# My grandmother is dying of cancer. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 10, 2004, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455 "2004-10-10T07:25:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2004, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/61 "2004-10-12T13:52:57Z")
My condolances. Sending supporting thoughts your way. ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2004, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/62 "2004-10-13T01:57:30Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > Most importantly, remember that everyone grieves differently and there is no ‘right way’ or ‘schedule’ for going on with your life. Wise, wise words, obviously from someone who has been through profound grieving herself and knows what she’s talking about. Take this advice to heart, Airman Doors—it will make a painful time in your life a little less difficult. I know what I’m talking about. Oh boy, do I know. So please remember this advice and don’t push yourself to keep to some timetable of grieving. And most importantly, don’t let anyone _else_ try to tell you that you are somehow not grieving enough, are grieving too much, or just not doing it right. There is no “right” way—just your way. Take it easy, my friend. I can’t repeat that enough either. > [@PunditLisa](#): > > You were a good grandson to her. Take pride in that. So many people live and die alone. She was surrounded by people who loved her and cherished her up until the day she died. How wonderful for her. Indeed. It sounds like she had much to be grateful for in her life, and had many blessings. My prayers go out to you, and that you will feel God’s comfort during this sad time. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2004, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/63 "2004-10-13T02:58:30Z")
> [@Airman Doors](#): > > Look. It was late, I was drunk and depressed, and I was being selfish. I think you can forgive me a few ill-advised statements given the circumstances. > > Anyway, today was easier, but tomorrow (or this evening, rather) and Wednesday will be tough again. Tuesday is the wake and Wednesday is the funeral, and Pop (my grandfather) asked me to be a pallbearer. > > Just a few more days to go. Nevertheless, life goes on. I only wanted to help you out of the drunk, depressed, selfish way of mind. I think incredibly highly of you, and was just trying to bring your mind around to the wonderful things in your life. I hope that I was not to harsh, and wish the best for you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2004, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/64 "2004-10-13T03:35:39Z")
Just wish to add my condolences. You’re still lucky though. Sounds like you got a lot of love hanging around you. Enjoy ! ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2004, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/65 "2004-10-13T14:29:08Z")
**Airman** , **MsRobyn** - There are no words; there is no all better. But there is love: remember hers and depend on yours. **Airman** , imagine my father’s pain, helplessness, and hopelessness this last January when my two-year-old niece - his granddaughter - died in a hospital due to her injuries from a car accident. He **is** a doctor, and still could do nothing. Indeed, I’m currently in a post-baccalaureate nursing program partially because of my own feelings of helplessness last January, but I’m thinking of withdrawing. Regardless of how much I want to save Hannah, I can’t, and I really don’t think I’m a nurse. We all struggle to find what we’re good at, what we’re best at, and how we can use it to make our corners better. Good luck to you and strength in your own search. Snicks ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2004, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455/66 "2004-10-13T17:53:49Z")
You & your family are in my thoughts. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-is-dying-of-cancer/268455.md?page=3)