# My heart is broken. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 14, 2012, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159 "2012-06-14T17:04:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/41 "2012-06-14T21:13:56Z")
Don’t be afraid to ask for help of those around you. If someone offers to help, the best thing you can do is _let them_. Friends and family will want to help you, but they probably won’t know what to say (unless they’ve experienced the death of a spouse themselves). Just like me and most of the others responding to your thread. Most people your age won’t have experienced a loss like this before… they want to help. WE want to help. We just don’t know what the hell to say because “I’m sorry” sounds so inadequate. Still, I’m sorry ☹ ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/42 "2012-06-14T21:21:36Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/43 "2012-06-14T21:21:45Z")
A horrible thing to go through **rwhbyu** so sorry. Hopefully you have close friends nearby that will be there for you, take their help if it’s offered. If not PM the people here that have been through the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![si\_blakely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@si\_blakely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/si_blakely)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/44 "2012-06-14T21:22:11Z")
You and your family are in my prayers Si ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/45 "2012-06-14T21:25:05Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could help. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/46 "2012-06-14T21:39:33Z")
I am so sorry to hear your news. Nothing that I can say here will make the pain any less - but know that you are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/47 "2012-06-14T21:51:18Z")
How terrible. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. You’ll be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/48 "2012-06-14T23:01:02Z")
There are no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/49 "2012-06-14T23:05:58Z")
I was where you are about a year ago now. I feel your pain. Do not isolate yourself. Let your friends and family help. Do not neglect yourself! ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/50 "2012-06-14T23:19:04Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/51 "2012-06-14T23:27:12Z")
Offering prayers. I’m so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Dusty\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ba8739/32.png) [@Dusty\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dusty_Rose)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/52 "2012-06-14T23:46:18Z")
**rwhbyu** , I am so very sorry. I cried when I read your post; my heart aches for your loss. I don’t have the words, but in looking at the locations of the posters here, I’m hoping you can find some measure of comfort in the fact that there are people all across the US- from California and Oregon to Maine and Washington D.C.- indeed, across the world- Victoria, Australia- that are thinking of you and your family. I wish you strength, love, and eventual peace. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/53 "2012-06-14T23:58:19Z")
Words fail when something like this happens, **rwhbyu**. I had a co-worker go through something like this, but without the kids. It’s…hard. Painful. And more. One of the few things I’ve learned through stuff like that is everyone has their own way of grieving. Wishing you strength in the coming days. -D/a ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/54 "2012-06-15T00:25:02Z")
Like some others who have commented, I’ve been where you are. I lost my first husband in 2009 and the world no longer made sense to me. You will have good moments and bad moments and everything in between in the upcoming days. Be as gentle with yourself as you can. Try not to make any big decisions if you can avoid it. I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. It’s terrible and makes you feel helpless and alone and scared. I can’t make it better, but know that there are a lot of us who would be happy to talk to you and help as much as we are able. ---
**Author:** ![Fionn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fionn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fionn)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/55 "2012-06-15T00:27:38Z")
I’m so very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/56 "2012-06-15T00:48:31Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![purple\_haze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/db5fbb/32.png) [@purple\_haze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purple_haze)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/57 "2012-06-15T01:00:56Z")
Oh no, I’m so sorry to hear about your wife. Prayers to you and your girls. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/58 "2012-06-15T01:15:17Z")
I am so sorry. You and your girls are in my thoughts. Peace and strength to you. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/59 "2012-06-15T01:20:14Z")
Peace to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![foxymoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@foxymoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxymoron)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-heart-is-broken/625159/60 "2012-06-15T02:18:55Z")
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