# My husband died last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 19, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999 "2009-01-19T16:10:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/121 "2009-01-19T19:53:35Z")
**js** , I never have the right words for this, nothing ever seems like enough to help. Maybe words can’t help. Maybe knowing that so many people here have responded like this, re-assures me that IRL, you have the same kind of support. Lean on people a little while, it doesn’t show weakness, it shows that you’re cared for as part of many distinct communities. Ours too. ---
**Author:** ![SlowMindThinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@SlowMindThinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlowMindThinking)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/122 "2009-01-19T19:59:03Z")
Words seem inadequate. I would help, but don’t know how. If you need someone to email or chat, I can set something up. ---
**Author:** ![anu-la1979](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/47e85d/32.png) [@anu-la1979](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anu-la1979)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/123 "2009-01-19T20:08:11Z")
I’m so sorry, Julie. Anu ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/124 "2009-01-19T20:11:36Z")
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/125 "2009-01-19T20:11:53Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I simply can’t imagine what you are going through right now, and will be sending supportive thoughts your way. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/126 "2009-01-19T20:13:02Z")
I’m so sorry. Surround yourself with friends and family; they will help you through this. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/127 "2009-01-19T20:16:32Z")
My deepest condolences on your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Moirai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/96bed5/32.png) [@Moirai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moirai)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/128 "2009-01-19T20:18:27Z")
I am so very sorry. Peace and strength to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Nutty\_Bunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d07c76/32.png) [@Nutty\_Bunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nutty_Bunny)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/129 "2009-01-19T20:20:34Z")
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine your pain right now. I hope you have a lot of loving people surrounding you right now. You know you have a lot of love here. ---
**Author:** ![Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/d9b06d/32.png) [@Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichini_Sanshigo)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/130 "2009-01-19T20:23:06Z")
Oh my goodness. I am sorry for your loss jsgoddess, and you have my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/131 "2009-01-19T20:39:33Z")
I am terribly sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/132 "2009-01-19T20:44:40Z")
I don’t really know what to say. I am so sorry. I wish we were all closer so we could hang on to you. ---
**Author:** ![ptr2void](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ptr2void/32/3406_2.png) [@ptr2void](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ptr2void)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/133 "2009-01-19T20:45:30Z")
My deepest and sincerest sympathies, **jsgoddess**. ---
**Author:** ![freekalette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@freekalette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freekalette)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/134 "2009-01-19T20:46:30Z")
Oh no. _hugs_ I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. If there is anything I can do, don’t hesitate to ask. ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/135 "2009-01-19T20:47:55Z")
My most sincere condolences, jsgoddess. May you find comfort soon. ---
**Author:** ![phall0106](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/phall0106/32/5934_2.png) [@phall0106](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phall0106)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/136 "2009-01-19T20:55:34Z")
Oh, **jsgoddess** , I’m so sorry. I wish there was something I could do or say to make it better. I cannot imagine what you must be going through. Hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/137 "2009-01-19T20:56:58Z")
I sent this to a friend once on hearing that her mother had just died. I was unsure then if it would help, and am unsure now if it will, but as she found it comforting I hope that you will… if it is time for comfort yet. > [@Mary Frye](#): > > Do not stand at my grave and weep, > I am not there, I do not sleep. > > I am a thousand winds that blow. > I am the diamond glint on snow. > I am the sunlight on ripened grain. > I am the gentle autumn rain. > > When you wake in the morning hush, > I am the swift, uplifting rush > Of quiet birds in circling flight. > I am the soft starlight at night. > > Do not stand at my grave and weep. > I am not there, I do not sleep. > (Do not stand at my grave and cry. > I am not there, I did not die!) ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/138 "2009-01-19T20:58:35Z")
Very sorry for your heartache, Julie. Keep yourself strong. ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/139 "2009-01-19T20:58:39Z")
Heartfelt condolences, **jsgoddess**. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/140 "2009-01-19T21:00:16Z")
> [@Morgyn](#): > > Do we have any Dopers near **jsgoddess** in Ohio who would be willing to lend her a hand, or take her a casserole or something? She’s in Southeast Ohio and I’m not sure if there are any Dopers in her immediate area (she’s probably a few hours from me). I am pretty sure she is at least geographically close to her family, so that helps. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=8)