# My grandmother just died **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 10, 2009, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694 "2009-12-10T04:36:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![independentminded](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ed8c4c/32.png) [@independentminded](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/independentminded)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/21 "2009-12-11T02:29:38Z")
> [@Khadaji](#): > > My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I second that, Khadaji. Gamehat–sorry about your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/22 "2009-12-11T03:03:03Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![elelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@elelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elelle)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/23 "2009-12-11T03:09:48Z")
Gamehat, condolences on your loss. Your grandmother was quite blessed to have such a wonderful daughter, and, by all you have said here, your mother is so blessed as well. I wish you best strength in supporting your Mom now, and hope her heart finda peace. ---
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/24 "2009-12-11T03:57:12Z")
The coincidences are hitting me hard this week. First the rabbi’s class on honoring parents takes a detour into end-of-life issues and mourning, and now someone else’s grandmother died, too. I was going to post a “Hey, my grandmother died” thread, and thought better of it. Ditto with “I don’t really feel upset- am I a horrible person?” Thank you, **Gamehat** , for posting this when I didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/25 "2009-12-11T04:00:24Z")
All my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![GameHat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ed655f/32.png) [@GameHat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GameHat)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/26 "2009-12-11T06:44:59Z")
Thanks all for the kind wishes. I had posted originally that I didn’t feel “broken up” about the whole ordeal. Whelp, that changed. I started crying at work today, and I’m not much for openly showing emotion. I went nearly 18 hours feeling mostly sad for my mother. Than late at work today, I remembered my Grandmother taking me out for dinner. Then I thought about how unfair it was that she was stricken with so many physical issues (the blindness, the dementia) and so much suffering (the husband). It was very strange - about 4 PM, I just started weeping. I had to leave work early. I hadn’t told anyone at work, they were a bit shocked and concerned. My boss was very kind when I told him the situation, told me to take whatever time I needed next week to be with the family. Here I thought I was stoic; I just broke down. I’m OK now. Grandma is in a better place. Her suffering is over. I can spend a couple of days next week visiting mom to comfort her. I’d like to take her out to dinner and we can reminisce. I was unfair to my aunts in the OP. They loved my grandmother, too. They’ve both been dealt an unfair hand in life; I think they would have been here if they could. One is still in a really bad place; one is slowly piecing together a family. So I’m sorry, aunts. My vitriol came from suppressed grief. But that doesn’t excuse it. You’re both good people that suffer too from a hard childhood; I was lucky enough to avoid that, bless my mom and dad. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694/27 "2009-12-11T12:34:29Z")
i’m so sorry. may her memory be eternal. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-grandmother-just-died/520694.md?page=1)