP, I’m not sure that she seems that crazy yet. What did the OP say to her? In what context did she ask the personal questions…was there a conversation that led up it? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-friends-ex-is-a-loose-cannon-need-answer-fast/718610.md?page=3)