# My Heart is Broken, What next?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [August 4, 2004, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299 "2004-08-04T15:32:27Z")
**Posts on this page:** 8
**Page:** 2
### Author:  [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/21 "2004-08-05T05:41:03Z")
Thank you, Rico. It means a lot to me, bro.
---
### Author:  [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/22 "2004-08-05T07:11:21Z")
> [@](#):
>
> have some standards
Almost all the wine here is homemade. Some of it is even drinkable. 🙂 In any event, homemade wine is much better than the alternative, 190 proof homemade grain alcohol. :eek: The wine just gives you a miserable hangover, the other stuff (sid) is real 3-day-drunk material.
Regards
Testy
---
### Author:  [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/23 "2004-08-05T07:18:11Z")
Sorry to hear this. Oddly enough, I also lost a spouse when I first moved over here. Luckily, my boss was understanding enough to cut me some slack for a while. I **needed** slack, I was wandering around with a water bottle full of pineapple juice and rum. (Very nice for soaking in a pool while drinking.) 😛
Anyway, I am truly sorry to hear of this happening to you. When I was going through this a friend told me something that helped; “You know you’re going to get over this someday, why not today?” After a while, I just got miserable of being miserable and stopped.
That may or may not do anything for you but it helped me. Anyway, if you want to talk, slip me an email (it’s in my profile) and I’ll respond with a phone number. Besides, you are my only hope for ever pulling off “Saudi-Dope!”
Best wishes
Testy
---
### Author:  [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/24 "2004-08-05T11:25:04Z")
> [@](#):
>
> I thought about it _every fucking single waking second_
> then I thought about it every second
> then I thought about it every other second
> then I thought about it once a minute
> then I thought about it every other minute
> then I thought about it every 5 minutes
> then I thought about it every 10 minutes
> then I thought about it every hour
> then I thought about it every other hour
> then I thought about it a few times a day
> then a few times a week I’d think about it
> then I’d realize I _hadn’t_ thought about for awhile
> then I met someone 1,000 times better
>
> Old Brooklyn saying “I know where you’re at, 'cause I been where ya been” 🙂
This is so true. Well written.
---
### Author:  [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/25 "2004-08-05T11:48:35Z")
I am awestruck by all the kind thoughts of my fellow Dopers. Without a doubt this is the nicest place on the 'net. Thanks.
---
### Author:  [@Abbie\_Carmichael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Abbie_Carmichael)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/26 "2004-08-05T12:14:55Z")
I’m so sorry, Paul ☹ I wish you the best!
I wonder how many women on this board are wondering if it’s too early to ask how _you_ doin?
---
### Author:  [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/27 "2004-08-05T13:53:50Z")
Everyone has already said such nice things, I don’t know that there’s a lot for me to add.
In the past few years I’ve seen a lot of the men in my life go through this, for one reason or another, my father included. I’m glad that you have support here and elsewhere during this time; the worst thing when you’re hurting is to be truly isolated and alone.
Pain is normal. ‘sobbing in a most unmanly way’ is normal. Be comforted in the fact that finding a way to live with that pain that is agreeable to you is also normal, and will come to pass eventually.
---
### Author:  [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)
#### Post date: [August 5, 2004, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299/28 "2004-08-05T18:47:55Z")
I am doing better, twenty-four hours after the OP. A couple of wine coolers and some exercise (and your kind words) have all had an excellent effect. I feel as though I turned the first corner.
[Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken-what-next/258299.md?page=1)