# My girlfriend was carjacked today. And is still missing \[update: she has been found\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 31, 2019, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960 "2019-07-31T23:29:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Gray\_Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c0e974/32.png) [@Gray\_Ghost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gray_Ghost)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2019, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/81 "2019-08-01T21:55:09Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Is it at all possible that her car was repossessed? Or that she had a payday-type loan against her car title? Those texts would make a heckuva lot more sense if the people who took her car felt in some way entitled to it. (Not saying they were, just that they thought so.) It would make no sense at all for a successful carjacker to start sending texts from her phone like that. I mean, stupid criminals, or on drugs, or whatever, but everybody knows a location can be traced on a phone. They would have to be soooo stupid to not just throw it out the window… Why would a repo guy text Superdude from her phone? Why would a repo guy text him at all? Besides that they can’t breach the peace in performing a repossession. All of the above sounds like drama, and repo people don’t want drama. They just want the stuff named on the secured debt agreement. Superdude. Did you file a police report in person, surrender your phone, and/or contact the FBI? Moriarty had some great suggestions upthread. Please keep us informed. I’m praying for you both. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2019, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/82 "2019-08-01T23:42:44Z")
I’m sure hoping there is a good resolution to this. Thinking good thoughts. I am also curious about the GFs friend and family. The OP said she isn’t close to her family but there have to be folks other than her BF, the OP, that care deeply about her. Have they been notified? What is their reaction? Do any of her friends have any info? If, as the local police seem to be considering, the GF is angry with the OP or trying to get away from him, these other friends are key because hopefully they would know if there were issues between the OP and his GF. They are the ones that can help sort out the likelihood of this being a dire emergency. I get the reasons why police wait to fully investigate under certain situations when its an adult who is missing. Maybe other friends/family of the GF should be pressed right now, today, into action. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2019, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/83 "2019-08-01T23:53:21Z")
Superdude, sending good thoughts your way. please update when you can and fingers crossed for a good resolution. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/84 "2019-08-02T00:05:45Z")
> [@Gray\_Ghost](#): > > Why would a repo guy text Superdude from her phone? Why would a repo guy text him at all?. He wouldn’t, so maybe, just maybe, she’s embarrassed about the repo and sent the texts herself, adopting the persona of her idea of a street tough guy. People in bad situations can make bad decisions. But that’s a maybe. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/85 "2019-08-02T01:05:17Z")
We have located her, and she is home, safe and sound. Her sister sold her out. Her sister has had issues with addiction, and owed money to people who were not-so-nice. Her sister convinced them that\*\* Girl Wonder\*\* would be on the hook for it. Unfortunately, she didn’t bother to inform us about this idea. **Girl Wonder** is reluctant to take this any further with the authorities because family was involved. I’m trying to disavow her of this notion. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/86 "2019-08-02T01:08:49Z")
> [@Superdude](#): > > We have located her, and she is home, safe and sound. > > Her sister sold her out. Her sister has had issues with addiction, and owed money to people who were not-so-nice. Her sister convinced them that\*\* Girl Wonder\*\* would be on the hook for it. Unfortunately, she didn’t bother to inform us about this idea. > > **Girl Wonder** is reluctant to take this any further with the authorities because family was involved. I’m trying to disavow her of this notion. WOW. I am so pleased she’s home and unharmed. Do the Not-so-Nice people still have her car?? Did she have to pay over money as well?? ---
**Author:** ![Rayks\_Marcial](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e47c2d/32.png) [@Rayks\_Marcial](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rayks_Marcial)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/87 "2019-08-02T01:09:05Z")
Good to know. I hope this thread will be the last of its kind. ---
**Author:** ![Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulf_the_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/88 "2019-08-02T01:14:55Z")
Well. All’s well that ends well. I guess. Terrible story, but a better-than-we-might-have-hoped-for outcome. You say “safe and sound,” which is great–how about emotionally? And how about YOU emotionally? ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/89 "2019-08-02T01:22:46Z")
I’m glad your girlfriend is safe and I hope you can convince her to press charges. Her sister sounds like she could use some help, but the bad guys who tried to shake her down should be taken off the streets. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/90 "2019-08-02T01:32:02Z")
How long was she home without contacting you, **Superdude** , and why didn’t she call you immediately (if she didn’t)? I think it’s pretty awful if you had to worry when she was basically ok. ---
