My son is setting him up with a Playstation 2 and some sports games. I think that will keep his interest. He’s bored I think
He’s always had impulse control issues. Thus the interest in gambling. I don’t think this is related to Parkinson’s other than the enforced inactivity. It’s a him problem, and he’s just figured out all the “fun” he can have on fb
I will not get him a card to waste $with if possible, but if the money is his I can’t reasonably say no. Maybe if he loses stuff it’ll convince him.
Get him evaluated again by a person not his medical doctor(they can refer him) but by a mental health professional. Preferably a doctor of psychiatry who specializes in age related mental processes.
If he’s just bored, ok. Just say “no”
Don’t sneak call and get him low cards. Hide yours and make sure his devices don’t have your card saved. It’s criminally easy to save cards on phones and tablets.
Yep. You need to get this stopped. If you have to really stomp your feet, do it.
If he has his own money you may have to take control of that til he sees sense or gets help.
The thing is I have control of his money. He doesn’t like cards. I have his debit card. He doesn’t leave the house without me. He has his credit card so I don’t use it. This fb thing is recent and I think it’s because he’s bored and longing to play guitar again. He is very technology challenged. Back in the vcr and dvd days I did all the plugging programming, troubleshooting. None of that has changed. He can’t run off with my or his card and save them on his chromebook or phone as he barely knows how to use them. All he can do with his phone is answer it and call me. It isn’t because he’s got dementia, or dumb. He simply doesn’t want to put effort into it. It’s not music, sports, or any other interest to him. He’s got me and the kids for that, (I have him for math, sports stats, random trivia, and guitar stuff). He just wants it to be true and resents me ‘cause I’m telling him it’s a scam. This is all bogus standard for him. I’ve been dealing with his stubborn butt for 43 years. It’s just this new wonder he’s discovered through fb that’s put a new wrinkle in the mix.
I honestly expect him to sheepishly admit that maybe it is a scam. That’s how this usually works out.
I apologize for how rambling and disjointed these posts have been. I’m trying to post and wrangle a bunch of other stuff.
It’s ok. I think it’s understandable.
Do you mean Facebook?
I knew that place was evil. It just smelled bad the first time I heard of it.
Get him a guitar.
I hesitate to encourage buying from unscrupulous dealers, but maybe a Les Paul knockoff would make him happy.
Your husband sounds like my father in-law. Who also, coincidently, was just diagnosed with Parkinson’s (in retrospect he’s had symptoms for a long time).
Bored, terrible with money, extremely susceptible to scams. I once came into the kitchen where he was on speakerphone with a scammer and in the process of giving them remote control of his computer. I took his phone from him, hung up, and shut off his computer. He was PISSED. Until my MIL came home and when she found out what happened she LAID into him - apparently it was like the third time in as many months he had fallen for that kind of thing.
Ultimately we had to take all finance control away from him, including credit cards. His primary vice was day trading, not traditional gambling. And he was exceedingly bad at it even before he really went off the deep end.
He has Parkinson’s
Plus, he doesn’t want the guitar. He wants the thrill of the win.
Get a deck of marked cards. Play poker with him. And be sure to lose. It’s easy to lose when you know what not to do to win. Not so often he wins every hand. But him winning almost every session will play into his sense of superiority.
He has a guitar. He bought it a bit before he was diagnosed. It isn’t a Les Paul, and I won’t tell the story of him buying a Chinese knock off zLes Paul years ago. Played really well was really ugly.
He’s afraid to try to play again. He had a mild stroke 20 years ago or maybe less and hasn’t played much since. He doesn’t have the tremors. He’s more stiff, can tip over backwards, micrographia, weak voice, trouble swallowing. We’re going to set up the extra bedroom with his equipment, but that has moved down the list of priorities on the home improvement front. I expect to have it done before spring.
Do you or he watch Youtube on your TV/PC? If so maybe you could casually suggest the both of you try watching this funny guy on Youtube named Kitboga.
Try searching for something like “Kitboga angriest scammers.” It’s top tier scam recognition training (he regularly mocks/outs/tricks scammers while impersonating an elderly person) and a hoot besides.
This isn’t what you wanted to talk about but, if accurate, do not ever call these places. Nothing good will or even could come out of it. You also don’t want to give the idea that talking to scammers is somehow safer or better.
That sounds good. I will give that a try.
Mmm, I didn’t call the scammers. I called Guitar Center. A reputable buisness that we have shopped at. This company is trying to get fb to take this crap down but you know. Facebook.