# My husband wants to move **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 29, 2000, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190 "2000-02-29T15:39:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/21 "2000-03-01T03:08:00Z")
melanietarrant, there is something called the Visiting Nurses Association. We use them a lot. They are great. They can come by her house every day & bring her meals, talk with her, bathe her if she needs, etc. Free, paid for from Medicare. ---
**Author:** ![Edlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8797f3/32.png) [@Edlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edlyn)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/22 "2000-03-01T03:26:00Z")
What wonderful advice Manda Jo! Your ideas are mature, thoughtful and reasonable. Everyone else seemed quick to jump on the negative bandwagon instead of even considering the positive opportunities that may await Melanie and her family. Melanie: Perhaps your husband would agree to spend some time in Florida after an time spent in Terre Haute. You may also find an enriching friendship with your husband’s grandmother when you get to know one another. A little over a year ago I moved across the country away from all of my family. Though I miss them very much, I’d do it again in a heartbeat. It’s been a wonderful adventure. * * * You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims. -Harriet Woods- ---
**Author:** ![Edlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8797f3/32.png) [@Edlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edlyn)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/23 "2000-03-01T03:33:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by handy: > **melanietarrant, there is something called the Visiting Nurses Association. We use them a lot. They are great. They can come by her house every day & bring her meals, talk with her, bathe her if she needs, etc. Free, paid for from Medicare.** Free? For whom? Where does Medicare get it’s money? * * * You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims. -Harriet Woods- ---
**Author:** ![Edlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8797f3/32.png) [@Edlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edlyn)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/24 "2000-03-01T03:36:00Z")
[Sigh] Where does Medicare get _its_ money? ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/25 "2000-03-01T06:49:00Z")
melanie, I’m going to sound like a dittohead too. Your husband sounds like a caring man towards his grandma, but his first loyalty is to you, and the family he has made with you. Your children have important relationships with all of your family where you all now live, to tear them away for someone who has made it plain to you that she doesn’t like you, is bound to have a negative impact on your kids, not to mention putting your marriage at risk. Your husband isn’t listening to his wife, and no matter how much he cares for his grandma, this ought not be the issue that tears you two apart. Don’t denigrate yourself and the job you do, there isn’t anyone who could take care of your kids with the same love, care and compassion. When they are in school, you’ll still be involved in homework, school projects, the PTA, and when the kids are sick, you’ll need to be there. You don’t get a second chance at their childhoods. Don’t give that away on an emotional plea when the grandma isn’t the one who is asking for the attention. Don’t be afraid to stick to your guns with your ‘no’. It is no less valid than HIS ‘yes’. Maybe he’ll take you more seriously, at least, I hope so. * * * Judy * * * “I only use 10% or less of what I study. It’s a waist. sined, Dropout” Up The Down Stair Case ---
**Author:** ![neutron\_star](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/51bf81/32.png) [@neutron\_star](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neutron_star)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 9:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/26 "2000-03-01T09:41:00Z")
> [@](#): > > … Bryan Adams. We reprogrammed them to be entertainers. Ummmmmmmm… > [@](#): > > \ _phew_ * * * I am the user formerly known as puffington. ---
**Author:** ![tenspeedjohn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/439d5e/32.png) [@tenspeedjohn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tenspeedjohn)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/27 "2000-03-01T11:11:00Z")
Sounds like mid life crisis. Tell him to buy a Harley instead. * * * If chickens could pee, they would be wet on the bottom. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2000, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190/28 "2000-03-01T16:40:00Z")
This kind of thing really eats into marriages… ‘Where does Medicare get its money?’ Why from the people who worked for thirty years paying into the fund. But let’s not go there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-husband-wants-to-move/14190.md?page=1)