**Author:** ![Gray\_Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c0e974/32.png) [@Gray\_Ghost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gray_Ghost)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/91 "2019-08-02T01:36:17Z")
I am glad she is back. Please take the following in light of that it comes from people who have come to care about you, your abducted girlfriend, and this situation. I am concerned that we here do not have the full story. Let me understand this: a woman who is thinking of a law enforcement career, is accosted, perhaps even carjacked and kidnapped. In the process scaring you to death, causing you to get the police involved, and does not want to press charges? Because of the effect it may have on her addict sister? This does not make sense. There is additional information not being disclosed here. This would strongly make me reconsider a continued relationship with this woman. What other drama is her druggie sister going to get you ensnared in? What if her creditors decide you and your stuff will be fine for settling her debts? Her not wanting to get police involved is troubling. Is she going to ignore other problems that arise because family or her might be bothered? You should think long about this. ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/92 "2019-08-02T01:38:02Z")
Regardless of her sister’s addiction, I believe that the police would focus their attention on these suspects if she went forward with a police report. If the sister is not in possession of drugs or high when the police speak to her, and she is forthright about what she knows about where these people are, I don’t think the police would spin off a criminal investigation involving her. Now, if sister is still involved in the drug game, or was a co-conspirator, all bets are off. But at that point sis maybe doesn’t need to be protected. If your girlfriend won’t go to the police, encourage her to at least go to the ER for an exam. You’re telling us that she was not hurt, but it’d be nice to give her a chance to discuss that - in private! - with a medical professional. And they might also offer some psychological help for the trauma she undoubtedly experienced. Just an opinion. I’m glad she’s home and not injured! ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/93 "2019-08-02T02:09:03Z")
> [@kayT](#): > > How long was she home without contacting you, **Superdude** , and why didn’t she call you immediately (if she didn’t)? I think it’s pretty awful if you had to worry when she was basically ok. If they had here phone, and if she is anything like me, I don’t remember anyone’s number, even my nearest and dearest. No need with mobile phones to memorize numbers, they’re right there in your contacts. IOW, she may not have been able to call him because she didn’t know his number. ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/94 "2019-08-02T02:10:48Z")
The bad dudes obviously had possession of her phone. Did she get her phone back? ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/95 "2019-08-02T02:20:42Z")
Gosh. That was really something. The twist ending with the sister really took me off guard. ---
**Author:** ![skyr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/54ee81/32.png) [@skyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/skyr)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/96 "2019-08-02T02:26:24Z")
> [@Gray\_Ghost](#): > > I am glad she is back. Please take the following in light of that it comes from people who have come to care about you, your abducted girlfriend, and this situation. > > I am concerned that we here do not have the full story. Let me understand this: a woman who is thinking of a law enforcement career, is accosted, perhaps even carjacked and kidnapped. In the process scaring you to death, causing you to get the police involved, and does not want to press charges? Because of the effect it may have on her addict sister? This does not make sense. There is additional information not being disclosed here. > > This would strongly make me reconsider a continued relationship with this woman. What other drama is her druggie sister going to get you ensnared in? What if her creditors decide you and your stuff will be fine for settling her debts? Her not wanting to get police involved is troubling. Is she going to ignore other problems that arise because family or her might be bothered? > > You should think long about this. Yeah, I am happy she was found safe, but now that we know it was connected to a drug debt, I would give serious consideration to stopping all involvement with this family if you value your own life. Hanging out with people who have associates involved in drugs and/or gang activity is a good way to end up “In the wrong place at the wrong time”. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/97 "2019-08-02T02:35:41Z")
Well, thank goodness for a positive ending, if not exactly a “happy” one. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/98 "2019-08-02T02:42:11Z")
Whew. That’s quite a tale. Glad she’s back safe and sound. I would not discount the possibility of emotional trauma even if she’s physically unharmed. We don’t know the details of what she went through, but it’s hard to believe it wasn’t pretty frightening.It’s possible she would benefit from some counseling. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/99 "2019-08-02T02:44:54Z")
My brother-in-law, a drug addict with a gambling problem, took all of my mother-in-law’s lifetime savings, maxed out her credit cards, opened loans, opened new cards, and took over her pension. She won’t press charges. It’s really, really hard to get family members to take action in these situations. I’m glad your GFs back and she’s ok. When she’s feeling up to it (but soon), you should talk about how she wants to handle things with her sister moving forward. How does she know that this won’t happen again, for example? If things continue to escalate with her sister, where is your GFs limit? Will she press charges if she gets hurt? If you get hurt? Did your GF actually give any money to these people? ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2019, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960/100 "2019-08-02T02:45:11Z")
Count me as another thinking if she does you like this maybe you should consider ending the relationship. She fucked with you majorly for a day. You owe her no loyalty, no nothing. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriend-was-carjacked-today-and-is-still-missing-update-she-has-been-found/837960.md?page=6)