# My girlfriend's a premature ejaculator! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 30, 2003, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492 "2003-05-30T12:15:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/1 "2003-05-30T12:15:20Z")
Sort of. See, she can go from horny to coming in 5 minutes or so. The problem is, I can’t. Judging by the blowjobs she gives (which are very good! :)) I think the problem is mostly sensation loss from condoms… so any thoughts on how either I can speed up or she can slow down? ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/2 "2003-05-30T12:22:29Z")
Go for multiples. ---
**Author:** ![chattywine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chattywine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chattywine)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/3 "2003-05-30T12:22:49Z")
uh, she can only come once? no need for you to speed up. just let her enjoy …again and again and again… ---
**Author:** ![chattywine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chattywine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chattywine)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/4 "2003-05-30T12:24:21Z")
jjim! Was it good for you too? ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/5 "2003-05-30T12:35:39Z")
Simul-orgasm-post. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/6 "2003-05-30T12:38:47Z")
Tried that – first thing that came to mind :). It just doesn’t seem to work for her after one – after she gets off we sort of have to start over from scratch. As an experiment we’ve tried getting her off orally a few times in a row, but again she needs a rest period between, erm, takes. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/7 "2003-05-30T13:18:00Z")
Um… I dunno. How about, just as she’s about to come, slap her round the face with a wet haddock. The surprise might bring her back down to being merely horny again. Or she might leave you. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/8 "2003-05-30T13:22:19Z")
I was going to suggest multiples too, but apparently she has a problem with that… hmm. Maybe find a position that isn’t overly stimulating for her but still fun? (Side-by-side from behind?) Try putting a drop of lubricant inside the tip of the condom to increase sensation? ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/9 "2003-05-30T13:25:29Z")
That’s rather interesting. But in a way you are rather fortunate that your SO can get aroused so easily. I know a lot of women who have a very hard time getting aroused, or they can only get aroused by very specific sensations. ---
**Author:** ![chattywine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chattywine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chattywine)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/10 "2003-05-30T13:37:32Z")
A recharge time? I thought only men needed those. If not a change of position, then ease off a bit before she comes’(well damn that sounds like some strange form of torture) i.e. change of position, the haddock thingy, stop and tell her a knock knock joke… Give the Kama Sutra Pleasure Cream a shot? Now in raspberry and tangerine 🙂 Numbs a bit so slows down sensation. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/11 "2003-05-30T13:59:05Z")
Or you could stop being so devilishly handsome. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/12 "2003-05-30T14:02:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jjimm \* > \*\*Or you could stop being so devilishly handsome. \*\* I’m assuming you’re joking, but seriously I 'm not trying to blow my own horn here. She just gets off a lot faster than me. And starting this thread was her suggestion :). ---
**Author:** ![elfje](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e19b73/32.png) [@elfje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfje)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/13 "2003-05-30T14:23:03Z")
try a different position, you might be rubbing a bit too well in your “regular” position, that is, if you guys have one. when i’m trying to hold back, going limp usually helps. Tell her to try and relax her muscles, instead of tensing up and “going for it”. It works for me. Also, maybe when she does feel she’s near the end, maybe you guys can stop, and she could focus on you for a few minutes, get you closer, too? Just a suggestion 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/14 "2003-05-30T14:51:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by chattywine \* > then ease off a bit before she comes’(well damn that sounds like some strange form of torture) It is a good torture, at least if you’re the one doing the stopping and not the come cuming! I do this type of thing all the time, I learn when the woman’s getting ready to cum then just stop, usually I pull out. I’ve a very evil guy. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/15 "2003-05-30T15:20:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish \* > \*\* Judging by the blowjobs she gives (which are very good! :)) \*\* I think you answered your own question. Haj ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/16 "2003-05-30T15:52:23Z")
Why can’t you still have sex after she has an orgasm? ---
**Author:** ![Priam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Priam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Priam)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/17 "2003-05-30T16:59:59Z")
I am given to understand that some women, although physically able to have an orgasm right after their first one, can become extremely sensitive to the point where going further causes discomfort and/or pain. Just because a woman can’t go flaccid doesn’t mean she necessarily wants or is comfortably able to have multiple orgasms. I would say your best bet would be learning together how to prolong the time before climax, just as if the situations was reversed and you were the premature ejaculator. ---
**Author:** ![3waygeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/e95f7d/32.png) [@3waygeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/3waygeek)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/18 "2003-05-30T17:11:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish \* > **I’m assuming you’re joking, but seriously I 'm not trying to blow my own horn here.** We knew that, **silentgoldfish** ; after all, if you could blow your own horn, why would you need a girlfriend? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![smaft](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c2a13f/32.png) [@smaft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smaft)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/19 "2003-05-30T17:38:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Priam \* > I am given to understand that some women, although physically able to have an orgasm right after their first one, can become extremely sensitive to the point where going further causes discomfort and/or pain. Some men, too. Wait, was that out loud? ---
**Author:** ![Wintermute](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e19b73/32.png) [@Wintermute](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wintermute)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/20 "2003-05-30T18:42:07Z")
Tell her to breathe. People have a tendency to hold their breath when they are about to cum, so if either of you notice her holding her breath reminding her to breathe deeply will often delay the orgasm. Let me know if that helps. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492.md?page=2)