# My little boy who loves girls **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 29, 2003, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287 "2003-10-29T19:27:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Ruiniform](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9de053/32.png) [@Ruiniform](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruiniform)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/21 "2003-10-30T01:19:50Z")
It seems a little knee-jerk to ‘diagnose’ him as gay, doesn’t it? I mean, no wonder people are so stressed out these days, with this kind of over-analysis. ---
**Author:** ![Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laughing_Lagomorph)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/22 "2003-10-30T01:29:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by autz \* > \*\*… > > Why would a gay boy not want to be around other boys, if they are who he is attracted to? \*\* I’m not sure 6 year olds of any gender or orientation are “attracted to” anyone in the way adults usually mean it. I am straight but I don’t remember being “attracted to” girls at the age of six, at least not the way I was when I was 14. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/23 "2003-10-30T02:37:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ruiniform \* > \*\*It seems a little knee-jerk to ‘diagnose’ him as gay, doesn’t it? I mean, no wonder people are so stressed out these days, with this kind of over-analysis. \*\* :rolleyes: It was in jest. Did the “transference” quip not give it away or was that too subtle? ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/24 "2003-10-30T03:42:23Z")
When I was a little girl, I was boy crazy. I turned out to be a major slut. KIDDING!!! I do really like men though, I just always “knew” that I’d be married and have kids, and be “in love” someday. Plus, guys are just more fun to hang out with. I hung out with mostly guy friends my whole life. I’d have maybe one “best girlfriend” but tons of little boyfriends. In High School, almost all of my best friends were boys. And it’s not as if I were a tomboy either, I do love cars and stuff, but I’m a “dress up/frilly/girlie girl”. Once I got out into the workaday world, most of my jobs have been in male dominated fields. I wouldn’t worry, maybe he’ll be like me, and just “know” what it is that he likes!!! ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/25 "2003-10-30T03:47:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Aries28 \* > \*\*Female here. I never played with girls when I was younger. I always sat with boys at lunch. I always played with boys on the playground. I always sat by boys in class. > > I’m 28 now. The majority of my close friends are male. I have a very hard time maintaining friendships with females. > > If I am at any function and there is one female and one male present, odds are by the end of the day I will have struck up a conversation with the male. > > I was not a tomboy at all and I’m not now. > > I would let him hang with kids he’s comfortable with. If he’s fine with it, then what is the problem? \*\* Funny you should mention that. It took me until well into my 30s to start making “real” rather than casual friends with other women. I’d never really liked the majority of them when I was a child on up through high school (with one or two exceptions) and even in my 20s and early 30s I was still pretty wary around women. I remember seeing a special once on a town in New Hampshire with a large population of lesbian women. One of the newscasters asked a woman “why do you prefer women”? The woman answered “because they’re more trustworthy”. I Honestly almost choked on what I was drinking. “TRUSTWORTHY”??? They obviously never met any of the catty backstabbing bitches I went to school with!! ---
**Author:** ![brainfizz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/da6949/32.png) [@brainfizz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainfizz)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/26 "2003-10-30T11:29:57Z")
My first thought was, “yeah, he’s gay” but I guess you can’t tell for sure until he starts chasing the boys when playing kiss chase. ---
**Author:** ![RobertP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8e8cbc/32.png) [@RobertP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RobertP)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/27 "2003-10-30T12:49:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by brainfizz \* > \*\*My first thought was, “yeah, he’s gay” but I guess you can’t tell for sure until he starts chasing the boys when playing kiss chase. \*\* there’s a _kiss_ chase? damn, there’s another thing I was deprived of… ---
**Author:** ![brainfizz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/da6949/32.png) [@brainfizz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainfizz)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/28 "2003-10-30T12:55:52Z")
OMG! You’ve never played kiss chase? Yes, you’ve been deprived of one of the great pleasures in life! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/29 "2003-10-30T13:10:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \* > \*\*Funny you should mention that. It took me until well into my 30s to start making “real” rather than casual friends with other women. I’d never really liked the majority of them when I was a child on up through high school (with one or two exceptions) and even in my 20s and early 30s I was still pretty wary around women. > > I remember seeing a special once on a town in New Hampshire with a large population of lesbian women. One of the newscasters asked a woman “why do you prefer women”? > > The woman answered “because they’re more trustworthy”. I Honestly almost choked on what I was drinking. > > “TRUSTWORTHY”??? They obviously never met any of the catty backstabbing bitches I went to school with!! \*\* Oh God, I hear that!! I went to an all-girls high school and was miserable the entire time thanks to the two-facedness and bitchiness of my class mates. It’s taken me years to get over that and develop a couple of close female friendships, but most of my friends are still guys and I still find harder to trust women. In answer to the OP, well, I spent most of my childhood hanging out with boys doing “boy things”, and I’m straight. But out of those boys, the only one who remained my friend after we all went through the whole “sex segregation” thing turned out to be gay. When he came out at 17 I wasn’t in the least bit surprised. I remembered being about 10, sat on the grass making daisy chains with him, and realising even then that he was somehow “different”. ---
