# My Husband doesn't need to see your boobs! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 21, 2014, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324 "2014-06-21T21:09:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/1 "2014-06-21T21:09:08Z")
I recently discovered [this](http://applesandbandaidsblog.com/2014/06/11/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/) wonderful blog of insanity and the title of one of the blog entries therein. Basically the woman is complaining about how hard it is to deal with summertime because all the slutty unmarried whores of the internet are posting selfies on their blogs and Facebook and it is just _too much temptation_ for her poor husband. She actually believes this phenomenon is a stumbling block to her marraige. Even if you don’t take the insecurity and insanity of her logic as a whole, there are so many :dubious: sentences in her blog post; “I’m not judging you” (yes you are!) “If I was skinny with rock-hard abs and legs from here to Mexico, I’d want to take lots of pictures of myself. Mostly naked. I would want to post them with a nice filter on Instagram, and share them with whoever might see.” (But of course nevermind that some other shrill Christian blogger is no doubt finger-wagging at her impurity for tempting some poor helpless husband and troubling some Stepford Wife’s marraige!) “Protecting his eyes, protecting his heart.” (The goggles, they do nothing!) Not surprisingly there was quite a backlash against the blog post, with some funny responses [here](http://www.mommyish.com/2014/06/18/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs-post/) and a few other places (there was a great parody of her blog post that was very long-winded but I forgot the link). Check out the rest of her blog too, its a pretty heaping basket of loony in that condescending holier-than-thou Christian flavor. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/2 "2014-06-21T21:12:51Z")
Speaking on behalf of husbands everywhere: Yes we do! ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/3 "2014-06-21T21:19:21Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > Speaking on behalf of husbands everywhere: > Yes we do! Agree. ---
**Author:** ![Zeldar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@Zeldar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeldar)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/4 "2014-06-21T21:21:44Z")
Pitchers, or it’s a lie. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/5 "2014-06-21T21:27:16Z")
This is how the [Burqa](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burqa) came into being. Men are perfectly capable of disciplining their own minds. Don’t let them off the hook and hang the burden on women. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/6 "2014-06-21T21:31:43Z")
if your husband’s eyes are wandering then a good swift kick in the nuts will cause him to pay attention to you. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/7 "2014-06-21T21:40:37Z")
So, her husband, cruises over to instagram or tumblr and finds a picture with a little too much sideboob for her tastes and it’s the poster’s fault? Plenty of kids have been caught looking at a Playboy or sneaking a peek at some online porn and I don’t think anyone has ever blamed the photographer or the model for that. Blame your husband for looking or deal with your marital problems if that’s the bigger issue instead of projecting. Or, even better, get over your own insecurities. If some other girl is hotter than you, it’s not her fault and it’s not fair to blame her for that. Whether it’s because she was born with it, she works out more than you, she wears different makeup, she has more confidence…whatever, trying to make her feel bad about it, IMO, makes you the jerk and to make it worse, she passes it off as protecting her husband. I’m sure her husband is thrilled that he has this loving wife to protect him from all these 24 year old girls with iphones and tumblr accounts. ETA, [here’s](https://www.facebook.com/applesandbandaidsblog1) her FB page, it’s all God stuff. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/8 "2014-06-21T22:10:54Z")
> [@](#): > > Again, I am not faulting you. And by no means am I faulting him. This man of mine diverts his eyes from whatever questionable images flash on the screen before him. But sometimes the temptation is too much. > > After Memorial Day, I noticed so much skin on social media that I half-yelled a warning to him as I ran out the door one morning. It’s summertime, honey! Beware the beach pics and half nude girls on Instagram! And like that, he was in solitary confinement from all virtual community for the next two days. > > Protecting his eyes, protecting his heart. lol ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/9 "2014-06-21T22:23:11Z")
This poor woman’s husband. > [@](#): > > Mostly I’m looking at your legs asking myself, How are there seriously people without cellulite??? > > And then I continue scrolling through my feed until something else seems interesting. > > I doubt my husband is so lucky. Actually, I know it’s next to impossible to take in images like those and erase them from his mind. Because our men are much less emotional and are much more visual. And as quickly as I can forget your picture, it is filed away in his mind, ready to be pulled back out whenever he so chooses. ---
