# My life has just got freaking insanely surreal.

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [April 8, 2002, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-life-has-just-got-freaking-insanely-surreal/102423 "2002-04-08T04:01:03Z")\
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**Author:** ![flyboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/4da419/32.png) [@flyboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flyboy)\
**Post date:** [May 10, 2002, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-life-has-just-got-freaking-insanely-surreal/102423/21 "2002-05-10T17:38:55Z")

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I’ve sort of been where you are. I was in deep love with a close friend for many years. She liked me, too, but apparently not enough to commit to anything more than friendship. Unrequited love is a horrible thing. Sometimes time cures it and sometimes it doesn’t.

If you ask me, your choices are pretty clear:

- Continue with the status quo, which seems pretty ugly.
- End the relationship. Either cut things off without saying anything, or tell her how you feel in order to get some closure.
- Tell her how you feel and try to put your feelings behind you so you can remain (better) friends.

I think the last option, while the most tempting for a guy like me, is the absolute worst. That’s the one I tried. I highly recommend the second one. It sucks, but I really think it’s the most emotionally and mentally healthy thing you can do.

Anyway, good luck and welcome to the boards!

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