# My girlfriend's a premature ejaculator! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 30, 2003, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492 "2003-05-30T12:15:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/21 "2003-05-30T18:47:22Z")
Yours too! Mine is like a Tootsie Roll Pop! That graphic simile brought to you by Graphic Similes by Wolfian. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/22 "2003-05-30T19:41:48Z")
No suggestions but… does she have a sister? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/23 "2003-05-30T20:38:09Z")
How long a rest period are we talking about, here? Thirty seconds? Thirty minutes? What? And what, exactly, do you mean by starting over from the beginning? There’s no reason you can’t just stop thrusting for a bit, let her recover, and then pick up where you left off. No need to disengage or anything, just keep kissing and groping and whatever else turns your crank till she’s ready to go on. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/24 "2003-05-30T23:38:10Z")
"can become extremely sensitive to the point where going further causes discomfort and/or pain. " Well, maybe they can try another location? ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/25 "2003-05-31T00:24:27Z")
> [@](#): > > Well, maybe they can try another location? He already indicated she gave great head. So what are you implying? :rolleyes: Does she give you head every time before you have intercourse? If so, she may be getting stimulated too much, too fast. I don’t think you implied that, but I couldn’t tell. I know a lot of former female partners who could have orgasms while performing oral sex. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/26 "2003-05-31T01:12:43Z")
Another location? You mean, like, up the ass? I don’t think that’s going to solve the problem. It might get him off, but if she’s not enjoying it, it’s just going to lead to further problems. Changing positions _can_ help with over-sensitivity problems sometimes, but only for a very limited time frame, and only under certain conditions. If you go through multiple positions like this, she’s going to get very, _very_ annoyed and impatient, which isn’t good for the sex life. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/27 "2003-05-31T01:22:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Priam \* > \*\*I am given to understand that some women, although physically able to have an orgasm right after their first one, can become extremely sensitive to the point where going further causes discomfort and/or pain. Just because a woman can’t go flaccid doesn’t mean she necessarily wants or is comfortably able to have multiple orgasms. \*\* Bingo! Or at least, that sounds exactly what she’s like. If I’m going down on her and she comes she holds out for as long as she can and then pushes me away before it starts to hurt – same reason why we can’t go for multiples. As for the rest period, we haven’t timed it but it’s got to be long enough that she’s not super sensative down there, at which point we usually have to start foreplay over (not that I’m complaining about that :)). ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/28 "2003-05-31T01:28:08Z")
So, why can’t you just continue on with the foreplay _while_ she’s wating? I mean, there’s plenty of stuff nrth of the equator (so to speak) to be kissed, stroked, nibbled, and sucked, right? ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/29 "2003-05-31T05:05:39Z")
Maybe you could stimulate her more before the actual intercourse? ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/30 "2003-05-31T13:20:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > > Well, maybe they can try another location? Like, say…, the food court at the shopping mall? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/31 "2003-05-31T15:33:45Z")
“the food court at the shopping mall?” I bet that would make a few guys come alot faster. Because of the danger of being caught. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2003, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/32 "2003-06-05T03:22:10Z")
Well, tried a few of your suggestions. She managed to last a lot longer, which is good for both of us. Very good for her since apparently she had a very good orgasm because we kept slowing down :). Only thing is, when I started speeding up because _I_ was getting close, she still came too quick for me. Incidentally, we’re not allowed back in the food court now. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/33 "2003-06-06T02:42:46Z")
Does she have a sister? ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/34 "2003-06-06T04:19:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish \* > \*\*Incidentally, we’re not allowed back in the food court now. 😉 \*\* ::nods knowingly:: KFC always was a tease with that whole “finger-lickin’ good” come-on. ---
**Author:** ![Omorka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Omorka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omorka)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/35 "2003-06-06T06:04:04Z")
Does she do Kegel exercises, ever? If she does, a good way for a female to hold off an imminent orgasm is to deliberately _relax_ the Kegel muscles and breathe slowly from the abdomen. (Note that this is somewhat difficult in the traditional missionary position, although if she puts her feet up on your shoulders it should work fine.) ---
**Author:** ![Govindha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/5fc32e/32.png) [@Govindha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Govindha)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2003, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/36 "2003-06-07T01:34:43Z")
You lucky motherfucker, deal with it and stop bitching. My wife is the same. The less harder I have to work the better. Who wants to fuck for an hour/ Certainly not me. It’s a waste. I’d rather be online or play some video games… ---
**Author:** ![Pixelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ad7895/32.png) [@Pixelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixelle)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2003, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/37 "2003-06-07T04:02:12Z")
Jeez Govindha, does your wife know you feel that way about your sex life. If my partner had an attitude like that I wouldn’t want to fuck him at all. **Silentgoldfish** has your girlfriend tried just thinking about something else when she’s about to come instead of going with the good feelings? Does she masturbate, maybe she could do it more often so that she’s not quite as hyped up when she’s with you? Might work… ---
**Author:** ![scotandrsn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a4c791/32.png) [@scotandrsn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scotandrsn)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2003, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/38 "2003-06-07T08:18:03Z")
I’m surprised by your OP, **Silentgoldfish** … She never has that trouble with me… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Sapphire\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@Sapphire\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapphire_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2003, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492/39 "2003-06-07T13:52:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jjimm \* > \*\*Um… I dunno. > > How about, just as she’s about to come, slap her round the face with a wet haddock. The surprise might bring her back down to being merely horny again. > > Or she might leave you. \*\* I must tell you, this is a damn funny post. Maybe I’m just punch drunk at seven AM, but…this struck me as extremely funny. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-girlfriends-a-premature-ejaculator/178492.md?page=1)