# My Husband Has Bladder Cancer \[sad update\]
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [January 7, 2017, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524 "2017-01-07T14:41:12Z")
**Posts on this page:** 4
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### Author:  [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)
#### Post date: [April 16, 2017, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524/442 "2017-04-16T11:25:15Z")
> [@Pai325](#):
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> And part of it is finding out that most people have great intentions, but really lousy follow through. At the time they promise they will call, be there, arrange something, or whatever, they really do mean it.
Yes, I’m aware of that.
That’s one of the reasons I couldn’t keep him at home longer - people are unreliable. I had no reliable help that could be depended upon.
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### Author:  [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)
#### Post date: [April 16, 2017, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524/443 "2017-04-16T13:13:48Z")
Yes, unfortunately I found out that same lesson the hard way, as well.
But we’re here. We may only be pixels on the screen, but we’re here.
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### Author:  [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)
#### Post date: [April 20, 2017, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524/444 "2017-04-20T20:13:31Z")
> [@Morgyn](#):
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> Aw, jeez. I am so sorry to hear this. People can be very inconsiderate.
Seconded :(.
And holidays are just tough even if you’ve got people around. My mother died just before Christmas, after a fairly brief final decline (after 2 years of lung cancer) and while it was tough the last few days, the only time I came close to losing it was a few weeks later, just after Christmas - it was a holiday she’s loved, and we’d always spent it with her.
So, yeah - the “new normal”, and it sucks, and it’s wrong, and it sucks :(.
These pixels are here for you too.
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### Author:  [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)
#### Post date: [April 20, 2017, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-has-bladder-cancer-sad-update/776524/445 "2017-04-20T20:23:32Z")
> [@Mama\_Zappa](#):
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> Seconded :(.
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> And holidays are just tough even if you’ve got people around. My mother died just before Christmas, after a fairly brief final decline (after 2 years of lung cancer) and while it was tough the last few days, the only time I came close to losing it was a few weeks later, just after Christmas - it was a holiday she’s loved, and we’d always spent it with her.
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> So, yeah - the “new normal”, and it sucks, and it’s wrong, and it sucks :(.
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> These pixels are here for you too.
Some of those really painful associations can hang on for a long time. I lost my father shortly before Christmas and my first husband shortly after Christmas (six years apart) and both adored the holiday. I’m finally to where Christmas isn’t just something I’m trying to endure, but I think I will always associate it with them. Grief is a funny beast, and it is such an individual process.
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