# My heart is broken. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 14, 2012, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159 "2012-06-14T17:04:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rwhbyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@rwhbyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rwhbyu)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/1 "2012-06-14T17:04:07Z")
My wife died today. I never saw it coming. I still have no idea what I am doing. I have no clue how to tell my 4 y/o that her mom is not coming back. My 7 m/o probably won’t remember her mom at all. She loved the girls so much. I am lost. I just needed to type this out. I never told her I loved her enough. ---
**Author:** ![Orionizer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/orionizer/32/4442_2.png) [@Orionizer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orionizer)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/2 "2012-06-14T17:09:03Z")
rwhbyu, I’m so sorry to hear about this! I’ve never been in this situation, so I don’t know what to tell you to do, but feel free to post to “let it out” if you need to. I’ll be here to listen! ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/3 "2012-06-14T17:13:17Z")
I’m very sorry to hear this news, **rwhbyu**. I can’t even imagine… You and your children will be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/4 "2012-06-14T17:17:34Z")
Oh no! I’m so sorry. Do you need anything? PM me if you need anything! ---
**Author:** ![Scupper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Scupper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scupper)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/5 "2012-06-14T17:18:01Z")
I don’t want to imagine being in your place. So very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/6 "2012-06-14T17:19:40Z")
As a fellow husband, father of a three and one year old, and fellow human being, my sincere condolences on your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/7 "2012-06-14T17:20:04Z")
That’s terrible. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/8 "2012-06-14T17:21:23Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. This sounds like it was sudden and unexpected; I hope that you and your daughters will be alright. Please let us all know if we can do anything to help. ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/9 "2012-06-14T17:25:56Z")
**rwhbyu** , I’m sorry for your great loss. My wife died almost thirteen years ago. I had to tell her 10 year old daughter, her mother, her sisters. I remember feeling incredibly alone, surrounded by people, but alone. I felt like the only person who could console me in my grief was the one I was grieving over. It took months before I thought I was a rational person again. One thing that helped me was reading A Grief Observed, a memoir that C.S. Lewis wrote about the death of his wife. I’m not sure that I can help you in any way now, but if you want to email me, the address in my profile works. You’ll be in my prayers. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![Mint\_Julep](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/bc79bd/32.png) [@Mint\_Julep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mint_Julep)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/10 "2012-06-14T17:31:14Z")
Typing the words “I’m so sorry for your loss” just don’t seem sufficent. But please know that my heart is breaking for you. I cannot imagine the pain and hurt you must be dealing with and trying to stay stong for the little ones. Please know that I am thinking of you and wishing you as much peace as is possible at a time like this. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/11 "2012-06-14T17:36:50Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/12 "2012-06-14T17:36:55Z")
☹ I’m sorry for your loss. I have a friend who’s husband died suddenly. They had been married less than a year, and she was pregnant with their first child. He suffered a massive stroke, and was dead a few hours later at the hospital. A week later she gave birth. Her son is 7 years old now, she raised him by herself. Both of them are doing great. She never hid anything about his father from him, he’s known for a few years now. She is easily the strongest person I know. It’s going to rough, but you can get through this. Mourn her, you need to. People will offer to help you, take them up on it. Try to keep people around you, it will remind you that you aren’t alone. ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/13 "2012-06-14T17:37:51Z")
Oh no! I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/14 "2012-06-14T17:47:41Z")
Oh, god. How awful for all you. ☹ I’m so sorry… ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/15 "2012-06-14T17:48:06Z")
☹ I don’t have words. ---
**Author:** ![DeepLiquid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/deepliquid/32/14893_2.png) [@DeepLiquid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeepLiquid)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/16 "2012-06-14T17:51:05Z")
So, so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/17 "2012-06-14T17:53:29Z")
**rwhbyu** - I’m so sorry to hear it. StG ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/18 "2012-06-14T17:55:02Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and strength as you deal with this. ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/19 "2012-06-14T17:56:48Z")
How did she go **rwhbyu**? ☹ ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/20 "2012-06-14T17:57:00Z")
Oh, this is just awful. I am so very sorry. ☹ [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159.md?page=2)