# My GF from College Died **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 28, 2010, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356 "2010-09-28T15:06:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Si\_Amigo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/si_amigo/32/2877_2.png) [@Si\_Amigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Si_Amigo)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/1 "2010-09-28T15:06:49Z")
Hadn’t spoken to her in 25 years; but thanks to the web I was able to keep tabs on her in the recent years (at least it keeps people from physically stalking/being a pain). We were quite close at the time and we were together for three years; I was there when her mom passed away and I was more madly/deeply in love with her than I ever was with my ex-wife. For a variety of reason it wasn’t meant to be; but she had a good heart and I am better person for having known her. 🆒 She is the first person that I’ve had a serious relationship that died; today for the first time in my life that I have actually felt old. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/2 "2010-09-28T15:53:40Z")
Aw, I’m sorry to hear that Si. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/3 "2010-09-28T20:01:35Z")
Sympathies for your loss, **Si Amigo**. I know putting pen to paper is kind of old school, but can you send a note to her dad or sibling with an edited version of what you said here? It might make you feel better to let them know she isn’t forgotten. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/4 "2010-09-29T01:37:55Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > Sympathies for your loss, **Si Amigo**. I know putting pen to paper is kind of old school, but can you send a note to her dad or sibling with an edited version of what you said here? It might make you feel better to let them know she isn’t forgotten. I agree. I’ve been through this more times than I remember, because of AIDS . . . especially the guy who took my virginity in college. I’ve been in contact with his nephew, and that helps (both of us). ---
**Author:** ![banjoDavid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@banjoDavid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/banjoDavid)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/5 "2010-09-29T01:59:21Z")
Sorry to hear that I have been looking at web pages dealing with an impending high school reunion next year. Linda, a girl I went to grade school and high school with, was just listed as having died. No other information. I never really knew her. I had a crush on her in my sophomore year in high school, when we were biology lab partners. I hadn’t started dating yet, and was too shy to really talk to her. Every reunion, every update, I looked for her name. Never any information about her. I was very bummed when I found out she had died. Things never said come back to haunt us. Love David ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/6 "2010-09-29T02:25:45Z")
I’m really sorry to hear that, **Si Amigo**. Peace to you. ---
**Author:** ![Si\_Amigo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/si_amigo/32/2877_2.png) [@Si\_Amigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Si_Amigo)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/7 "2010-09-29T04:48:15Z")
It’s been quite a day; memories, good and bad have come flooding back. That and I had a few drinks because I think that she wouldn’t mind. What caught me off guard was the power if the internet now; I now know what she looked like her [junior year in high school](http://www.bexleyalumni.org/TammyCordellOBrien.htm) and how she looked in her [mid-forty’s(?)](http://www.cotnerfuneralhome.com/Obituaries/obit-display.jhtml?DB=obits&DO=display&ID=1279991953_2029). I would contact her brother to tell him how I feel, but I know that they did not get along at the point that we were together (perhaps that evolved); so I don’t wish to invoke bad memories upon him at this time (peace be with him). I am amazed at what I have gleaned from the internet along with what I knew. She was accepted to Mensa at 10 years of age (I new she was sharp; like a knife when she chose to be). She maintained her beauty throughout the years (sans the Farrah Fawcett doo!) And I could still see that life in her eyes that made her the darling of every person who ever meet her. All I can think is that “WOW!; she actually loved me at one point in time” That bookworm she meet at the Library on an uneventful day in 1984. ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/8 "2010-09-29T05:42:06Z")
She was a beautiful woman, **Si**. I’m sorry for your loss. But it’s good to have those fond memories of her; hold onto those as much as you can. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-gf-from-college-died/555356/9 "2010-09-29T13:22:59Z")
Sorry to hear it, **Si**. I lost an ex a few years back, and it was pretty devastating.