**Author:** ![intheblink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f4b2a3/32.png) [@intheblink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/intheblink)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/30 "2003-10-30T14:00:38Z")
He’s a romantic, and all male. He’ll fall in love with girls many times in school. And he will marry young 18-20. ---
**Author:** ![Susanann](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ab992/32.png) [@Susanann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Susanann)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/31 "2003-10-30T14:53:01Z")
What would you do if you had a daughter who always preferred to play with boys?. If her best friends are always boys? When she lists who she wants to invite to her birthday parties, it’s 90% boys? What if she only wanted to sit next to boys to eat lunch at school? ---
**Author:** ![brainfizz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/da6949/32.png) [@brainfizz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainfizz)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/32 "2003-10-30T15:38:29Z")
I invited my 2 best mates and every girl in my year to my 8th birthday… lined up all the girls and played “who can kiss **brainfizz** the best”. (I went through precocious puberty though… had to shave every day by age 9!) So, inviting 90% girls to parties doesn’t mean he’s gay… except, I never played with any of the girls much other than to bully them, pull their hair, kiss them, etc. The only guys that actually did play with the girls both turned out gay… Still, could be a phase. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/33 "2003-10-30T17:50:40Z")
What is this… “kiss chase”? Obviously I grew up deprived as well. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![CakeOrDeath666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b19c9b/32.png) [@CakeOrDeath666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CakeOrDeath666)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/34 "2003-10-30T19:19:03Z")
Oh my God!!! I’m sorry, I am in no way racist, but it always seems to me that in america if a kid start doing something remotely out of the normal, you think he’s going to grow up and be gay, or need therapy, or medication. I’m a teenage girl. I’ve always preferred have boys as friends, but i’m not gay! Seriously, don’t worry about it, everyone’s different, and maybe he just think that girls are more fun than boys. Also, I did work experience in a nursery school once, and there wera a couple of boys who preferred to play with the little girls. they were perfectly normal kids, they just didn’t want to play all the rough games that the boys play. You have absolutely nothing to worry about! ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/35 "2003-10-30T21:01:41Z")
> [@](#): > > So my questions are: …Should I be concerned? Depends on what you mean. If you mean “should I try to intervene and get him to play with boys more instead”, hell no. If you mean “should I blithely assume that this will never cause him a moment’s distress”, hell no to that, too. > [@](#): > > Does anyone know any boys who were like that? ::raises hand:: > [@](#): > > What happened when they got older? [read and find out.](http://home.earthlink.net/~ahunter/Same_Closet_Diff_Door/hpsissy.html) > [@](#): > > Were are men on this board like this as children? Didn’t you just ask this? Sorry, I guess that would depend on who is reading, wouldn’t it…anyway, as I said, that would be me, for one. > [@](#): > > What does it mean? He has good taste in friends? Seriously, read my article. It’s the only thing I ever got printed 🙂 and while it may not be applicable in every way it may shed some light for you. ---
**Author:** ![bughunter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@bughunter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bughunter)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/36 "2003-10-31T01:22:58Z")
**lieu** , I’ll see your Frederick Loewe and raise you a Danny Elfman: _I love little girls they make me feel so good I love little girls they make me feel so bad When they’re around they make me feel Like I’m the only guy in town I love little girls they make me feel so good_ ---
**Author:** ![shrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ab992/32.png) [@shrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shrew)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/37 "2003-10-31T01:55:33Z")
One of my current pupils is like this. He’s 16 now, but his mother says that when he was little, he played exclusively with girls, scorned boys, and was obsessed with silk. Now he hunts, fishes, works on cars, and absolutely **LOVES** the ladies. He’s an average hetero Georgia boy. I can understand your curiosity, but I’m not sure I’d try to make any predictions based on his current behavior. ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/38 "2003-10-31T05:30:44Z")
Ahh, Danny. You wonderful pedophile. Gotta love him. I hated girls growing up. They were so “high maintenence”. Dolls were for running over with hot wheels. I was a super tomboy. I begged my mother to let me cut my hair short from the age of four. (She relented at the age of eight and I’ve never grown it out again). As an infant, I would cry when my mother would put me in dresses. (This is before I could talk). I think I’m hardwired. I got to college and tried to convince myself I was a lesbian/bisexual. However, I’ve only had (have) feelings for one girl. I think I wanted to BE her rather than BE WITH her. Confusing… but so is most sexuality in college. Then, I met a wonderful man. I am very much in love. I still have short hair. Don’t worry too much about your son’s behavior at age six. Let him be him. Worry about the consequences (if he gets teased, etc) if they happen. Just let him be him. ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/39 "2003-10-31T05:56:07Z")
My whole life I have had more female friends than male. Although I know I’ve picked up a few feminine mannerisms, I’m pretty dang heterosexual (only males I find attractive are Owen Wilson and, more recently, Taye Diggs, and I don’t want to have sex with them). ---
**Author:** ![Mudshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Mudshark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mudshark)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/40 "2003-10-31T13:13:55Z")
I’ve always had more female friends than male, and I’m straight. I don’t think it is anything to worry about. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287.md?page=3)