# My husband is seriously ill **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 13, 2025, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019 "2025-09-13T18:02:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/1 "2025-09-13T18:02:31Z")
He probably has multiple myeloma, although we won’t know until after the biopsy he’s supposed to get today is analyzed. He’s currently hospitalized with acute kidney problems. He was supposed to be scanned to diagnose his back pain (which looked like myeloma) when the accompanying blood work prompted his doctor to tell him to get admitted via the emergency department. Any advice, war stories, experiences, or just emotional support would be appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![Karen\_Lingel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/karen_lingel/32/18649_2.png) [@Karen\_Lingel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Karen_Lingel)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/2 "2025-09-13T18:11:03Z")
Sorry to hear this news. I hope you get the answers you are looking for. I’m pulling for both of you. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/3 "2025-09-13T18:12:57Z")
I’m really sorry to hear that. Best of luck to him and to you. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/4 "2025-09-13T18:15:42Z")
I’m hoping for healing and I offer my emotional support.🫂 ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/5 "2025-09-13T18:16:00Z")
I’m very sorry. Holding you and your family in my heart. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/6 "2025-09-13T18:16:08Z")
I’m so sorry to hear this ---
**Author:** ![Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/prof.pepperwinkle/32/13627_2.png) [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prof.Pepperwinkle)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/7 "2025-09-13T18:22:52Z")
So sorry to hear it. Hope it turns out well for you. ---
**Author:** ![nelliebly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nelliebly/32/5422_2.png) [@nelliebly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nelliebly)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/8 "2025-09-13T18:25:55Z")
I’m so sorry you and your husband got such jolting health news. I don’t have any personal experience, but I’ll pass along something my cancer surgeon told me that was a big help: if you google the research on cancer, remember that research is proceeding so fast that even recently published studies (which typically began at least 5 years ago) are already outdated and tend to show worse outcomes. I found this to be true. Your’e surrounded in spirit by people who care about you. I’m one of them. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Mouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mighty_mouse/32/7776_2.png) [@Mighty\_Mouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Mouse)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/9 "2025-09-13T18:29:40Z")
Oh dear, sorry to hear this. All to best to him and you as you navigate this. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/10 "2025-09-13T18:42:31Z")
So sorry to hear this. I hope the news is the best it can be. ---
**Author:** ![whitetho](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whitetho/32/1059_2.png) [@whitetho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whitetho)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/11 "2025-09-13T18:43:39Z")
I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma three years ago. According to my doctor, this disease is “treatable, but not curable”. In addition to daily medications, I have to go in once a month for injections. So far I have responded well to the treatments, to the point that I only have to see my doctor, for what so far have been routine follow-ups, every two months. I never had any kidney issues. The only time I was hospitalized was at the start when I had back surgery, because the disease had caused two spinal fractures. So, overall, not fun but there are lots of much worse diseases ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/12 "2025-09-13T18:53:19Z")
Best wishes to you and family. ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/13 "2025-09-13T19:00:24Z")
Here to help in any way possible. You need only ask. I know so well the pain that attends an event that changes your life in an instant. You have my empathy, sorrow and best hopes for the situation you face, and may the outcome be the very best in the circumstances. Big hugs to you, @puzzlegal. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/14 "2025-09-13T19:04:44Z")
That’s terrifying. My best wishes and hopes go out to the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/15 "2025-09-13T19:07:18Z")
So sorry to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/16 "2025-09-13T19:38:42Z")
That’s a real stroke of bad luck. I’m sorry you both get to go through this. We’re all here for you both. As last as much as imaginary friends can be. 🙂 Having been the spouse of the guest of honor at a cancer diagnosis I’ll say the whirlwind of fear & confusion can be overwhelming at first. Reality will be better than that. Trust me. I’ll also echo @nelliebly’s wise words. Stuff has been changing for the better very quickly in much of cancer care. Googling even professional sources of information can be an exercise in doomscrolling now-obsolete info. You do want to get well-informed. You don’t need to do that this week. {{Hugs}}. For real. ---
**Author:** ![Reply](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/reply/32/15952_2.png) [@Reply](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reply)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/17 "2025-09-13T19:44:48Z")
Hang in there. I’m sorry for what you’re going through, and I’m glad you have each other! Wishing you the best \<3 ---
**Author:** ![peedin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/peedin/32/14095_2.png) [@peedin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peedin)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/18 "2025-09-13T19:57:54Z")
I’m sorry to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/19 "2025-09-13T21:06:40Z")
Many virtual hugs to you and Puzz-man. This is awful news. Keep us updated. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2025, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019/20 "2025-09-13T21:08:17Z")
Ugh, sorry to hear this. Thinking of you [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-is-seriously-ill/1023019.md?page=2)