# My husband died last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 19, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999 "2009-01-19T16:10:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/221 "2009-01-20T04:20:19Z")
So sorry to read of your loss. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/222 "2009-01-20T04:20:34Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > I can’t figure out if saying it out loud makes it seem more real or less. Typing it makes it real. It’s real, I guess. I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine what it would be like not to have my spouse anymore. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/223 "2009-01-20T04:21:31Z")
Oh my word. It reminds us just how fragile life is. I’m so sorry for your loss. Take gentle care, **jsgoddess**. Know that the hundreds of faceless strangers here are ready, willing, and able to help you through this journey. Godspeed. ---
**Author:** ![PastAllReason](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f07891/32.png) [@PastAllReason](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastAllReason)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/224 "2009-01-20T04:28:37Z")
My condolences to your and your family, **js goddess**. Through the difficult and grief-filled days ahead, I hope that your memories of your husband and your time together will bring you some comfort. ---
**Author:** ![RedFury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ec9cab/32.png) [@RedFury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedFury)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/225 "2009-01-20T04:38:43Z")
My condolences. May he live forever in your heart and mind. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/226 "2009-01-20T04:50:08Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![RetroVertigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b38774/32.png) [@RetroVertigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RetroVertigo)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/227 "2009-01-20T04:56:19Z")
You and your family are in our thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![sunstone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunstone/32/3372_2.png) [@sunstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunstone)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/228 "2009-01-20T05:02:13Z")
We are sorry. May you find peace in your heart and mind. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Amazing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6de8d8/32.png) [@Captain\_Amazing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Amazing)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/229 "2009-01-20T05:13:25Z")
Nothing to say except what everyone else has already said, but my condolences on your loss and best wishes to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/230 "2009-01-20T05:23:23Z")
Strength and peace to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/231 "2009-01-20T05:24:34Z")
My deepest condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![gnagtcha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c68b51/32.png) [@gnagtcha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnagtcha)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/232 "2009-01-20T05:45:14Z")
> [@Morgyn](#): > > I don’t suppose words on an Internet message board really help much, Oh, but they do. They helped my wife get through her grief a while back and surely jsgoddess knows for each post there is a real person with real prayers and thoughts for her that she can hold on to for the support she might need to get through this time. I truly hope all these condolences ease your pain just a little, js. ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/233 "2009-01-20T05:57:25Z")
Remember to take care of yourself. Also, please take full advantage of those who offer you any kind of help. They are serious and will consider it an honor to be able to help you. Make sure to use them farther down the road. Right now is such a crazy, surreal time for you that it’s all a blur and you’re surrounded by people and you almost don’t have time to properly grieve. It’s all one big flurry. You will need to be able to count on support later, as well. Make sure that people understand this. Yes, support right now is obviously vital, but people need to remember that you will need their continued support after all of the initial busyness goes away. Again, take care of you! ---
**Author:** ![Penchan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/74df32/32.png) [@Penchan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penchan)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/234 "2009-01-20T06:23:09Z")
No words of mine can really bring you comfort at this time. All I can say is my thoughts and heartfelt empathy are with you. I hope you know that everyone on the Dope is here to support you during this time of grief. ((( **jsgoddess** ))) I’m terribly sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Valgard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/7feea3/32.png) [@Valgard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Valgard)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/235 "2009-01-20T06:25:59Z")
My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![curlcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@curlcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curlcoat)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/236 "2009-01-20T06:38:25Z")
I am so very sorry to hear this. Losing my husband is the only thing I fear, so I cannot even begin to imagine what you are feeling. ---
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dread_pirate_jimbo/32/3897_2.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Jimbo)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/237 "2009-01-20T06:44:35Z")
Sincere condolences to you and your family. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Full\_Metal\_Lotus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Full\_Metal\_Lotus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Full_Metal_Lotus)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/238 "2009-01-20T06:46:13Z")
JSG There are close to 6 pages of dopers who have offered their sincere condolences and empathy; this community mournes your loss, as do I. FML ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 7:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/239 "2009-01-20T07:01:43Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/240 "2009-01-20T07:14:47Z")
**js** , you have my heartfelt condolences. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=11) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=13)