# My husband died last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 19, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999 "2009-01-19T16:10:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 17
**Author:** ![xanthous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/53a042/32.png) [@xanthous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xanthous)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/321 "2009-01-21T20:10:54Z")
So very sorry, **jsgoddess.** ---
**Author:** ![Cornelius\_Tuggerson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Cornelius\_Tuggerson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cornelius_Tuggerson)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/322 "2009-01-21T20:47:17Z")
My condolences, sorry to for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Hi\_Neighbor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hi_neighbor/32/494_2.png) [@Hi\_Neighbor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hi_Neighbor)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/323 "2009-01-21T20:55:27Z")
I… I don’t even know what to say. I’m so, so sorry ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/324 "2009-01-21T20:59:39Z")
Our deepest condolences… ---
**Author:** ![donnah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/45deac/32.png) [@donnah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/donnah)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/325 "2009-01-21T21:00:07Z")
so very sorry ---
**Author:** ![Tikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5daacb/32.png) [@Tikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tikki)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/326 "2009-01-21T21:01:41Z")
My condolences to you and your husband’s loved ones. My heart goes out to you in this sad time. ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/327 "2009-01-21T21:43:15Z")
I’m so sorry. I can’t say anything that will help, but you will be in my prayers, and I hope that eventually good memories will be some comfort. For now, just know that people care, if that helps at all. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/328 "2009-01-21T23:03:18Z")
Tell us about him…what did he do, what were his hobbies, what about the time he made you fall on the floor laughing so hard you almost peed your pants? ---
**Author:** ![zev\_steinhardt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/97f17d/32.png) [@zev\_steinhardt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zev_steinhardt)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/329 "2009-01-21T23:11:15Z")
I am so sorry to hear that, Julie. May your family know no more sorrow. Zev Steinhardt ---
**Author:** ![Spacegirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@Spacegirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spacegirl)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/330 "2009-01-21T23:25:32Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/331 "2009-01-22T02:06:01Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss… ---
**Author:** ![purple\_haze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/db5fbb/32.png) [@purple\_haze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purple_haze)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/332 "2009-01-22T02:42:32Z")
My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/333 "2009-01-22T06:05:05Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s passing. Peace to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/334 "2009-01-22T08:03:17Z")
I’m so sorry. I don’t know what I’d do if Shawna died. Keep strong. Joe ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/335 "2009-01-22T14:36:12Z")
> [@ivylass](#): > > Tell us about him…what did he do, what were his hobbies, what about the time he made you fall on the floor laughing so hard you almost peed your pants? We met online in October (I think) of 1996, met in person in February 1997, and got married in December of 1997. It was that obviously right. He had had a heart attack and open heart surgery before we met, when he was 33, and was diagnosed as diabetic at the same time. He never fully recovered from the heart attack and six months after the bypass surgery his bypasses were both blocked. His dad’s whole family died before fifty of heart conditions. His dad died when Steve was 13. His parents thought it was funny to watch little kids smoke, so they stuck cigarrettes in his mouth when he was still a baby. He grew up smoking, but stopped when we met. He loved cats. He loved Kentucky basketball and Indians baseball. He loved fishing. He loved reading, especially science fiction and science. He loved Tiger Woods golf on his Wii that I finally got him for his last birthday. If anyone ever approached him for money at a restaurant, he’d buy them a meal. We knew we had to meet after I laughed at his Carl Sagan joke. He sobbed when our cats died, but was always willing to risk his heart getting another one. He wanted to feed the hungry, give every child a Christmas present, and every pet a home. He always wanted me to touch him if we were watching TV or reading in bed. We touched hundreds of times a day. He had a '73 Mustang convertible that was his pride and joy. He loved to drive it to the drive-in movies. It didn’t matter what was playing. The ringtone he chose for my telephone was Johnny Cash’s “Ring of Fire.” I had family members say I was a fool to marry him, that he’d die and leave me. He was 48 and the love of my life. ---
**Author:** ![IrreverentTone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@IrreverentTone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IrreverentTone)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/336 "2009-01-22T14:49:07Z")
He sounds like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing memories with us. I’m so glad you had 12+ years with him in your life. Take care of yourself. And again, peace be with you. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/337 "2009-01-22T18:03:06Z")
I’ve got to stop reading now, I’ve got something in my eye. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/338 "2009-01-22T18:29:02Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Tabithina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f04885/32.png) [@Tabithina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tabithina)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/339 "2009-01-22T18:31:01Z")
I’m so sorry… ---
**Author:** ![SlowMindThinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@SlowMindThinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlowMindThinking)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/340 "2009-01-22T19:38:26Z")
That was beautiful and moving. Perhaps this is cold comfort, but it sounds like your 12 years together could not have been better. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=16) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=18)