# My husband died last night **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 19, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999 "2009-01-19T16:10:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![beanpod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a9adbd/32.png) [@beanpod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beanpod)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/141 "2009-01-19T21:05:53Z")
It seems silly to join the chorus of people saying the same thing, when “I’m so sorry,” is all I can say, but I just can’t _not_ say something. A stranger on the internet is crying for you and wishes you well. ---
**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/142 "2009-01-19T21:07:33Z")
I always feel hopelessly useless when it comes to condolences. I am so, so sorry for your loss and wish I could offer something more than words on a screen. You’ll be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/143 "2009-01-19T21:08:09Z")
There’s nothing we can say to adequately express our sympathy, but thank you for reaching out to the Board. We grieve with you. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/144 "2009-01-19T21:12:14Z")
Gosh. I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope you have love and support from those around you. You’re in my thoughts… ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/145 "2009-01-19T21:15:28Z")
I’m sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/146 "2009-01-19T21:21:50Z")
I’m so sorry, sweetie. ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/147 "2009-01-19T21:22:33Z")
((((((( **jsgoddess** and her family))))))) I’m sorry to hear about your loss. (more hugs) ---
**Author:** ![Litoris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9f8e36/32.png) [@Litoris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Litoris)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/148 "2009-01-19T21:26:12Z")
It may never feel real. I wish I had words that could comfort you, but nothing I say will mend your heart. If you need to talk, I am here – I think we all are. Take the time for yourself. If others offer help, accept it. You will feel like you have to do everything, be everything, know everything – you don’t. Ask for help if you don’t know what to do. This can (and most likely will) be a very hard time, and you may be like some of us who are loathe to ask for help, but trust me, it will be freely given if you need it. Talk to your doctor if you need help sleeping or staying calm – I know when my father passed away, I didn’t sleep for days before I finally asked for something. Keep your own health in mind, even if you don’t want to do so – as much as you loved him, I am sure he loved you and would want you to be ok. You can cry all you want – anyone that would fault you for it is not worth your time. You can crawl in your room and hide under the sheets – it’s ok to be sad, lonely, whatever – just remember that there are people who love you and want you to be ok, and keep in touch with them, so they know you are ok – ok? Let us know if there is anything we can do for you, ok? ---
**Author:** ![Wallflower](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Wallflower](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wallflower)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/149 "2009-01-19T21:38:36Z")
Oh, god. I am so, so very sorry. I know from experience that you are probably still in a little shock, but you have my deepest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Cowgirl\_Jules](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@Cowgirl\_Jules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cowgirl_Jules)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/150 "2009-01-19T21:40:22Z")
I’m so very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![kaiwik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaiwik/32/3978_2.png) [@kaiwik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaiwik)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/151 "2009-01-19T21:40:33Z")
My deepest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/152 "2009-01-19T21:41:37Z")
I’m very sorry, js. That’s horrible. ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/153 "2009-01-19T21:42:35Z")
**jsgoddess** , I am so very sorry. Be good to yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Indyellen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/indyellen/32/4176_2.png) [@Indyellen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indyellen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/154 "2009-01-19T21:43:01Z")
That’s awful, **jsgoddess**. I can’t even begin to imagine. ☹ What is remembered, lives. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/155 "2009-01-19T21:44:19Z")
I am so sorry. You’re in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/156 "2009-01-19T21:52:54Z")
I’m so sorry to read about this, Julie. Good thoughts and prayers for you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/157 "2009-01-19T21:57:35Z")
**jsgoddess** , I am so sorry to hear this news. What a horrible shock! > [@Morgyn](#): > > Do we have any Dopers near **jsgoddess** in Ohio who would be willing to lend her a hand, or take her a casserole or something? Do we know where in Ohio? If I’m close, I’ll do what I can. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/158 "2009-01-19T21:57:35Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please stay strong and accept sincere condolances from the Lang/Wonderland household. ---
**Author:** ![Half\_Man\_Half\_Wit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/half_man_half_wit/32/21766_2.png) [@Half\_Man\_Half\_Wit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Half_Man_Half_Wit)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/159 "2009-01-19T21:57:57Z")
Sadly I can’t do anything but add to the chorus. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2009, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999/160 "2009-01-19T22:07:19Z")
I am very sorry to hear about your loss as well. ☹ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-died-last-night/481999.md?page=9)