**Author:** ![donkeyoatey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@donkeyoatey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/donkeyoatey)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/10 "2014-06-21T22:29:11Z")
hmmmm. I think she is trying to break out of her shell with a sense of humor. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/11 "2014-06-21T22:34:29Z")
I hope she’s realizing that she’s blaming other people for her insecurity. “Those pretty girls are making it harder for me to love who I am!” Does she realize how stupid that sounds? ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/12 "2014-06-21T22:53:05Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > I hope she’s realizing that she’s blaming other people for her insecurity. “Those pretty girls are making it harder for me to love who I am!” Does she realize how stupid that sounds? That’s exactly what’s she’s doing. Also, **Monstro** and I are agreeing on something! What else will this woman bring about? Cats and Dogs in harmony? Oh the Humanity! 😛 It sounds like she has so many hangups about her own body and sexuality its easier to rationize it by blaming everybody else. I was discussing it with my wife (who has no problem with me seeing other women’s boobs; she’s more concerned what I’m gonna _do_ with them in real life to worry about me ogling other women) and we came to the conclusion that she’s rationalizing the possibility that her husband might be less-than-perfect. Think about it: If your husband was a Perfect Christian Husband, he would never stray or be tempted in his marraige. So if he does, it couldn’t possibly be his fault, because this woman would never admit to marrying a guy that turned out to be a ‘lemon’. Thus, any infidelity, or temptation of it, must be coming from other people. In this woman’s case, it makes more sense to her to appeal to all of Facebook to stop taking tempting photos of themselves, rather than, you know, talk to your husband about how you’re getting older, and feeling insecure about your body. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/13 "2014-06-21T22:57:49Z")
> [@Incubus](#): > > In this woman’s case, it makes more sense to her to appeal to all of Facebook to stop taking tempting photos of themselves, rather than, you know, talk to your husband about how you’re getting older, and feeling insecure about your body. Oh no, according to the blog post itself going to her husband “begging for affirmation” is something she does on the regular. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/14 "2014-06-21T22:58:24Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > I hope she’s realizing that she’s blaming other people for her insecurity. “Those pretty girls are making it harder for me to love who I am!” Does she realize how stupid that sounds? Obviously not. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/15 "2014-06-21T23:00:05Z")
This sounds like one husband who in particular needs to see some boobs. If I lived next door I’d tell me wife to flash him. ---
**Author:** ![Lobohan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobohan/32/79_2.png) [@Lobohan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobohan)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/16 "2014-06-21T23:05:21Z")
It doesn’t matter where you build up your appetite, as long as you eat at home. ---
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/17 "2014-06-21T23:19:26Z")
> [@Lobohan](#): > > It doesn’t matter where you build up your appetite, as long as you eat at home. The Jesus does disagree. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/18 "2014-06-21T23:21:29Z")
Who lays there in her man’s arms and wonders if he is thinking about somebody else? Who cares what he is thinking anyway, it’s not like women don’t think about somebody else from time to time. If you have so little trust of your man that you are afraid of him seeing another woman’s boobs then the kindest thing you can do is set him free to find a woman who thinks a little more highly of him. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/19 "2014-06-21T23:26:28Z")
> [@Lobohan](#): > > It doesn’t matter where you build up your appetite, as long as you eat at home. My Mom used to say “It’s OK to read the menu as long as you come home for dinner” ---
**Author:** ![Mrs.Cake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/2acd7d/32.png) [@Mrs.Cake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs.Cake)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324/20 "2014-06-21T23:32:33Z")
It would be a sad lookout for my husband if mine were the only boobs he could ogle. Not that there is anything wrong with them, mind you, but with all the candy in the store window, he can at least window-shop. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/691324.md?page=2)